i have a friend who recently moved out of her parent's house, she's18 yrs old by the way. Anyway the point is that she has been homeless ever since and she always gets kicked out of the houses she has lived in. she knows perfectly well that my dad would let her stay at my house but i really don't want her here because she's dirty,childish, has no manners and is very disrepectful to my mom...recently she got kicked out again(for like the 6th time)and doesn't have anymore places to go to, now she's asking me if she could come over to stay at my house i don't wanna be rude or anything what should i tell her for her not to take it the wrong way..?? PS:Sorry for the long explanation i tried making it shorter...
2006-10-14 09:35:16 · 16 answers · asked by The Taste U can See 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
You need to be honest with her. If shes a true friend then she'll understand. Let her know that your afraid that if she moves in it might ruin your friendship. If you do let her stay make sure that you lay down the rules and make sure that she knows that she has to follow them or she'll have to go. She needs to get a job and then she can find an apartment or something like that. She needs to have a place of her own instead of leaving off of everyone else to be honest with you. Good luck.
2006-10-14 09:45:03 · answer #1 · answered by Heather A 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She needs to know that you are there for her, but not footing the bill, if you get what I'm, saying.
Red flags all around, being booted out of all these places that people so kindly allowed her to live. She is a user of everything that is in her path.
Find, a YMCA in or close to your home, and see if they have a place that could put her up. Are you ready to end the friend ship? Because you already know the answer to this question, it will happen if she moved into your house. 18 she should be able to have her own place and she could be as dirty as she wants, ya know. I, wouldn't allow anybody to be rude to my mother either.....good luck to you. You wouldn't be rude because you are speaking the truth. Anyways Good Day to You!
2006-10-14 16:43:15 · answer #2 · answered by Dimples 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dearest Luci.
Although my hearts reaches out, your friend is 18 and suppose to be an adult. It is time she takes responsibility for her actions and not guilt you into her manipulations.Her responsibility is to behave in an adult and in a clean fashion. When it comes down to "brass tacts", she is not your responsibility. The one thing in my life is I do not tolerate liar's, thieves, manipulators or con artists. I, too, I have tried to help people in the last 6 years of my life and they have all turned out the same(L,T,M, C). They have much older. When I think this one will be different, it always ends up the same, no matter. I have begged off in trying to be a shining life preserver for others. I have learned the hard way to say NO. The choice is yours. I would be honest with yourself and your friend. Remember, you have your own life to deal with and it isn't always easy. Having some else's influence will make crazy. I am talking from experience.
Take Care and Good Luck,
O'hock
2006-10-14 16:58:44 · answer #3 · answered by orcahock 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't want someone staying at my house if they were disrespectful to my mom, but you don't want to turn your back either. I think I would tell her that if she stayed there that there are rules. If she can't show manners and respect while staying in your house then it's best she doesn't even go there, because you don't want to have problems within your friendship. To be honest... I think it's not going to work and you will end up not being friends anymore.
2006-10-14 16:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by Marla C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her the truth, it is not being rude not wanting this person in your home. You don't want her treating your family badly which seems to be her pattern. If you want to "help" her check into some homeless shelters around your area and also places that are hiring (fast food and retail places are looking to hire this time of year).
2006-10-14 16:37:24 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you say shes your friend just have her come stay with you cause if she has no other place to go but tell her that she needs to clean up her act. . . Lay down rules with her have your parents lay down rules if she has NO other place to go she may respond in a better way then you think
2006-10-14 16:50:04 · answer #6 · answered by Marilyn S 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I think she seems like the type to take it in the wrong way no matter how you tell her. Maybe you should reconsider being her "friend". Do you really need someone like that in your life? Good luck.
2006-10-14 16:56:19 · answer #7 · answered by Tania 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would probably tell her that she has to do this, this,and so, if she wants to stay in my house know what I mean?
Tell her she HAS to be clean, respect the house, and the people living in it.
2006-10-14 16:38:57 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just come right out and tell her! She will just have to find a place that helps out the homeless!
2006-10-14 16:38:50 · answer #9 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id say u give her a chance to stay over BUT tell her the truth..tell her what u think about her nd also tell her that u didnt want to hurt her feelings but its just the way u feel.. anyways..good luck!
2006-10-14 16:42:00 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋