When did you know that you were g/l/t? I realize that it's probably a stupid question, but I'm so curious. I have had friends in the past that were g/l/t, but it seemed like everyone hounded them with questions not to be friends but with a distinct distain in their tone, so I didn't ask because I didn't want to make them feel anymore unwelcome than they may have already. I have a love for everyone and it hurts and pisses me off when I see unfair treatment and prejudice towards anyone for any reason.
Gee. I don't know why I go on these tirades, but oh well. ;)
2006-10-14 09:30:46 · 14 answers · asked by baabaababy77 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
:) That's fair. I was about 6 when I had my first 'crush', so that's when I knew I was straight. Sorry for asking such a doofy question. :)
2006-10-17 00:30:15 · update #1
I knew I was different from a very young age, and I think I really became aware of that difference at or around 5 or 6, when I entered public school. At first, I thought I was gay, because I would have these terrible crushes on the boys but feel absolutely nothing for the girls.
I later figured out that I was transsexual, and not gay (which is another flavor of queerness, but I digress). I knew I was different from other boys, but I didn't have that vocabulary to express it properly.
It's like- when did you first find out that you were attracted to boys? You probably knew from very young, but didn't know what to call it, or probably even care, since being straight is not given any attention in this society- being gay or transsexual is.
I was not offended in the least at this question- it was a good question. Very few people ask this- they just assume it is a "choice" or a "lifestyle".
Let me ask you this- could you consciously be attracted to your own sex, even if you are absolutely not interested, under pain of humiliation or physical beatings?
It's probably no more in your nature to be gay that it is in my nature to be a man.
2006-10-14 10:23:06 · answer #1 · answered by mageapprentice 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I knew I was gay from a very young age, I wan never exposed to the community untill i was 18 but I knew since I was 7 or 8 that i was different. I mean while other boys were playing baseball or football, I donned my first pair of dance shoes and took dance lessons. while other boys were listening for what ever's hot, I begged and cired for my mothert to but me the "Phantom of the Opera" OCR. While other kids were playing what ever they were playing, I was sketching my first collection and learning to sew.
Yes I wonder to this day how my parent didn't know...But they love me. And i turned out great, now while the boyswho were picking on me are pumping gas, I'm jetting off to Europe and Asia to oversee a stadium construction. While they're flipping burgers, I'm strutting my collection down the runway for head of states. and while they wonder how they're gonna support a wife and kids, I'm watching the cash roll in from my investments. So I don't really care when straight guys make fun of me, I know I've done more and have achieved more.
2006-10-14 09:43:18 · answer #2 · answered by Tsar 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have know since i was like 7 now im 14 going to be 15 in nov11 and i know for a fact that i am a lesbian i have been with about 6 guys and i know guys are not what i want but when i started coming out to friends and family the didn't believe me cause i dont look gay i look str8 they think im just joking around
2006-10-14 10:04:37 · answer #3 · answered by HI!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew I was different when I was young but didn't know what it was. Growing up I went through many many men sexually trying to find that right one but I was always so shy and felt so intimidated with men. My best friends are men and always will be but sexually I just wasn't interested in them that way. I found out later in life that I was gay after being married for 17 years and then meeting my soul mate whom we've been together now for 14 years. I've never been happier in my life. I don't worry about the ignorant comments I read because reality is this. The children of today are going to be running our world one day, these children are growing up in the gay lifestyle some of them are being raised by two mommies or two daddies. They are very open to the lifestyle and it is going to be them who stop the discrimination of gay and lesbian rights and marriage...This I know for sure. We are going to be equal to or majority to heterosexual marriages one day. Thank you for your support hun. No question is a stupid question, I wish more people would be more open and ask.
2006-10-14 12:27:08 · answer #4 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, a note. This is probably THE best venue to ask this question. In and of itself, it's not offensive, but it's annoying as hell after awhile because it's asked so often, and no one ever asks you "so when did you know you were straight?". So...go you for technically only asking people who want to answer you.
In 5th grade, I was in Cub scouts. One of the leaders was a younger guy, and there was...akwardness there. I was certain, and more comfortable, by the time soph. year of highschool rolled around. I resisted it for that long.
2006-10-14 17:32:22 · answer #5 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hmm.. I think your bangs from your haircut combined with your glasses might be a little too heavy on your face. It covers up your eyes. I would say to change your hair a little; the first picture where your hair is swept to the side looks nice. I mean with your hair pulled back you look so different. You aren't atocious ;). Another thing I would tell you to try is using eyeliner. I'm asian too so I have the same eyes and using eyeliner on the bottom line of your eyes looks great. And some mascara will really make them pop! Youtube has some good videos on how to do makeup on asian eyes. One more thing is to smile more in your pictures!
2016-03-18 09:36:39 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I knew that I was gay at the age of 13 but I refuse to accept it or think of myself as gay. I was scared of people's reactions towards me because I had felt like a complete unwanted outcast in society. Before the age of 13 I had a liking for boys and didn't understand it. I think I felt different around 6.
2006-10-14 09:39:39 · answer #7 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I first realized I was a CrossDresser at age 13, but like so many others kept it to myself and felt I was the only guy in the world like it, so I felt very out of place and knew I couldnt talk to anyone about it for fear of rejection, but later in years I have opened up to some friends and been able to feel acceptance there, I even went out dressed once on Halloween about 8 yrs ago, but still feel awkward about going out dressed, Oh Well,
2006-10-14 17:08:42 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, you remember when you were very little and all the boys didn't like the girls and the girl's didn't like the boys? Later on as I grew older, although I stopped the little kid "hate" thing, I never became attracted or interested in them. I've always known what my attraction was, I didn't learn about the terminology or that there were others like me until I was in my mid to late teens.
2006-10-14 09:41:37 · answer #9 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found out that I was attracted to girls at the age of 13. There was a lesbian in my school and she made me discover lesbianism, and love, and everything.
As for your friends, I think you can still ask...they will see that you don't do it to make them feel uncomfortable.
2006-10-14 15:14:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋