I've recently realized that the reasons why my relationship with my in-laws could be better is because I am not what they would like me to be. I'm speaking specifically of the females like Mother in law and Sister in law. If I am not catty, gossipy, have good manners, refuse to put down others, and try to generally talk about things of substance then I won't fit in. Surely I can just be me and one day they will realize that right? No other problems, husband is great, we are happy and don't have to see the trouble-makers very much.
2006-10-14 09:30:24 · 7 answers · asked by r_k_winters 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Don't change who u are just so u can fit into someone else's mold of what's acceptable. Just realize that u didn't marry your inlaws. U married your husband and if your marriage is great, that's all that matters. Besides, as u said, u don't have to see these people all the time...perhaps only during get togethers or holidays.
So, when u do see them, just try to get along as best as u can. Be civil and polite to them without compromising who u are.
2006-10-14 09:42:07 · answer #1 · answered by cheetah7 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The good thing here is that you don't have to see them very much. In that case, don't worry about it. Let 'em gossip and backbite all they want. Just be yourself.
If they profess themselves to be Christian, I see many possibilities to have some fun.
2006-10-14 09:41:42 · answer #2 · answered by Larry F 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what, i wouldnt even bother with woring about that, who cares what they oppiniate about you as long as you and your spouse are happy with the way yous each are thats all that matters. and if your spouse tries to change you just to keep them happy, let them know how wrong that is, yous are married, no longer at home w ma or pa. just the two of you.
2006-10-14 09:36:51 · answer #3 · answered by jackie_josefina23 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't worry about them, your husband is the only one that matters and if he's ok with you not getting along with them then just be yourself and leave them alone. that's what i've had to do with mine and my husband totally understands.
2006-10-14 09:37:45 · answer #4 · answered by Texas T 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not change who you really are to try and impress or make these people like you. If they don't like you for who you are, they aren't worth your time.
2006-10-14 09:34:37 · answer #5 · answered by ♥dream_angel♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
they are probing you for weakness
they will back off when they can't find a way in but they will always be there...circling like vultures.
2006-10-14 11:40:04 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
that is OK because that u can dump them all so do not gang around boys iny more
2006-10-14 09:35:37 · answer #7 · answered by Dakotah W 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋