How Do You Deal With Male Abuse?

Question

im a 34 DD and even though im always out with my month old baby men still seeme to whistle call me a slag or whore and sometimes even pinch my bum how do i deal with it?

I do not know the people who do this to me there sometimes very young or very old and often make other comments such as great **** which is not a compliment but very digrading i have not told me mam or dad but i can't say anything back as im mostly on my own with the baby and i dont want my baby picking up any swear words! Lol but it makes me feel very useless people doing this to me thanks for your advice!.x

Answer 1

stand up for urself, u dont have to swear at them just tell them to leave u alone, u have that right and dont let these disgusting excuses for human beings let u forget that. wouldnt u rather ur baby c u stand up for urself then take that abuse?

Answer 2

I used to have this problem, unfortunately. I don't know if it was for the same reason as you. Mine was because I was always so outgoing and friendly. I thought that I was not too friendly, but I decided to do an experiment. I dressed more modestly and behaved less friendly to strangers. Amazingly, most of the behavior that upset me, stopped. I can only conclude that my affect and dress was demonstrating to the men that I wanted their attention. I made a permanent change. No longer am I dealing with off-color remarks from men and certainly not pinches or pats. If they did touch me, inappropriately, I would file a complaint against them with the police. You should also. My best wishes to you. I hope things change for you so that your self-esteem can be better. You deserve it and your child needs a moma that has a high ideal of herself.

Answer 3

I don't know how tall are you, but I am short and cute Thai girl, I am facing almost the same situation like you, but not touching my body..*If they do* they will see me bigger than a bull!......my look is attracted abuser. people, children at school who get abused by those bust-rd....they has got the look and character of the victims...do you understand my English?.....
, I would advice..
1Ignore them...
2.building up your own body gard character.
3.once you have enough confidence then give them eyes contact
when they whistle or calling you again.
*But don't speak to them
it's depend on your situation.
but best to move to somewhere else.
REMEMBER...YOUR MIND IS MORE POWERFUL THAN ANYTHING....*I have been practising using my mind since I was 12 yrs old I had fight with boys...and when I was 29 yrs old untill now I have had a real fight with a real bully, he is my ex-husband, when I was in court again in July this year, I was on my own, I looked into his eyes...I have no fears...no worried....*Because I know I am a good person, I have done nothing wrong, and he is the one who wrong.....*And he knows it...so if guys who hasn't gone insane or have mental illness, they know that what they are doing is wrong...then they will be the one who afraid of you. :-)
Don't worry....you can do it, but remember the police will come after bad thing happened. so don't rely on the polices , you need to help yourself first. :-)

Answer 4

Dont take it and ask them to stop or insult them if nothing else go to customer service and complain if you are in the store. Your parents can't do anything about strangers in a store.

Stand up for yourself because you cant just let them get away with this behavior in front of your baby or your baby might learn that it is acceptable.

Answer 5

Some guys are real pigs. Try ignoring them; I know it's hard because you want to react, but you want to set a good example for your baby. If you always go out alone, try going out with friends. Strength in numbers; guys probably won't bother you if you aren't alone. Do not yell back to them; be the bigger person.

Answer 6

have them reported for sexual abuse if you go to the police you can have them for assault as well DO NOT PUT UP WITH THIS FROM THE LOWER LIFE FORM that gives us men a bad name there is some that would not do this sort of thing don,t be afraid to go to the police or this will carry on till some thing more serious happens

Answer 7

if you know any blokes that are a large build then get him to walk down the road with you while you point the guys out that have been harrasing you, make sure that the bullys see him looking right at them!
im sure they wont do it again, the threat of a big bloke staring at them is enough for most bullys!

Answer 8

You need to get this stopped now. It doesn't matter what boob / bum size you are, this kind of behaviour is totally unaccepable.
Is it the same people wach time? Do you know them? Can you report them to the police?

Answer 9

honey i dont know where u live, but here in nc, no guy is gonna grab me by any part of my body if i dont want. and if someone has the nerve to call me something, oh especially if my kids are with me, there are gonna be asses kicked, and it aint mine. you get some fighting and self esteem training, get some pepper spray & if they come up like their gonna do something you spray & run. youll be able to stand up for yourself and not take this anymore.

Answer 10

You should not put up with this, it is ridiculous. You really need to talk to someone to help you deal with this...you need support....*hug*...if this abuse is getting to the point where these morons think they can not only verbally abuse you but can physically abuse you too, then you need help putting it a stop to it before it goes further...take care