Well, one thing... Try to remember WHAT exactly got you thrown out of the relationship in the first place.
Wait a minute, you've got a 6 month old daughter? So this is pretty recent within the last 15 months... You may actually be able to save this relationship...
I assume she may be going through some sort of post pardum depression or mood swing. Were you insensitive to it? Did you miss some signs and blow up thinking she's being weird?
Maybe she feels awkward that she's having to change diapers again during this time of her life. Are you helping in any way around the house? Cleaning dishes, baby baths, diaper/feeding duty in the middle of the night?
The ticket is that if you haven't been doing it. DO it. Let her know that YOU support her as well as the baby... Your 8 year old daughter... Take time with her away from the house so that she doesn't become live in baby sitter OR 2nd mother... This is not a doll, this is a baby. She's not her sister's responsibility...
When the time comes that she starts to see you trying and starts forgiving you... Keep doing it until she can "resume" the responsibility... However, it would be nice for you to continue to do some things so that she doesn't feel like an incubator and a maid.
Drop the children off at a grandparents for a night and ROMANCE her. What did you used to do before you were married? Did she like to dance... Take her dancing... Did she like bowling? go bowling... You might treat her to spa treatment..
Show her that you are the man that she thought you'd be when you first married.
When she complains that she feels fat and bloated, tell her that you've never loved her more... Give her a neck massage... If her feet are killing her... Go get a tub of warm water and alcohol and rub her feet... Don't do it too often or she'll come to expect you to do it like you're her slave... You might get her a pillow for her to elevate her feet and ankles....
As an outsider and as little of information as provided, I could have been way off... you'd either have to give me more information or sit and ponder what's going on in her life to figure out what needs to be corrected...
Probably, you're not communicating on the same level... She's sending signals and you're on a different frequency and only gets pieces of the transmission.
2006-10-14 09:37:16
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answered by James B 5
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Yeah my daughter and I could win a look alike contest. I'm even considering entering one at our local mall on mothers day. She looks so much like my pictures as a kid that she's convinced that they are of her and people are always telling us how amazing the resemblence is.
2016-03-28 09:01:53
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answered by Heather 4
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