I would like to get some advice about being a better wife?

Question

I feel that I do everything right. I cook, clean, take care of his son. But I still feel like he doesnt really notice me except when it is that time at night.

I think I might have left out one important part. I am bi sexual and I think (well I know) that is one of the main reasons it is so hard for me to have sex with him at night. I feel like I wasnt ready to get married and I feel like all the pressure is on. Especially when my mom says that I look the worse she has every seen me and I am lonely all the time.

Answer 1

Dearest Girl. You shouldn't have married him and now you have to work out how to extract. If you love someone, it makes you happy. You can't WAIT to be alone with them. Marriage is not two people co-habiting with one worrying about if she does the domestic chores properly! That's a sham.
You deserve to be happy. Acknowledge that and move on.

Answer 2

If things aren't going well, go to marriage counseling. Otherwise, just do all the things you think you should do: cook, clean, be supportive of your husband, it's a give and take relationship. Remember why you got married in the first place. Always try to be open, honest and communicate with each other. It's very important. Does he know you're bi sexual? As far as sex goes, make sure you're taking care of each others needs as well. I hope this helped. Good luck to you.

Answer 3

It's not about being a better wife it's about you feeling better about yourself. I guarantee if you felt good about yourself then he would feel good about you. He may notice you and your being so hard on yourself and that constant doubt is making you believe that he's doubting you. It's always easy to believe that someone else doesn't appreciate you but you need to learn to appreciate yourself. Maybe you weren't ready for marriage but you married him and most likely love him if not you would not be asking this question. As for you being bi-sexual you need not think about anyone else other than yourself then your husband.

Answer 4

Start talking more at the dinner table. Have a topic perhaps. "What is one thing you are most grateful for" or "One thing you learned today".
Learn a new hobby, like Judo or sewing, so you two can talk about some stuff other than his job, the house and kids.
Hide love notes in his briefcase or pockets.
I don't know. I have never been married. One of my married friends says she has never felt so lonely in her life.

Answer 5

please stop being Bi-sexual. U r married so it is criminal(by heart and not by any law) for being Bi-sexual. Try to find sexual enjoyment like sucking cocks and may be eating semen(If u don't like that then do that). But be honest to ur hubby. but don't tell him that u were bi-sexual as it can hamper or even worse ur relationship with him.And of course try to make ur kids happy.
and try to discuss at least home problems with him. Wish u a happy couple life.

Answer 6

A man likes a wife who is their to cater, to their every needs, Be faithful to him, when he comes home from work, have his dinner cooked, house cleaned, laundry done, and be able to spend some time with him, ask how his day went? Some fun conversation, etc!

Answer 7

Maybe he should be a better husband and appreciate all that you do. It only works if you both are on the same page, unless you are very submissive, it should be a pretty much 50 -50 relationship.

Answer 8

buy the book "Hidden keys of a loving lasting marriage" by Gary Smalley. Another good one is "The proper care and feeding of husbands" by Dr. Laura Schlessinger

Answer 9

Better Wife??? If i'm not mistaken you both feel in love with each other the way both are now. You and your partner are just that partner, it's give and take, As him what he would like and tell him what you would like.

Answer 10

There is no much speaking,when your husband turn home in evening,especially! Cook delicious food.Do good sex.Be a good mother and friend.