Hi. My very BEST BEST friend ever left me. Okay, what I mean is that We've been friends forever, but then all of a sudden she stopped talking to me after summer at the begginning of the new school year. She started hanging out with some mean girls. She doesn't talk to me. Now I'm just like some girl in the class to her instead of BFF. Please help me. When ever I saw her she made me so happy. Can someone tell me what's going on here please? Thanks, I would really appreciate it.
2006-10-14 08:47:33 · 24 answers · asked by carmenaschenck 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
She is going though her own thing, people come people go, and only those we let in hurt us the most when they move on, sorry.
2006-10-14 08:50:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should call her up and have a get together with her over pizza or something to that affect. Tell her how you feel and how she made you feel before and now to and that you don't want to stop being friends that you highly respect her and still want to be there for her. It sounds like she is doing some soul searching and falling in the wrong crowd and may need you to be there when she falls and being a true friend that you are you will be there no matter what and you will always care for her and she needs to know that too and if she wont talk to you then write her a letter and tell her how you feel and let her know how much you care. Always acknowledge her in a positive way and show her the right path to follow no matter how bad it might get.
2006-10-14 15:54:04 · answer #2 · answered by fordsrock_2005 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Was there anything that happened to her during the summer? Sometimes there are incidents that change a person forever, Talk to her and determine for yourself where she is now coming from. Does she appear like "Im grown up now" , "you are not cool enough ", or any attitude like that.
It takes two to make a best friends pact. Sometimes it lasts forever, sometimes not.
It is best to be honest with each other. If she is dumping you as a friend, she is inconsiderate. What would YOU have done if the shoe was on your foot? If you met with really cool people during a summer, How would you have treated your old best friend? Would you be so cruel as to simply ignore her like she is doing with you?
The golden rule applies here. Do unto others etc etc.
Ok, so she dumped you as a friend. Find some other really neat ,kind and loyal people to hang out with now.
2006-10-14 15:58:57 · answer #3 · answered by QuiteNewHere 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes people lose themselves when they have the opportunity to hang out with a different crowd. Sometimes people just change. It's difficult when you have a friend that stops talking to you, but I would suggest just giving her some space. Maybe there's something that's bothering her and that's why she's doing this. Try to make some new friends and don't put any pressure on her. If she's truly your friend, she'll come back around.
2006-10-14 15:52:57 · answer #4 · answered by hawkeye847 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm not really sure on this 1. I understand though about what some girls do. Sometimes they go from your best friend to just that girl they know. Seems like a middle school thing. Well maybe tell her how you feel about her ignoring you. Let her know that it bugs you and that you really liked when you actually were talking to each other. Good luck hun!
â¥Tanya
2006-10-14 15:49:51 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You could try asking her what's up and why she doesn't talk to you anymore. Believe me me I've had close friends that have changed over the summer, too. They started wearing makeup and everything. If she won't be your friend even if you do talk to her, just try finding a new BFF and move on.
2006-10-14 15:51:17 · answer #6 · answered by nickygurl94 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on
I know it is a problem.. But think once if she had the same simpathatic value 4 ur sweet heat would she ever had left u
Belive me the answer in NO
Make a frnd whome u can rely upon and life will be on track again
Believe me... If u dont mind i would luv 2 be a frnd of urs...
Rest is on u
Bst of luck... May u find the right person in life
I can just pray rest is on u
I know its tough
But
Tats the way it is!!
Luv Tulika
2006-10-14 15:59:50 · answer #7 · answered by Tulika 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first off, did you do something to her that made her not wanna talk to you. Like maybe, steal her boyfriend or said things behind her back? I think the best thing you should do is to confront her. Just go up to her and make sure you don't come off confrontational, and flat out just ask her what's up. Ask her if you did anything to her to piss her off and let her know how you feel and how her absence is making you feel. Remember, this is your friend and you should feel comfortable to ask her if there is something wrong. And if there is, ask her if you can help her out with her problem. Be sympathetic and don't jump to conclusions. Good Luck.
2006-10-14 15:56:08 · answer #8 · answered by M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you try talking to her. Find out whats going on. Maybe its the new friends shes hanging out with. Maybe you said or did something to affend her. Talking is the best way to get to the bottom of a problem.
2006-10-14 15:51:17 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You didn't say how old you are but I suspect you are between 12 and 15. This is an age when young ppl are trying to find themselves and its not uncommon for them to change who they hang with. Even tho your feelings are hurt, you should just let her do her thing. As you get older you will understand that true friends treat their friends well. Maybe your friend will realize that you are a good friend and maybe she won;t, but you need to stay true to yourself and your values. Also this is a good lesson how not to treat a friend. goodluck to you.
2006-10-14 15:57:20 · answer #10 · answered by debrita9 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your friend is just trying to be with the popular kids.In this case for her popularity came the wrong way by hanging out with mean girls. Just talk to her and tell her how u feel she cant hurt you for telling her whats on ur heart. and if she doens't want to hear it then is time for u to get a real bff.
2006-10-14 15:55:46 · answer #11 · answered by bigmama69687 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋