I am stil in love with this girl but she wont pickup my calls and is practically done with me, for reasons I dont know. There is no final good byes, no last conversations - one of her friends told me she does not want to see me anymore. She knows I love her more than anyone else but seems like she does not care for it. I think she has changed her number and there is no way for me to personally meet her and sort things out because I am in college in a different city. On one hand - I feel insulted that she doesnt give a damn and want to forget her - On the other hand, I just want things to be like before when we were loveydovey or atleast talking.
Every second I think about her and wonder I could be talking to her on the phone right now.
Questions:
How can I move on when I still love her so much?
What should I do - I dont even know what to ask - my brain is not working properly...I miss her so much and it hurts that probably we wont be togetherever again.
How do I cope with this?
2006-10-14 08:47:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Time seems to be going by very slowly, every second without her.
They say - give it some time...but every second without her seems like I am dying inside.
I am getting suicidal tendencies.
How can I go back to my previous cheerful state?
Any way I can get her back?
Any insights/advice/suggestions?
Thanks a lot.
2006-10-14 08:48:09 · update #1
Where should I ask this question to get the most answers? Singes and dating section crowd is in no mood for this?
2006-10-14 08:52:10 · update #2
If she says it is over it is over. You have to cowboy up and move on. SOme people need to get someone else to get over a lost love but you have to do things to get your mind off the girl. Go out and have fun. Study hard and play hard. Best to keep busy.
2006-10-14 08:52:52 · answer #1 · answered by Gone fishin' 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Basically, the same thing happened to me once, and I know how hard it can be to overcome. It is much easier when the person gives you a reason and then you can have closure, even if you aren't happy with the outcome. But when you don't know the reason, you feel compelled to turn it about in your mind and try to figure out what happened. I'm sure there were some specific reasons - things both of you did and said that finally piled up to be too much. I bet she did care about you, but caring about someone can't always keep a relationship going. It probably comes down to that you two are not compatible for a relationship in the long term and she realized that before you did. Learn what you can from the relationship and think about what type of girl you would be more compatible for a life with. Take care...
And many people have suicidal ideations from time to time.. you are not crazy, just going through a hard time.. just don't follow through with them. If they get really strong, get yourself to a nice counsellor and talk it out.. Take care..
2006-10-14 10:42:49 · answer #2 · answered by River 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, you must rise above. It's the oldest trap into the world to feel like you need someone that doesn't want you. But you don't need anyone, especially someone who doesn't want you.
If a girl doesn't return your calls, you have to stand up for yourself and not call her again. Every further call is just making yourself more pitiful.
This is how stalkers are made, and you don't want to be a stalker. Stalking is definitely insane, mental institution ****, and that's not where you want to be. In fact, you don't want it even to be said that you might have ever possibly been a stalker.
You've just got to walk away.
Walk away. Write some poems, play some video games, whatever that has nothing to do with her. It's very liberating and will build your confidence. One of the goals of your life should be to prove to her how much of a mistake she made, by getting with other women, by accomplishing great things.
But let there be no mistake, it is finished.
Youve got to let it go. Happens to everyone.
2006-10-14 09:13:45 · answer #3 · answered by Jeremy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may sound very harsh, however, you need to move on with your life. Do not feel as though it was something you did or did not do. It sounds as though she has moved on with her life and found someone else, she is really a very uncaring person and a coward. For if she cared anything for you at all even as a friend she would have told your herself that she did not want to see you anymore. So, personally, i would move on, yes it will be difficult however, not impossible. You deserve better, be grateful that she has showed her true self to you know better than you wasting a few more years on her. Be thankful that is now over and you will be available for someone who holds the same values as you in a relationship, especially honesty, and maturity. good luck and god bless
2006-10-14 10:07:19 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-16 04:52:56 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry you're going through this, Ihate. It's never easy when relationships don't work out the way we want. I recommend that you be you and let her be who she is. If you- understandably- need to let some feelings out, maybe you should write a letter to her. Concentrate on writing your own feelings rather than accusing or blaming. Write it all out. Then decide whether you really need to send it to her or not. The writing is what does the real work of helping you process your feelings and once the writing is done, you can start to pick up your own pieces and prepare to move on. I know it's painful, but here's what you really have to think about: you want to love. If you let that part of your heart get destroyed by the actions of one person, then you might be letting the best part of yourself get destroyed. Your love belongs to you. You can't give it to someone who doesn't want it. You have to protect it for yourself, so that you can have love in your heart when you want to have love in your heart. Make it your own responsibility- rather than hers- and then you can know what to do to keep yourself alive and ready to love. Part of that is to remember and re-connect with what you love. Music? Art? Nature? The smiles and laughter of children? Communication, maybe? Whatever it is, it's yours. Don't let another person damage it. Trusting others starts with trusting yourself. You'll be fine, but the first step to take is to let go of this person who is making you feel bad, whether that means she might come back or not.
2006-10-14 09:24:37 · answer #6 · answered by anyone 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To perceive that one has been rejected and not know the reason for this is quite disturbing. One runs the gamut of wanting to kill oneself to wanting to kill the other. What is hurting is pride and ego, and a lack of self-love. The other focusing is equal to the degree to which you have given that person all your power. So, if you grieve more, and more deeply, as quickly as possible, you will erase the pain of having been so dishonest with yourself. You really need to forgive yourself for allowing another to become more important to yourself than yourself.
This may sound strange, but it is factual relative to the operation of your MIND and emotions. It is pointless to attempt to deny the pain, so go for it. Really grieve, with deep sobbing and lots of tears. As hard as you can for as long as you can. Grief is the great natural eraser of the MIND. As you begin to reach the bottom of your embarrassment at having given yourself away like this, you will begin to get angry. Don't. Suck it up and own it as a mistake that you do not want to make again.
Finally, there is no other love quite like ones own Soul. Know why? Because ones Soul is the same energy as God, and when you truly love your own Spiritual nature, you are loving God. It is the really rare individual who would measure up to God. So, in the future, keep your relations in perspective... and do not give to another more love than you keep for yourself.
Peace
2006-10-14 09:09:46 · answer #7 · answered by docjp 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do you love her, or love loving her ? i felt the pain you're feeling,many years ago.the thing that helped was finding a talk group that helped me focus on myself and not the other person whom i had no control over anyway . if you give it half a chance you will feel better.so much luck to you !
2006-10-14 10:42:50 · answer #8 · answered by mema 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeap.....its time to break free of her.....reverse the charges on the emotions....look at if as though your are better off without HER....give her your baggage (subconsciously) and move on..
2006-10-14 08:51:40 · answer #9 · answered by Diamond in the Rough 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen young men..! If you go to women,they run away from you.But you run away from them,they run to you forever.
2006-10-14 08:54:57 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋