Does Anyone Know or Is A Teenage Parent?

Question

Im 13 and have a month old baby Carmen i was just wondering if anyone knew or was a teenage parent i would like to know your opnion on teenage parents if you aren't one or if you are tell me your story =]

Thank You to the People Who Wished me Good Luck.x ... Ashley N... I Respect U Deeply And Congratulate You It Must Be Hard But U R Obviously a Natural And Wonderful Mother... Well Done.x

Answer 1

have a cupcake.

Answer 2

I am a teacher and there are a couple of girls at the school where I work who have had children. On the whole I would not recommend becoming a mother at such a young age, but I really admire how well these girls have coped.

With the right amount of support and guidance you can do really well. I hope you have the support of your family, and hopefully the baby's father.

I would recommend that you try to continue your education. By the time you are 18, Carmen will be starting school and you will be in a position to get yourself a job. This would be a good thing for you to do as the money would enable you to make sure you and Carmen can afford the things you need. To do this though you will need at least some qualifications, so try your best to get them.

I hope everything goes well for both of you. Don't pay too much attention to criticism. It's the quality of care that a child receives from a parent that is important, not the age of the parent. There are people out there in their 20's and 30's who are doing terrible jobs of raising their children.

Good Luck. x

Answer 3

I am just about to become a mother at 17. It has been hard and i have hated being pregnant, but my family have supported me and my partner has helped me out sooo much! If you have a strong family life to begin with i think it makes teenage pregnancy easier, however some people are of the opinion that all teenage mothers are looking to get a house, or are less intelligent than other mothers- this is not true! The thing that frustates me the most is how we are percieved by others when really, it can happen to the most intelligent teens!
Hope you are getting on ok!
RACH***

Answer 4

hi congratulations on the birth of your baby my niece was 16 when she had her wee boy he is almost 1 now and she is the best mother I know I didnt think she could have did it although she has the support of my sister and her dad as well i know it must bee hard on you but if you can go back and finish your schooling it would be better for you and also it would get you a break from the baby even if she is only a month old it is going to be hard on you I hope that you have your parents to support you I wish you all the best whatever you decide and I know in my heart and from your wee letter that you will be a wonderful mum and don't forget they dont stay wee babies for long before you know it she will be going to nursery etc
take care
Roberta

Answer 5

Hi. My daughter is 15 and had her surprise baby at age 14.
She has been incredibly balanced throughout the whole experience and not once has given up on her career plans she had before she realised she was pregnant.
I said to her that 'O.K., becoming a mum now isn't exactly what I would have suggested as a good idea, though on the plus side consider that when her friends are starting their families they will also have to contend with work, mortgages or rent, housework, bills, shopping, pets? as well as raise their babies. This way at least my daughter can concentrate on being a fabulous mum that she so naturally is and her school work with a level of support far superior than she would have received if she was 20+. (suport from me).
Another plus is that she has been blessed with the opportunity of having a child when so many others are unable. I was shocked of her pregnancy though I never considered it bad news . . . bad news is when someone dies or becomes seriously ill. It's all about perspective.
If you would like to email my daughter she would love to hear from you. Send me a message through yahoo answers with your email address and she will send you her email and you two can have a chat.
All the best. x

Answer 6

all i can say is that carmen will mean the world to you!!! you now have some 1 to love you and for them to call u there own! you might no yourself thats its not going to be easy but then who said little babies and children are lol your young and if having this baby is what you wanted then good luck hunny. like other people have said they have good jobs and have had children at a young age so why cant u. all the best hope u have some special memories to look back on when your old!! haha

Answer 7

i just found out that my 14 year old daughter is 21 weeks pregnant she was only 14 on the 10th of this month i dont think people give young mums a fair deal, it was her 1st time of having sex the condom split she did go to an adult but this so called adult told her that she couldnt get pregnant the 1st time oh please this person has 4 kids of her own. all off us has cried alot shouted at each other but whats the point its there baby is coming sum teenages make good mums, i know my daughter will as young as she is they just need the support sum teens havent got that and thats where the goverment let them down good luck with your daughter carmen xxxx

Answer 8

Hi there, oh you are just a child yourself, you need all the help and support from your family, and friends, also your doctor and health centre will be good help, what about parent classes, just extra help with the trials of having a baby so young, all parents get it hard, not just teenage mums, I have a 15 yr old daughter and I am still learning as her mother, so take care of yourself, and your baby and well done, please email, if you need to ask any questions, will do my best to help you in any way I can as a parent myself. lol jean

Answer 9

wow that is very young.
i just hope you can make something of your life and make your child proud of you.
no child wants a mum that does nothing.
all i can suggest is going to school/college as soon as your daughter is at school and make something of your life.
everyone says havin a kid so young is stupid, and lets be honest, it is. but now its up to you to prove everyone wrong and be the best person and mother you can be for yourself and your daughter.

and make sure the dad is contrubiting towards the child, it takes 2 to make it and 2 should be held responcible for looking after it.

and just dont make the same mistake twice. get your self on the pill or the depo or have the inplant (if your old enough) until your a bit older and a bit wiser about the world.

good luck, youre sure gonna need it.
MJ

Answer 10

My brother's girlfriend had her first child when she was 15, she takes very good care of her children and with no help from the childs father. She paid for almost everything herself, and now she has 3 kids who are all healthy, and for the most part happy. I help her out a lot, and her oldest stays with his Grandparents because she just had a baby, and it's very challenging for her to take care of all 3 by her self, and my brother is currently getting help for something, so he's not around. It's hard being a teen mom, but just remeber that you should do what's best for your baby, and for you.

Answer 11

i was 16 wen i first fell pregnant but i lost it and neva got over it, wen i was 18 i fell pregnant again and im glad it did, i was a lot older than u but it still hit me hard. im a single mum and the father just causes me grief but it was all worth it in the end i have a beautiful daughter and im very proud of her, teen mums may be looked down on and talked down too but dont let it get u down ppl just dont have a very open mind like that bob that answered with the council estate crap they just think they r better wen they really aint. u wont miss out on anything u will just do things the other way round, but trust me its more rewarding to lokk at ur child and know that u raised them than it is to go to the pub and get slaughtered good luck and congratulations, dont let any1 tell u that u made a mistake xxx