I have heard that women say that want to be treated nicely, but what they really want is to be treated badly.
My experience is limited but I can see where that might be true.
I would appreciate an answer from a mature, female point of view.
2006-10-14 08:37:27 · 6 answers · asked by deepndswamps 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Many excellent answers and I appreciate them all.
I am not a perfect man and I make more than my share of mistakes.
That being said.
1. I regularly buy her flowers,
2. I always put the seat down.
3. Virtually anything that she asks me to do, if it's in my power I make it so.
4. Probably the worse thing that I do is not demand anything of her (she doesn't have to have my meals ready when I come home, house spotless, etc)
5. I don't run the bars, hunt, fish or watch football. I do go to 'church' regularly.
Really I guess the question is 'I know what you say you want, but when you get it do you know what to do with it?"
2006-10-14 16:05:39 · update #1
All women should be treated with dignity and respect, even if they act as if they don't deserve it. If a woman is "used to" being treated badly and that's more comfortable for her and she leaves a good man for a bad one, then that's on her, but a man, a real man, will have a clear conscience and pride in himself that he did the right thing, no matter what. BUT... no one respects a door mat. No one wants someone they can walk all over. I have a friend that is so sweet and he would be very good to me as a husband, but I could walk all over him and I don't want that. But his "nice guy" bleeds into other aspects of his life as well and gets taken advantage of too easily. It seems often to women that "nice guys" are desperate. It's the same with men.. if a woman is "too nice" she comes across as desperate and you only want someone to be with you because the WANT to, not because they so badly want to be loved they'll do anything and everything to keep somebody, anybody. So don't be anyone's doormat. Live your life with honor and dignity and respect for yourself and for the female gender and command the same in return from those you involve yourself with.
2006-10-14 09:11:15 · answer #1 · answered by Christina M L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing that says that you shouldn't treat a woman nicely. But I've made the mistake of going too far and being too nice, and that usually lands you in friendship territory. Even worse, some girls won't really respect you if you do everything for them. Most women really want the challenge of either getting a guy they can't have or transforming a "bad boy" into a good guy. The real trick is not being a complete prick, but maybe acting a little selfishly or distant sometimes.
2006-10-14 08:48:02 · answer #2 · answered by hawkeye847 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Ah, what a paradox a woman is! Let's break this down a little bit. Can a man treat a woman too well? Can one human being treat another human being too well? No.
Are you asking, "Can a man treat a woman too well," meaning, can the man spoil her with gifts too often? Only you can answer that question really. Are you buying her things to buy her love? Could you be doing that?
Next part of the the question. Do women want to be treated badly? No. Although "bad boys" can be attractive in a dangerous sort of way - unhealthy relationships and more.
As for me, I want a nice man who is thoughtful and kind, and if he wants to give me things, that's nice too. But if he is doing it too often it can make me uncomfortable. At the same time, I want my nice, thoughtful and kind man to be a little aggressive. I want him to be him. If he disagrees with me, tell me! No one wants a milketoast. I want him to be a little dirty in the bedroom, maybe pinch my butt while I'm cooking dinner. Give me a smarta$$ look while we're out that tells me he's got something up his sleeve for later.
Examine your relationship closely. Talk to your partner.
Good luck.
2006-10-14 09:01:08 · answer #3 · answered by Aunt Gwenna 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
its not about playing games. treat a woman the way you would treat your friend except probably no burping contest. if you have questions about how you should treat a woman ask her how she thinks men should treat women. she is a person not an alien
2006-10-14 08:49:03 · answer #4 · answered by Kristin C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No , you can't be too nice , that's like being too honest .
I would love to be treated like the princess that I am !
2006-10-14 09:00:28 · answer #5 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
no he can actually .... maybe he think that he is treating her to well but depends ..of her 's value.........
2006-10-14 08:57:11 · answer #6 · answered by diana 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋