I'm a nanny to pay for college and to have a place to live!!! And my employer and I have been seeing each other for a couple months and I just found out that I'm pregnant!!! I'm 17 and he is 23!!! I don't know what to do!!! He has a son already with her!!! He knows that I'm pregnant and he says he loves me!!! He told me before we started seeing eachother that his marriage was over!!! What should I do??
2006-10-14 08:34:37 · 30 answers · asked by Prue 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
well i personally had the same situation happen to me, except i was the wife in my situation. every body knew except me. i finally caught them and confronted them, i was never able to trust him again. we stayed married a couple more year's but the trust just would not come back so we had an agreeable divorse, we moved on and my ex has been married 9 times&divorced9 times, an is single today. i stayed single for 6 yr's, then finally found a man i can trust and we've been married 25 yr's. so do the right thing & tell the lady! think how you would feel, would'nt you want to know?
2006-10-14 09:25:02 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
I'm not going to be nice here. Your 17, young, and not using the brain that God gave you!!!!!!!!!!! If His marriage was over and wanted to be with you he would have gotten a divorce, gotten his own place for you AND himself, than screwed you and gotten you pregnant. Put yourself in her place. How'd you feel if your nanny - the person you trust taking care of you child - was also "taking" care of your husband on the side, just because the marriage was "over"? Maybe in her eyes the marriage isn't over. Ever think of that? Find somewhere else to live, pack your bags, tell the wife what happened, what he told you about the marriage, and when your baby is born get a DNA test done so he can pay child support. Or better yet, your under 18, he's 23, get his sorry *** for raping a minor!!!
2006-10-14 16:00:40 · answer #2 · answered by sandnickel2003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
wow ..... I hate to say it, but you definately crossed the line as a nanny (and a person in my opinion) ....... there is a reason us nannies get bad names. All that aside - it's not your place to tell her that you're pregnant with her husband's baby. You SHOULD however quit the job and find something else. Even if their marriage is "over" they're still married - and you need to do what's best for their family.
2006-10-16 16:29:31 · answer #3 · answered by Sara S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like quite the sticky situation that you are in. Being a wife and mother myself I think that I would want to know is my husband was cheating on me. I would especially want to know if the person he was cheating with got pregnant. I would also kick them both top the curb right then and there.
If you do tell her I would have all my bags packed and try to find somewhere else to go. She will most certainly kick you out. If he really does love you then he will take care of you and the baby.
good luck with the whole situation.
2006-10-14 15:41:07 · answer #4 · answered by lil_love1982 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry honey but it looks like you're going to be a single mom. If he hasn't left his wife yet, he's not going to. You need to take him to court for child support after the baby is born. Right now you need to find another job and place to live, because as soon as she finds out, you'll be out of both. In the future ,if you know a man is married, stay away from him. Also remember, if a man cheats on his wife with you, then he'll cheat on you,too. Don't let any of them tell you different because they are lying to you. I'll pray that you work out your life and find someone to help you. God bless.
2006-10-14 15:49:50 · answer #5 · answered by nana_bad_ass 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you feLL for that lie "my marriage is over" THAT proves your young and naive. IF THAT WAS TRUE he would not be screwing you and his wife and still living with his family sleeping with a married man even a unhappy married man and father makes you a HOME WRECKER. If he cheated on his wife and kid to be with you HE'LL CHEAT ON YOU TO!. Good luck things just got very bad for you. chances are very good he'll stay right where he's at in a few years he'll stil be married sleeping with the new nanny YOU made a very very very poor choice to sleep with a married man a ever WORSE CHOICE NOT TO USE PROTECTION, you hurt ALL INVOLED what you needed to do was tell the wife before anything happend if some girl came telling me my husband my kids father got her pregnant i'ld be in jail i'll kill em both you need to think of her feelings you did her WRONG!
2006-10-14 15:39:54 · answer #6 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
This guy is a major loser. I hope for your sake he can provide you with atleast child support.
Any man who would sleep with the nanny while he's married, ESPECIALLY one so underaged as yourself, cannot fall into any other catagoary except 'loser'.
What should you do?
Grow the hell up for starters. Why would you want to risk ruining another womans marriage, she has a child with this man, and loved him enough to marry him and carry his child. You cant decide when something is truely hopeless and over, since its not your sitauation, or relationship. Men get bored and decide things are over all the time, it doest mean they leave their wives for new women and start new families. You both made this bed, now you have to deal with it. What a horrible situation for your child. Other than that,I honestly dont know what to tell you.
2006-10-14 15:39:12 · answer #7 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
what a fine mess you got yourself into. . it is not your place to break his wife's heart and let her know you are tearing her family apart-that is his responsibility. better find somewhere else to live and fast, unless you think you are moving in and throwing her and her son out on the street. she does not have to leave that house until the divorce is over and done and that could take a long long time. remember, whoever files for child support first is going to get the bigger chunk of his money!!! good luck you need it
2006-10-14 15:46:12 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he cheated on her, he will cheat on you. Run, don't walk away from him and then decide what is best for you and your baby. If you are on your own you should be able to get grants for college when you are able to go back to school. It will be hard but if you want a good life for you and your child, you will get a job, go back to school (even one class at a time), and get an education.
Forget the loser and learn the lesson that adultery is never the way to find a good mate.
2006-10-14 15:47:05 · answer #9 · answered by Paula P 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
RUN and dont look back I had a friend in the EXACT situation as you. She attempted to wrk things out with him but it seems like he only used her for one thing and one thing only. He kept promising her the world and never showed her anything!!! SOOOOO I would give him an ultimatum have him tell his wife and or end it with her or just leave without saying a word and let them continue to live their lives! You can do this on your own!
EDIT::::
So which one is it? are you 16 or 17?
Is he 20 or 23?
Is he your boyfriend? and if he is how is he YOUR boyfriend and someone else is husband?
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2006-10-14 15:38:36 · answer #10 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ Mom2two Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋