Recently he became very friendly with a girl at work. I just can't get it out of my head. I would like to tell him to leave but worried about kids and mortgage etc...
2006-10-14 08:24:50 · 40 answers · asked by alfie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is a very complicated situation. Unfortunately with the kids and mortgage, it makes it an even more complicated situation. In the best interests of the children, it would be better if you could try and work things out before you leave him.
2006-10-14 08:27:23 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
Did your husband have sex with this women? Or was it just a kiss? If he had an affair, tell him to leave, as for the mortgage etc. He has to take care of you and the kids, so I wouldn't worry about that! He can come visit the kids and they will get used to the adjustment! Men seem to think the grass is always greener on the other side of the fence!
2006-10-14 08:30:33 · answer #2 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
first off all that is the hardest thing to get over and it sound like you have not even tried to forgive him.Until you do you will not even get on the road of recovery for that and you will be suspicious of his every move and if you cant even think about for giving him then this is not worth trying for you will just keep beating your self up over him and not be happy ever and that is not fair for you. Start with a list of pro and cons about him and decided if you should forgive or you should move on. Follow your heart and it will lead you in the direction that you want to be directed and not to be hurt any more. It sounds like you are deeply torn and need deep intervention and help. You need to talk to someone about this and figure out where you want to stand. If you don't get help and try to move on you will take this with you to the next relations ship and that is not fair for the next and if you choose to stay it will not be fair for him and yourself too. So good luck and take care and may god bless you and you should also ask for advice form God he is there for you
2006-10-14 08:48:19 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi. If you truly cannot forgive your husband for his past then i feel you should no longer be in this relationship. You should never stay in a relationship because of the children. Its not for the best in the long run. I wont lie to you it is hard bringing children up on your own but you and the children will both benefit in the future. Show him the door. I hope it all works out for you Hun. xxxx
2006-10-14 08:31:23 · answer #4 · answered by nikkio27 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think if u cant let it go maybe its time to go, Ur only hurting ur self and making yourself feel crazy, if u don't sort it out one way or the other its going to destroy Ur relationship anyway, he's a pig for doing this to u and he's made u insecure and he's left u feeling so hurt and worried that he's going to leave u or hurt u like that again so why let him Hun ? i know u love him but love isn't supposed to hurt, its about respect and trust and love and security .. a man that loves u wouldn't make u cry and the one who does isn't worth loving ! for once stop worrying about the kids and mortgage worry about u. i know its easy to say but i have been there (like many others) and het we all survived didn't we, good luck Hun i hope ur'll be OK
2006-10-16 10:08:35 · answer #5 · answered by melly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
the kids will be fine and as for the mortgage he has to pay that until the children leave school get the hell out you don't need to be with him it ain't good for you nor the kids don't let him keep you dangling on a piece of string go tell him to get out one way or the other don't live like that and don't let him use you he sounds a rite prat
2006-10-14 08:38:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you stil can't forgive him after 2 years then it's best you call it quits,if theres no trust,then what's the point?i know it's not that simple when theres kids and a mortgage involved. Best of luck.
2006-10-14 09:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by duracell18 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to forgive yourself! I think you have a lot of guilty feelings about the situation. You have been trying to forgive him for what he did which indicates that you still love him. When you forgive yourself for what happened you'll be able to forgive him and it won't bother you that he is friendly with a woman.
2006-10-14 08:39:33 · answer #8 · answered by cellczar 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Choose you this day whom ye will serve. Make this the most important thing in your life. Let him realize that you are a person with conviction and that you will not put up with slackness more than the ordinary.
2006-10-14 08:29:47 · answer #9 · answered by sexonsight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is an a/r/s/e/h/o/l/e/ -and it sounds pretty much as if he IS- then you don't have to wait for proof. He's almost certainly messing around.
Try to get some bank statements, find out where all his money is then fling him out. He will never change.
2006-10-14 08:29:04 · answer #10 · answered by Not Ecky Boy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋