OK, now I know I'm crazy. My husband & I have been seperated for about a month. I know that is not much time. Both of us have had trouble letting go. He was the one that wanted it, not me. The first few weeks, we were calling each other constantly. We'd meet for dinner & we're not fighting any more. Its starting to get easier for me that he is not here. I dont need to call him every day anymore. We have to keep in touch because we have a daughter & yes I still love him & probably always will. But our differences our too big. Our marriage is over. We'll be filing for divorce soon. So why for the last several days I have had a desire to make love with him one last time? I haven't told him how I'm feeling, frankly because I dont like rejection. Lack of sex in our marriage was a huge problem for me.
2006-10-14 08:16:37 · 16 answers · asked by Amy 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
He was the one that wanted to move out. His family interfering with our lives was our biggest issue. He wouldn't agree to counseling & want very nice the last few months before he left. We agreed that our daughter is our #1 priority and I dont want her to lose her dad, so we stay friendly. Also to reply to answer #11... I didn't want a seperation do to lack of sex. He had no problems physically, he just didn't want to.
2006-10-14 08:49:24 · update #1
I don't think one last time will do it for you, you just have to make a clean break and get on with your life. And only keep in contact with him
when it concerns your daughter.
2006-10-14 08:25:23 · answer #1 · answered by Gerry 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
you answered your question your differences were too big, u have a desire to make love one last time, lack of sex was a huge problem. not to be crass or gross but a sex toy will relieve you of some of that desire. also there never really is just one last time with ex-'s, if you go down this road, rejection will start to look like a very good thing
2006-10-14 15:55:56 · answer #2 · answered by nana 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
i was in a 8 year relationship with my daughters dad i did not want him I HATED our relationship i kicked him out nearly 4 years ago for a very long time sometimes still i missed the sex he was great in bed the sex alone kept us together when everything else was CRAP. I know i'll NEVER sleep with him again but, yeah there are times when i think about US. IT'S a mistake to tell him this it is leading him on sends a mixed message if it's over let it be over!
2006-10-14 15:27:34 · answer #3 · answered by ally'smom 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you want it one last time, you could tell him that. I am sure he wont reject. It might actually be all the more sensual and who knows, you two could talk more openly and get to resolve whatever's been bothering you in the past. Just talk your mind. Breaking a marriage is not good. Marriage is a great institution; you need to be together at least for your daughter.
2006-10-14 15:24:31 · answer #4 · answered by Krishna 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i think you love him very much so in my view therefore you want to love him one last time but believe me after one time you will desire for one more time,because true love never ends.
and as far as the lack of sex is concerned it may be possible that your husband have some problems in his sex health so you should understand and try to get close to him and know the situation.
You know i am 28 and i also have problem in maintaining an erection,i am not married yet but i want to get married so what should i do if after my marriage my wife want to be separated from me due to lack of sex?
2006-10-14 15:35:32 · answer #5 · answered by sad boy 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have you tried to get counseling? If you're wanting him, you should at least try to get conseling to talk over issues in a calm manner. If two people really love each other, major differences can be overcome.
2006-10-14 15:28:31 · answer #6 · answered by bigdaddy 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You want that 'one last night' because you want to hang on just a little bit longer. If you do get that one last night, it will be more painful because you'll realize that it WAS your last night. Both of you are handling things quite well, so why complicate things further? Leave the past... 'the past'. Concentrate on things that matter, mainly your daughter.
2006-10-14 16:54:38 · answer #7 · answered by Larry F 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Go for it, that last time will be the best, if i had a chance to make love with my soon to be ex i would do it in a heart beat, might even be an eye opener;)
2006-10-14 15:20:21 · answer #8 · answered by Kathy 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
I would not do it, the feeling will pass. Your just emotional and wanting that human connection again, and he is familiar territory. But its NOT a good idea, because if you do, you will have even more emotions to deal with.
2006-10-14 15:44:24 · answer #9 · answered by magnolia_76 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
do u think its make up sex??? i don't think i would do it......
sex while u are separated will make it harder for u to
accept the divorce....and this one last time wont make him
forgive u for not giving it to him while he was home....i know
ive been there and the feelings due hurt after wards......good
luck and make the right decisions for yourself.....
2006-10-14 18:32:23 · answer #10 · answered by sis 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋