How would you fight the act of pessimism?
I've been through bad relationships, dealing with jealousy and mistrust. After all the lies and hurt, I don't think I could trust any man I love again. Jealousy is bad for my health :( Please help
2006-10-14 08:16:29 · 21 answers · asked by cutesy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Jealousy is not a disease. But remember that you will not find the right person for you until you have become the right person that you want to be. Have you ever heard the old saying that we draw people to ourselves that are like - minded? So, if you follow that logic and find the good in yourself and learn to love yourself then you will find happiness. And in turn, those who are happy with themselves and who are ready for healthy relationships will be drawn to you.
2006-10-14 08:21:06 · answer #1 · answered by r_k_winters 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Jealousy is not a disease, it is something normal in life just like eating, etc. Everything that you over do, then turns in to a sickness, including eating.And you know the results of over eating.Love with out jealousy is not love, because if you care for the person then you have to be jealous. Jealousy is to care, is to worry is to take care, jealousy is beautiful. Now lies and hurt and mistrust is not jealousy is something that was cause by a reaction of the other person that turn you in to this monster. Sometimes this person that was hurt by another person carry this conduct into the other relation causing a bad relation because he or she think that it's going to happend again with the new person. So this is why you have to be careful and don't jump in to a relation with out knowing something about the other person, specially if he had a relation and this relation was terminated, make sure you check first. All people are not bad and all people are not good, you just have to be careful. Good luck.
2006-10-14 08:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YES! Never had it.
It is an outgrowth of insecurity and fear.
The best relationships are, when both people want to be together. In that case jealousy would be superfluous. And if one or the other decides they don't want that anymore, chains will not improve the situation and a split at that point is the best solution.
In either case jealousy is undesirable and useless.
2006-10-14 08:26:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is not a disease. But it is a mental health issue. Know you're not alone in having had your heart crushed and a trust betrayed. Concentrate on YOU for awhile now. Try to find things that make YOU happy. Once you are comfortable again and truly respect and appreciate YOU then you'll be ready to love again.
2006-10-14 08:19:56 · answer #4 · answered by mJc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Listen girl I'm 22 now, but when i was young maybe 13,14 i had a lot of boyfriends and i always was jealous if they talk to other girls or didn't call me. But when I start see that I'm the one that going crazy, i just stop running after my boyfriend it wasn't worth it. And plus we had a lot of fights because of it. But now i see that it is very stupid to be jealous at your guy every time he talks to other girl or didn't call when he had to. But if your guy is a big PLAYER then u shouldn't even be with him, he will hurt u. Plus u not even should run after the guy's that make u jealous, don't show them that u controlling they every step. Not every guy likes that, if u together then u should trust each other..... trust is very important.
2006-10-14 09:21:43 · answer #5 · answered by Martini5 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Jealousy is a human emotion, mistrust is a learned behavior. Please don't let past relationships and past situations define your future ones. You could be missing out on a really good one. Just proceed with caution, not paranoia. Who or what are you jealous of?
2006-10-14 08:30:20 · answer #6 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I know what you mean sweetheart. You need to stay away from those @$$holes and go for a real guy. Sure, those guys can be fun sometimes, but you need to move on to a good relationship - don't rush into too fast though, or you'll probably end up hurt.
Good luck
2006-10-14 08:19:07 · answer #7 · answered by Greg S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not a normal thing ! At least not extreme like your case , you need to build your self esteem !
This will run guys off when they find out how jealous you act , it's a sign of weakness .
2006-10-14 08:25:00 · answer #8 · answered by Geedebb 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Negative people are unhappy so, they want others to feel as crappy as they do.Jealousy is normal but not in controlling amounts. usually the person is thinking or doing the very thing they are accusing you of or are jealous of and to make them selves feel better about their thoughts or actions, they tell them selves that the other person is doing it. Its called Projection.or Projecting.
2006-10-14 08:26:13 · answer #9 · answered by Crissy 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's a mental disorder and it originates in the lack of self love.
2006-10-14 08:18:57 · answer #10 · answered by T Time 6 · 3⤊ 0⤋