I recently started dating this amazing guy. Its gettting pretty serious but I think for our own comfort we're taking things really slow. This morning I was playing w/him and as we were all eating breakfast 2gether and he called me mommy twice. Both of us were a little shocked and wejust made sure to repeat my 1st name to him repeatedly. I just want a little advice on the situation...
2006-10-14 08:13:54 · 18 answers · asked by Kyppa 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Don't worry or be embarrassed. This used to happen to me when workmen did work at my home during the day, while my husband was at his job.My son was about that age and he would call the workmen "Daddy"!!!
I was so embarrassed, and the men would say "Nooo, not Me!".I later found out that he was just relating them to being a man, a grownup like his father!
So this little boy you are talking about is probably just relating you to being a grown up woman like his mom and he doesn't realize everyone has a name. He doesn't think you are his mom, just a woman like her!
Just do what you have been doing, have fun, and keep saying your name and point to yourself. Don't get embarrassed, and I hope no one gets mad!
2006-10-14 08:33:33 · answer #1 · answered by MuggleMom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The little guy likes you, maybe he sees you as a mommy figure, but in case things don't work out, I'd try and have the little guy call me by my name, kids that age are adaptable, but he should still understand that you are not mommy. Where is his real mommy? If she shares custody with the father, she may not appreciate having some other lady be called "Mommy" and that may cause the dad to have problems with her in the future.
2006-10-14 08:23:58 · answer #2 · answered by angeleyes 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't say if he lives with his dad, if his mom is still in the picture, etc.
At that age, they really can't distinguish between 'real' mom and someone else acting as mom. He is only 2. I wouldn't worry about it. If it bothers you, then continue to say your name around him, have your boyfriend say your name around him, etc. If it doesn't bother you, then just let it be.
I helped my ex husband raise his two kids. They were 6 and 8 when I met them and they are now grown, married, and the youngest has her own two kids. She had called me mom a few times. It didn't bother me at all. In fact, it made me feel good to think that she thought of me as a second mom. She has always been close to her mom, and I explained to these kids constantly the difference between me and their 'mom'. I told them that their real mom is the one that gave birth to them and will always be their mom, and that I am their stepmom. I also told them that I am not trying to take the place of their real mom, just to be their friend and that it's their choice to call me by my first name or to call me mom.
I was also a nanny of 4 kids. The two youngest ones would call me mom from time to time as I was with them about 70 or more hours a week, so I was like their second mom. They are now 3 and 5. The 3 year old has autism, so for him to try to say my name, or say anything, is difficult. So, when he called me mom, I wasn't shocked at all.
If I were you, I wouldn't worry too much about your boyfriends son calling you mom. He is young and doesn't understand the difference yet. He will understand it in time, and may eventually call you by your first name, but just not yet. Mom may be easier for him to say than your name.
2006-10-14 08:24:03 · answer #3 · answered by honey 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree with you, repeating your first name to the 2 year old at this point is a definite yes. There is no sense in getting the picture confused in case things do not work out.
2006-10-14 08:16:58 · answer #4 · answered by kny390 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems to me that you are around a lot. If you were eating breakfast together, I would assume that you spent the night. (I admit I could be wrong.) But, for a two year old, you
are probably fitting the mother profile. It seems to me that he is comfortable with you being around. If it really bothers you, you are doing the correct thing by repeating your name.
2006-10-14 08:20:34 · answer #5 · answered by wildbill05733 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Haha the guys gonna see this as a great sign. It's not a bad thing you've fit into the kids mind as a mom already. That means he's growing onto you. And that's a great thing. The Dad's gonna know that the kid won't hate you for being a step mom simply by that one word.
I'll say this early, Congrats =P
2006-10-14 08:17:27 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
It is a mistake to introduce kids to a GF or BF before they have made some kind of commitment. The kids get attached to people and then if they break up, it is very hard on the children. Your BF needs to make it very clear to his son that he already has a mommy and you are daddy's friend.
2006-10-14 08:16:56 · answer #7 · answered by notyou311 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
its normal for him to call you mommy. a lot of kids will call any woman mommy that they love and trust it doesnt mean much but if you dont want him to call you mommy why dont you come up with some other pet name he can call you?
2006-10-14 09:09:30 · answer #8 · answered by Kristin C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say and it's just what i think that you should spent a little less time with him you could stay with the guy and all but if u guys get serious and get married it's all good until he gets a little older.
2006-10-14 08:17:58 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't respond to the word 'mommy' just ignore it until he calls you by your name.
2006-10-14 08:16:39 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋