My husband called at 10:32 pm last night and he said that he was working on his truck (just bought the truck wensday) and he said he would be coming home soon. It is 2:00pm and I stil have not heard from him. I do not want to go out and look for him (why drag the kids out hunting their dad down like a dog) I do not think he is having an affair, but I could be fooling myself, because for the last year he has been sleeping on the couch. I think the sprarks in our marriage have fizzled out a long time ago. what should i do????
2006-10-14 08:08:58 · 12 answers · asked by JANET 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
we have been married for 14 yrs
2006-10-14 08:13:14 · update #1
It sound like you and your hubby need to have a heart to heart talk and find out what is really going on with him. Do not drag the kids into this they dont need to get hurt with the outstriking you may do if you do find him having an affair. I would get ahold of the local police dept and tell them the situation of the truck breaking down and would like to know if they have had any reports of the truck breaking down and all that info and if you feel the need to go and look for him you should find someone to sit with the kids and then go looking. You should also follow your heart on this if you feel he is not having an affair then your heart will know and you should listen to it. Your heart will not lead you astray and will lead you to true happiness. The sparks is your marriage may have fizzled out for the wrong reasons and you should also discuss that with him. Are the kids taking up alot of both of your times and just wearing you out or not getting the alone time you need for each other. After your heart to heart talk and you find out everything you need to know why dont you set a romantic night up with him and yourself no kids you and him and a night out on the town a romantic evening with candle light and dinner with you for the desert burn some incense if needed just make it about you and him for the evening and do what your heart tells you to do. It sounds like what ever is going on you can still get back and make it work. You got married for a reason and dont give up now. Make your marriage come back to life not matter what it takes and give it your best shot. Show him how much you care and Love him. The spark will come back give it some time and him some of your time too. GOOD LUCK AND MANY BLESSING FOR YOU
2006-10-14 08:38:49 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow, I definitely feel for you. With his phone call last night and what he said, "I'll be coming home soon" you have every right to be worried. I suspect there is no cell phone number to try to reach him? With the additional information you gave, his sleeping on the couch, the sparks being gone in your relationship, and you do hint that you suspect he "might be" having an affair I wouldn't drag the kids into a search party. What I would do if you know the route he may have taken is call your ;local police and tell them you're worried because your husband called last night and said he was having car troubles and you haven't heard or seen him since. I think they would be willing to check out the route to see if there is any indication of foul play. If he shows up you are going to have to have a serious talk with him and demand that he come clean. If he is having an affair he needs to make a decision to stay or leave . It is unfair that you are in a constant state of worry when he might be in bed with another woman. Take care of you & the children. Better to face the truth than to die a slow death not knowing what's up.
2006-10-14 15:21:21 · answer #2 · answered by Brains & Beauty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cripe! Wake up and smell the coffee, You don't think he is having an affair? Look at all the signs? For the last year he has been sleeping on the couch? How dumb are you? You better make preparations for a divorce! Your hubby quite caring when he decided to sleep on the couch!
2006-10-14 15:17:23 · answer #3 · answered by Gerry 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a start, see to your children's safety. Ensure that they are well protected.
Then go read and find some exiting ways to get some excitement in you marriage.
Stop fooling yourself and assume that he is having an affair.
Then Finally, find out which truck he is working on since last night. What gets the engine running
2006-10-14 15:54:59 · answer #4 · answered by sexonsight 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if he has been sleeping on the couch then he isnt fixing a truck he's fixing a peice of azz what you need to do is go out and if he is somewhere he shouldnt be doing something with somebody he shouldnt then you need to show him the door he's calling and saying he's on his way to see if you still at home i would say check it out girl
2006-10-14 15:18:46 · answer #5 · answered by mz.thang 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
have you called the police, hospitals ect? If not....why not. I can tell you he is not here....I have looked everywhere and nope not here. If you are indeed worried then get off the computer and do some calling. Personally I think this is a BS story but whatever.
2006-10-14 20:31:04 · answer #6 · answered by oldman 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I assume he was working on his truck at a friend's house. They got wasted and he passde out in the bathtub.
He's fine. When he comes home, let his hangover be his punishment.
2006-10-14 15:22:35 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he's not in jail. He's having an affair. Don't make excuses for him. You know it, why else would he be out that whole time w/out calling.
2006-10-14 15:15:56 · answer #8 · answered by hp one 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not have much experience in this but the least you can do is talk to him very calmly and ask him...
2006-10-14 15:15:19 · answer #9 · answered by Kay 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CHANGE THE LOCKS ON THE DRS AND FILE FOR DIVORCE. YOU CAN GET HIM FOR ABONDONMENT.
2006-10-14 15:30:50 · answer #10 · answered by kimandkaitlyn2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋