My future husband wants 4 children maybe 6 close maybe a year apart .I am already pregnant and this scares me ! what man in his right mind wants all those kids particularly boys!He is not joking either whats a nice way of saying hell NO!!!
2006-10-14 07:49:44 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
His mother is a pain in the *** i dont think i could take her medling either.
2006-10-14 07:51:22 · update #1
Well, you keep him off you and go on birth control, thats a great way to tell him no.
I wish my husband was like that. I want 4-6 kids all boys, and really close together too. But my husband thinks IAM nuts. lol. He doesnt want more than one.
Wanna trade? lol.
2006-10-14 08:02:35 · answer #1 · answered by amosunknown 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You might want to tell him that the birth rates for male children has been dropping for the last 30 years, to now where the numbers are even between male and female. With the much higher death rates for males, a significant shortage is appearing in all fields mostly worked by men.
Fortunate, or unfortunately, only women can decide how many children they have, whether the man wants them or not. You don't say how old you are, or he is. There was an article in the news papers, this week, about how more women are bucking trends set in the last 30 years for smaller families, having five or more kids, so you would not be alone in this, if you decide you want to have a large family.
What you want now, may not be the same in 10 or 20 years, as it will be different for him, as his matures. Female reach full maturity at age 24, but males don't reach it until 30. Since this is a problem now, you had better sit down with a marriage counselor and get this worked out, as you should have before becoming pregnant, otherwise you may be looking at a less than happy future.
2006-10-14 08:19:37 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and hubby didn't talk about this prior to being married? This is a huge issue, not some little backyard barbeque thing. I see both sides of this one, 4 or 6 children is a large family, but many people have a lot a love to give. You, on the other hand, are not into that so you must stand up for yourself and tell him it's not going to happen. Hopefully you guys can meet in the middle.
2006-10-14 08:01:30 · answer #3 · answered by patti duke 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your pregnant now AND Just finding his out. You obviously not discussed much about your future together.
My husband also mentioned he wanted 3-4 kids. AND I'm completly on the same wave length as him.
This is why too many people rush into marriage. We discussed so much in our 7 years of dating before marriage and even with taking a premarriage course thru church we were able to see somethings we needed to talk on further.
2006-10-14 07:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by cowsfreak 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
This is hard, but I would say NO. He has to take in consideration that you don't want too many children. WOMEN ARE NOT BABY FACTORIES!!!! And I hope that he realizes that IF you did allow yourself to have 6 kids, he is equally responsible in caring for them.
But you really need to make him aware of your feelings. Afterall, it is your body. Maybe you can come to a compromise...like only 2 or 3 kids.
2006-10-14 08:50:35 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just wait until you have your 1st child! he will change his mind quickly. My faincee said 10 kids NO birth Control I was like what but Ilet it be and figured we would discuss it as teh time went on. Well I had my 1st child with him and a boy and he changed his whole thought rite away now he dosent even want 1 more!
2006-10-14 08:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ Mom2two Ƹ̵̡Ӝ̵̨̄Ʒ 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just tell him no and that its your body and that youre not comfortable with having that many kids... meet him in the middle. compromise... or adopt??? and on the mom part, shes gonna be a pain anyways whether or not you have kids with him...
2006-10-14 08:05:07 · answer #7 · answered by lori 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
uumm ever think he would melest the kids. and he could not just make them boys what a freak and the way of saying hell NO!!!! by saying NO!! is::::::
no!!! you f u ck ing assehole i am the one making the babys ya dick and it hurts like hell to have babys
2006-10-14 08:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by LIL B 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
he will probaly change his mind about that when your baby hits 2, or you have two children. just be honest with him, you have a say in that.
2006-10-14 07:54:36 · answer #9 · answered by Maddie and Jacobs mom 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just say no, its quite simple really and its your body. Stand up for yourself a bit
2006-10-14 07:53:02 · answer #10 · answered by Serry's mum 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋