What can my sister do with her 14 year old daughter. She smokes pot, and has no respect, and gets in trouble.?

Answer 1

Your sister needs to take charge and be the adult. Take away all the freedoms her daughter has. She needs to take away the TV, phone, cell phone, video games, stereo, and any other freedom allowed. She can give them back one at a time as the girl exhibits the correct behavior.

You sister needs to do the tough love thing and make a stand. Her daughter earns back one privilege each week she stays out of trouble and does not smoke pot. Take away the privilege if she gets into trouble again.

Answer 2

A popular program here in my area for troubled teens is the local correctional facility. I work for a public school and as crazy as this might sound, the kids are taken to the minimum security correctional facility (with absolutly NO interaction with inmates) for a tour. The kids start to see what prison life is like. The are put into a cell where it is locked, the guards anwser questions like "what happens if someone gets out of line" and the guards are really open about why people are in here and how long they have to stay. Needless to say, the kids have a permanent image as a gentle reminder of what life would be like if they were to break the law and get caught. If your 14 year old is that bad....maybe a reality check is in order along with all of the other suggestions listed above concerning being the responsible adult, taking charge and 'laying the law". The most important thing I belive a parent can do is whatever they set forth, following through with it is KEY. The worst thing a parent can do is to not follow through on what they have decided. Good luck.....the teenage years are sometimes insane.....

Answer 3

It's going to take tough love in order to help this 14 year old. She will need a lot of help from family, friends, the maybe even the police. Drastic circumstances take drastic measures. I would start by taking everything away...rights to the TV, phone, stereo, everything! Clean out her bedroom so there's nothing but a bed! Set very simplistic rules and stick to them no matter what. All current friends must go! When she behaves appropriately then small items of luxury like the TV for an evening can be granted.

Answer 4

There's not really many options, other than showing the daughter who's boss - confiscate the pot, ground her until further notice (including being dropped off & picked up from school) & sending her to a shrink and / or drug rehab... if there's no improvement after a couple of weeks, arrange for a local police officer to have a chat with the daughter.

Answer 5

I think communication is a big thing. Get your sister to sit down with her daughter and talk to her. Ask her, "what's going on in your life," "how are you feeling," "is there anything you want to talk to me about." Sometimes kids act out simply to get attention where they are getting none. Also, remember it can be common for kids in adolescence to "get into trouble." This is a time where kids are trying to find out who they are, and in that discovery, they have to experience both "good" and "bad" situations. I think if your sister appraoches her daughter in a calm and inviting way, great healing can come out of it. This is just a suggestions though...I don't know your situation, so you should look into other options also.

Answer 6

Been there done that.. My girls all did the same. I think it's a faze they goin thru thinking its cool. What I ended up doing is nothing.They gonna do worst if u say sometyhing. And when its over they finds its not for them and find something else. Hope its better than that.
teenager may want some attention from her mom or some one.Maybe since ur the anct maybe u ought to talk to her.

Answer 7

She needs a good whoppin. she's obviously not afraid of her mom because she didn't put any fear[respect] into her. Whoppins not BEATINGS. big diffrence. but at this point in time she my be to old to change her ways. Peers have a big inluence in the teenage years. That's probably why she smokes in the first place. Disipline!and she need to have a heart to heart sit down talk with her. Good luck to you and your sister...and daughter.

Answer 8

She's her Mother and she should lay down the law and show the daughter who is boss! Or threaten to send the daughter to boot camp, if the daughter still doesn't listen, then make arrangments to send her to boot camp! Some just have to learn the hard way!

Answer 9

start taking things away from her. I'm talking about the random things kids take for granted like designer shoes and cloths, child care services don't care if kids wear goodwill cloths or abercrombi. that nice warm blanket can be replaced with a wool army blanket. and those nice big dinners can be replaced wiht liver and onions. tell the kids if you want those things back then do what she's supposed too. no t.v, no telephone, no computer, no stereo... hopefully she'll come around. good luck with that

Answer 10

i was 14 once and acted the same way. In all honesty, there is a boy in her life that you need to take a look at. Get rid of the boy. She is in a rut now and he is affecting her in ways she can't control. Seriously find the boy and get rid of him and if she gets mad ..oh well..she will thank you for it later . I know I was thankful when my mom done it to me .