Is this verbal harrassment?

Question

i go to a school with pleated skirts and black pantyhose as our uniform. the scary thing is some guys kno/ are into what kind of pantyhose we wear. it none of their business right. ok so there are three guys who are like geeks but i say they are nice and call them friend. they kno what kind of pantyhose worn by each girl in the grade almost eww. like they sit in back of me in chemistry and they look under the skirts of every single girl almost. they write down names like Crystal-sheer, Michelle-control top etc. i sit correctly so i dont think they saw mine but w/e

but this is my main problem, they actually asked me and my friends what kind of pantyhose we wear? now isnt that harrassment? some of the girls ignore them, me and my friend were nice and told them we both wear sheer. (all girls in school wear black) then they are like how does sheer and control top look like? i told them that since they look under our skirts so much they should kno and they're like no no no....

we just want to see what is the difference between sheer and control top, once we kno they said they ll stop. so i told them to search it online, they said they cant find it. i was nice enough to send them the link. they told me and my friends that those pics aren't realistic and make excuses. my friends were like okay sry can't help you. now they asked us to lift up our skirts so they can get a good look. of course we said no. so what should i do, i mean their my friends too but its annoying and awkward

Answer 1

This is a big problem, and very inappropriate behavior and they need to be stopped. Someone needs to go to the office and talk to the principal or a trusted teacher. These boys are way out of line there is nothing humorous about their behavior. If they are not stopped the behavior will only continue and I am afraid that it may escalate to something far worse. Please tell someone in the position to do something about it. good luck and God bless

Answer 2

There is nothing wrong with being curious about pantyhose and asking a question. However there is something wrong with making up names for girls in the class for the type of pantyhose that they wear. They definitely should not be asking you to lift up your skirt to show them and then repeating their request after you have already said no. This is considered harrassment, even if the boys aren't meaning to harass you. I would suggest discussing this with a teacher or head of the school (you don't have to name names, just describe that the situation is happening) and hopefully the adult will consider the idea of sitting the whole class down for a chat about what is considered harassment and what is acceptable behavior, and what will be the consequences if the unacceptable behavior continues. That way, the boys don't have to get in serious trouble for their first offense, they can learn that what they are doing is in fact wrong (if they weren't sure), and the boys don't have to know that they were turned in by a friend. If after all this happens and it continues, you can always go back to your teacher with names and a good description of what continued to happen.

Answer 3

Boys and girls have been making each other uncomfortable since the beginning of boys and girls. These boys ARE being kind of geeky, but at least they talk to you and you are talking back. None of you are old enough to really think about sex yet, but that's what they (and maybe you?) are thinking about. You could tell them it isn't any of their business what the private parts of your uniform look like and you would be right to tell them that. You chose to talk to them about it, but you can also choose to stop talking to them about it. If these boys are going around looking under skirts, they'll get busted for it eventually, but they probably won't get much punishment other than getting embarrassed. There is a different set of rules for kids than there is for adults. You could get an adult into serious trouble for this same behavior and it is right that an adult should get punished for something that would just be bad behavior for a kid. Kids is kids. If something about a kid's behavior bothers you, walk away from that kid.

Answer 4

You need new friends , Dont fall into peer pressure , these guys are phsyco , I cant not c why you would still talk to them after they harrass u like this

Answer 5

This sounds like it must be awkward. If she is sixteen and is extreme approximately claiming harassment, she could want to do it through her father and mom as she remains (legally) a minor. is that this somebody you understand individually or in simple terms on line? If that is in simple terms on line, she must be every person of any age! "She" may be a 40 300 and sixty 5 days previous guy for all you understand!!! My suggestion from right here on in is... do no longer touch HER!!! If she contacts you lower back, respond as quickly as saying which you no longer want to talk to her, then BLOCK her and don't respond to something! If she's somebody you meet at school, stay removed from her and ensure there are autonomous witnesses around if she tries speaking to you. If want be, carry a mini tape recorder around with you and hit checklist every time she tries speaking to you. as long as you do no longer say something offensive, and be certain you're saying which you extremely want no longer something greater to do along with her, you haven't any longer something to rigidity approximately. If she nevertheless tries speaking to you once you have instructed her to "pass away", then the tables are grew to become and you may declare harassment!!

Answer 6

Yes this is a form of harassment but I would tend to think it is more of a immature bid for attention. They probably would love to be able to talk with you about something else but feel too shy and awkward.

Answer 7

the problem is not that they know alot about pantyhose, the problem is them looking up your skirts. Its not verbal harassment.

Answer 8

I would say this borders alot on the sexual harrassment side not verbal!!!!
how much respect do you have for yourself? Stress that to the boys and if it does not stop there really tell someone. Stand up for yourself.
these boys are crossing alot of lines here and really stop feeding into it.

Answer 9

You need to talk to a teacher or your principal. What these guys are asking is an invasion of your privacy and it IS harassment! Don't let them get away with it because they're your "friends" - a friend would never disrespect you that way.

Answer 10

Boys whose interest is pantyhose are boys who should be of no interest to you. Unless this is an interest of yours as well.

Personally, I would just look at them as though they were bodies with no heads attached.... because that's what's there.