How to tell daddy... ??

Question

I found out that i am pregnant yesterday. i already told my mom cause i knew she understands these things...but i DONT know how to tell my dad....i dont think he would disown me or anything but i CANT imagine his face or what he would say. my friend told me not to do it in person b/c he might say things that will really hurt me..i know he will get over it..should i write a letter, email, or over the phone and what do i say..????i need help!!! :(

my mom and dad are divorced

and i dont think my b/f should be there...right?

Answer 1

it will really be hard for any dad to find out that their li'l princess who once used to sit in their lap and who's very sweet girl will be a mum soon. esp in that way, out of wed luck. understand him. if he'll say bad words, i guess thats part of the consequences of the things you did right. but maybe one thing can make him ease the hurt is by saying there will be an additional person who will love him. and that you'll promise to be a good parent.

let me assure you, though our parents will really be mad crazy over an unexpected preagnancy, still no one's heart will never ever melt seeing their own grandchild.

hope i did uplifted u....

Answer 2

You are just going to have to face the music.
Talk to dad face-to-face. Before you do, practice the the way you will approach him and the words you will use. Stay calm. Dads can be a little harsh. He might say hurtful things out of anger. It is because he loves you. Remember, he too will be hurt by the fact that HIS baby is now pregnant.
Ask mom to be there with you for support.
It is not a good idea to bring boyfriend!
Don't worry, Dad will get over it. He has no choice. It is something he will have to accept.

Good Luck with all Sweety!

Answer 3

I honestly think the best way would be to tell him face to face. You'll have to look him in the eye sooner or later. It will probably be very hard for him and he will be disappointed. He might even shed a tear and say bad things that he really doesn't mean. After you've told him the best advice I could give is to keep your distance from him for a few days. Let the news sink in and then when things calm down some talk to him in a rational manner. If this was an unplanned pregnancy (which I take it that it is) tell him what you are feeling inside and that you love him. You'll all find a way to pull through it.

Answer 4

This is your dad and obviously you care for him and he cares for you, so go tell him face to face. How can you handle being an adult or parent when you can't take the possibility of someone saying the wrong words to you. Just sit him down and tell him you have something very important to tell him and he may not like it but you would appreciate his support and understanding in the matter. Then just tell him. If he yell then uderstand that this is a shock and let him get his feelings out just as long as he is not being verbally abusive. He will than realize what's important and will come around and make a great grandad. I had to tell my mom about being pregnant, but I had help my other two younger sisters were pregnant too. (we were ages 19,18,16) We had to tell her she was having 3 grandkids in one year. She almost passed out, but she became one of the best grandmoms I have ever seen.

Answer 5

In 1982, I found out I was pregnant. I was away at college, and I called my mom and told her first. My parents were also divorced, but I was closer to her than to my dad, at the time. They both came to my graduation, and my dad had no idea. She didn't tell him until I was about four months along, and I wasn't even at home; I was living in California with my maternal aunt and uncle. I stayed there until my son was born in December 1982, and I came home that Christmas. By that time, my dad had gotten used to the fact that he had another grandson, and he was pretty ok with the whole deal.

My advice would be, have your mother tell your dad, and if he wants to talk to you, have a conversation with him. Let him know up front, or have your mother say this, that there will be NO name calling, NO put-downs, etc. You don't need that, and he doesn't need the guilt. He might be angry or mad at you; let him express his feelings.

Afterwards, hug him and apologize for making such a stupid mistake (getting pregnant), and make a promise to yourself that you won't get caught out there again. Good luck.

Answer 6

If I was to be in your shoes, my mom would understand, but I would fear my dad would disown me as well.
When I would do is take my mom, dad and myself out to dinner. I would choose a public place because knowing my dad if I told him at home, he might swear and yell... but in a public place he can't do that so it gives him time to calm down.
Your mom and you need to sit down with a plan and give it to him straight. Say that you are worried that he will disown you, say your afraid and having him mad at you would really put you over the top.

I hope I helped a little.. I just know what you mean by "dads over-reacting!"

Answer 7

How old are you?
First as hard as it may be, you should give him the repect of telling him in person. Give the same respect you would want. I know it is a hard thing to do but he may surprise even if he does say things that may hurt you, they may have some truth to them and you need to understand you are his little girl no matter how old you are! Dad may be angry at first but he will come around if he truly loves you and want you in his life. And leave your Boyfriend at home as dad may j ust start blaming him instead of listening to you go over in oyur head what you want to say, tell him your as shocked as him but that with family support you can get through it easier. Good luck

Answer 8

well im a father of 2 girls and i personally no matter how much it would bother me or even hurt me would want my daughter to be able to come and tell me something like that to my face. You might be scared, but think he will also respect you for being upfront, emails and on the phone are a cheap way out. Just be strong.

Answer 9

You gotta tell him face to face. Be honest and tell him how you feel. My sister is having the same issue! She hos not told mom and dad and it is driving her nuts!!!! Lets take your dads point of view for a sec. All girls are daddys little princess. I have 2 little ones. Fathers protect, and I would get mad if they got pregnant before marriage. BUT.... I would help her out as much as I can. Tell him how you feel and pray that he understands.

Answer 10

definaatley do not have your friends there.. i had this same problem.. i had to tell my paw paw.. he was the one that raised me from birth, and my paw paw is very very catholic, and im not married and the worst feeling was thinking of how disappointed he would be when i told him.... I told my pawpaw over the phone because i live to far away to do it in person.. telling them in person or over the phone isnt any different the impact is still the same... but i bet tyour dads reaction will not be anything like you expect it to be... a parent has to understand that their little ones grow up and have babies themselves... the reaction i got out of my paw paw was the exact opposite of what i thought it would be.. he said.. well your not a little girl anymore, and he bought me my first baby outfit.. telling your dad will be hard at first but I bet he will be the proudest grandpa ever!!!