After living together for a year he told me he loves me but not 100%. He is younger than me but treats me very well and is very sweet. I do notice he looks at younger women a lot but I believe he is true to me. He acts like he loves me. We have been together for 3 years now and I still feel confused about our future. What do you think? Would you stay with someone if they said they loved you but not 100%?
2006-10-14 07:12:16 · 14 answers · asked by 6-Pack? 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Actually he pays all the bills so there's no free ride. He says he's never loved anyone 100%. But somehow that doesn't make me feel any better about it.
2006-10-14 07:25:25 · update #1
Ask him why he feels the need to add the percentage when he tells you he loves you. If after three years together and living together for a year he cannot get rid of the "100%" thing, that is a problem. He is putting conditions on his love and that is not acceptable, especially considering how long you have been together.
2006-10-14 08:45:30 · answer #1 · answered by Rhode Island Red 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As a guy, I say ditto to most of the other answers so far. When a man tells you he loves you, only not 100%, it means, in this case, that he loves the benefits of having a live-in but he is not prepared to commit to a monogomous relationship with you. Ultimately, he is going to leave you for another woman, perhaps someone younger. Having sex with him on a daily basis will not make him feel any closer to you. If he had intentions of committing to you, he would have done it by now. If you want a man to marry you, you should move on.
Sorry.
2006-10-14 07:45:10 · answer #2 · answered by Leroy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well maybe since he's never told anybody else about the 100% thing then hes' afraid to commit and most likely won't. So don't be surprised if he cheats on you because in his head (and i know because I'm a guy) he'll cheat on you and justify his actions by saying to himself that he doesn't love you 100% so there is nothing wrong with what he did.
2006-10-14 07:22:43 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If someone tells you he does not love you 100 percent it means that he is not ready to commit himself to you in a monogamous relationship such as marriage. If you are in a sexual relationship with someone who admits this to you, then you need to break it off and see him only socially, if at all. After 3 years of dating and he is still undecided, all the sex in the world will not make him any closer to a social committment to you. Find someone else who will love you 100%. Best wishes.
2006-10-14 07:26:27 · answer #4 · answered by Jess4rsake 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Your guy is a honest in measuring his love for you, looking to the life from your point being his partner, ofcourse would be a great experiance..untill you love him.
Once if at any point in your life your love decreases i suppose your relationship would break., so its now important to just take care of your feelings for him....love him as much as you could, if he looks at other women, never mind you are looking at him. This is what counts.
We should accept the person we love in the way they are, if we try to change them and then love them, then that love wouldnt be love, it would be an agreement.
2006-10-14 07:21:55 · answer #5 · answered by Jay Friend 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him what it means to love someone 100%. I mean, how can you be upset if you don't have the terms defined? Right now, all that means is that he doesn't love you 100%, but if you don't know EXACTLY what that means to him, then you don't know what he's feeling.
2006-10-14 07:33:47 · answer #6 · answered by harry_potter_kid 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
what do you mean act like he loves you? maybe you need to talk to him frankly about the 100 %....and tell him how you feel esp when he looks at younger women.......get the true feelings out of him now......before it's gonna hurt you later.
2006-10-14 07:16:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think it's WAY beyond time for him to make a 100% commitment of some kind even if it's just to tell you he loves you. Otherwise..he's just using you young lady.
2006-10-14 07:16:42 · answer #8 · answered by Wolf 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WHAT DO YOU MEAN NOT 100%?? HOW OLD ARE YOU TWO???HE EITHER IS IN LOVE WITH YOU OR NOT. SOUNDS LIKE HE JUST LOVES YOU FOR THE PERSON YOU ARE AND HE'S NOT IN LOVE WITH YOU. THERE'S A BIG DIFFERENCE.
2006-10-14 08:11:54 · answer #9 · answered by kimandkaitlyn2005 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think he means.. so far you are the best thing I have seen.. but I am still looking. You really should not have moved in with in, but I can see why girls do it... free rent for a little sex.
2006-10-14 07:33:04 · answer #10 · answered by lily 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋