help i need advice about depression?

Question

it seems over the last few years i have lost the joy of liveing its almost like i have forgotten how to be happy my mother passed away 2 years ago and thats realley the onley falmey i have except for a step father who abused me as a child both mentle and physical .i have a hard time keeping a job and its getting to the point i have to force my self to get up in the morning ive even concidered sueicid and came close a few times it seems as if i just cant put the abuce of my step father in the past or for give him for the things he has done to me it seems like i am alone in the world where all the doors are locked am i nutts

Answer 1

No you're not nuts...you're a person who's had some pretty tough crap in your life. Talk therapy with a professional psychiatrist and a good anti-depressant would probably really help you. God bless and I hope things get better...suicide isn't the answer. Get help. Please.

Answer 2

I can relate I have gone through a period of mild depression and life can seem very unbearable. I want to teach you a couple of my life lessons:
1) Life is what you make of it -- meaning if you think you world is horrible it will affect your emotions. I think you have reached a point where you feel like you have no one to turn to. All I can see how you considered praying. Prayer has changed my life and maybe it's something you should consider.
2) Hope - You need to look out of the bright side. What have you gained out of your experiences. Maybe a psychologist can help you deal with the abuse but you need to open yourself up to the chance that you can be happy again. Even though you have been victimized by abuse doesn't mean you have to victimize yourself and seek self pity.
3) Vacation - I think you need to retreat to a peaceful place and think about what matters to you. Do you want love? Do you want to live your whole life unhappy or find ways to improve it? Maybe your career isn't going your way. Do you have the resources to continue your education?
Life can either get better or worse only you have the power to move on from your past and make a better life. It might a while to get over your abuse but your center your energies on more positive things maybe take on hobbies like dancing, writing and eventually the hurt will no longer be on your mind.

Answer 3

You're not nuts! You need someone to talk to. I cut and pasted this from a web site. It gives the phone numbers and web sites of people who have been just like you that you can call and talk to. I'd give it a shot.

From http://www.mhsanctuary.com/suicide/hotline.htm:

If you are actively suicidal, call 911 immediately. Your life is worth saving and you are here for a reason. You are a precious, wonderful, and beautiful human being. It is ok that you may not know that now. It is none the less true.

If you are not actively suicidal but need support, I encourage you to call your local suicide/crisis hotline or your Dr. or therapist. Perhaps a close friend you can trust. It may be better to call a local hotline as they may be familiar with your local resources.

You are also free to call or write those listed at our hotline if you are NOT actively suicidal.

I have a list of other resources available as well that you are free to check out.

I encourage you to reach out one way or another.

http://www.mhsanctuary.com/suicide/hotline.htm

Answer 4

Please calm down & listen carefully

1. Make up your mind firmly that you want to live, you want to uncover every hidden gift that life's left for you, and that at the end of your life, you wont regret not having tried

2. Visit a good therapist. No yahoo answer will be able to tell you exactly what to do. There is medication, and there is therapy that will work. Just go take the first step.

3. Believe me, you are very precious as a person, even to people as yet unknown to you. Vow to yourself that you wont let your past encroach on a very bright future.

All the best

Answer 5

it sounds like you may have clinical depression. Please go speak to your family doctor... there is SO much help out there. I also strongly recommend the book: Feeling Good by Dr. Burns. But reach out to the medical or psychological community. There is no need to stay in the dark hole all alone. There is always local distress lines you can call for resources if you don't have a doctor. Check your local yellow pages for distress or help lines.

Reach out for help, it's the way out of this. I'm a counselling intern and can tell you that there is so much hope for feeling better. Medication and/or counselling can make you feel like a new person.

Answer 6

I agree with c_ravi55 I to went through very similar situation in my life when my Mom passed away, its a very traumatic experience and you need to talk to someone. I for one do not believe in the medication route but that is my on belief. I would never try and tell you that it will not work.
I can tell you one simple thought that helped me and everybody reading this will think I'm wrong but just remember one simple saying " There 's always tomorrow" everything starts out new live life to its fullest everyday and put your past behind you.
Time does heal all wounds. Good luck to you and I hope everything works out..

Answer 7

I'm speechless. You went through a lot of crap and i thought i was the only loner in here who have fought the battle against all odd. But, Its good you still have a lot of hope in you and the only thing that would make you feel better about all this is if you confront them. You have a lot to offer to the society and the society has a lot to give back to you.

Answer 8

no, but you should see a psychiatrist to put you back on your feet.