And please don't say she should go have an abortion, because that is a personal choice. I am not against abortion, but you don't tell someone when and where to have one.
2006-10-14 07:09:30 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Tell them they should learn how to keep their legs closed.
2006-10-14 07:11:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
They need to know there is someone there to help, especially new teenage moms. Some are dealing with the shock of not getting any rest, postpartum depression, etc. I think these are cases where the family has got to be there to help. If not, the results can be disastrous if a young mother feels she has nobody to turn to. I do know that Social Services will offer free daycare a couple of days a week for 8 hours each day if a young Mother needs it but what comes with that is an open case and a caseworker, which isn't always a negative thing but not always a positive one either. Church is always a good support group but family is number one.
2006-10-14 07:19:58 · answer #2 · answered by sherijgriggs 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you don't have family support a church is a good option. There is a lot of help out there for single young mothers. They can receive free medical care and food in all 50 states. If the young woman doesn't have anyplace to live most women's shelters will take her in and help her find a place of her own. Pregnancy Crisis Centers will also help. Whether or not she decides to abort, adopt out or keep the baby most of these places will help her.
2006-10-14 07:18:07 · answer #3 · answered by BetteBoop 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
First of all try to keep them calm. In situations of traumatic stress I find that being calm helps calm the other person as well. Explain to the young lady she has choices and you will respect and honor your friendship with her upon her decision. By her sharing this matter with you forms a bond of trust. Try not to violate it no matter how hard it will be. Logically you must consider the law and the young ladies safety. Do not break the law, charged with obstruction or an array of civil charges. You have to consider the worst in an ugly world. Sometime it's better not knowing how this event occurred, she will tell you if you if she wants you to know.Try to involve her mother or another female adult if possiable you both trust. You have to remain impartial when laying out her choices. Try to share with her the hardships she will encounter as well as the beauty in her child being born. You must be very careful not to inflict any of societies stigmas on her. Give her the facts and facts only. Do this while discussing her options. Try to maintain an open line of communication for she has entrusted you with this info. Let her know she will be loved regardless of what she chooses; very important. The important thing you must try to instill with in her is she has options and your support in her time of need.
2006-10-14 08:50:16 · answer #4 · answered by keats b 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I am prolife all the way! I was a teenage mother and the best advice I can give is work hard, love your baby, lean on God, and keep your chin up! Abortion should never be an option! And I don't understand why the girl above me would purposely try to have a baby if you can't afford to take care of it on her own! That's a fair life for the kid! Get a job! Don't raise our taxes so you can play house!
2006-10-14 07:13:25 · answer #5 · answered by *~BETHY~* 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well getting pregnant is just the beginning of their problems. I'd suggest lots of support from the immediate family, and of course the extended family. This way the baby can grow up with love and a stable family unit.
BTW, back in the 1950's for instance, unmarried teenagers were sent away to have their children. They were often sent to a distant relative during preganancy, and had to offer the child up for adoption - the social stigma was that negative back then.
Hopefully there aren't attitudes like that anymore...........
2006-10-14 07:26:43 · answer #6 · answered by LanceMiller77 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
well i am 18 and found out that i am pregnant yesterday :) i would am going to sign up for WIC, Medicaid, and Food Stamps to help out the money issue. Otherwise, i would like people to stop looking at me crazy just because im young...my b/f and i TRIED to have this baby and i would like people to be happy for me instead of disappointed.
2006-10-14 07:13:06 · answer #7 · answered by â?¥CURiOUSâ?¥ 2 · 1⤊ 2⤋
if the mother and father don't want the child, put them up for adoption, there are thousands of couples waiting for a new child to adopt.
2006-10-14 07:22:11 · answer #8 · answered by Cobra 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I suggest them to sign up for WIC, and go to their local human resourse and ask for help their, they'll help, and won't even look down their noses at you! Good luck, and anytime you need more help e-mail me at lill_angel_07_88@yahoo.com. E-mail me day or night I'll always answer.
2006-10-14 07:20:35 · answer #9 · answered by lill_angel_07_88 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
why did noone tell them about abstinance or safe sex? They truly need help now so where is the other half of the moronic couple?
2006-10-14 08:10:41 · answer #10 · answered by nidan 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋