We both know moving in together will benefit both of us. Why is he so scared? Great sex and conversation. Whats the big deal. We love each other why not just say ok and move in?
2006-10-14 07:01:17 · 11 answers · asked by Leslie B 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
the job work with each other in the home thats equall scared i dont think is the matter, falling deeper in love is more of what i feel this is about age to
2006-10-14 07:04:30 · answer #1 · answered by nikk d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gee I don't know if this will help any but I will give it a try . I have Aunt who now is 97 and sharp as a tack . My Uncle was 17 years older then her . She told me the story of how when she met the love of her life . He was great to talk to . He was a worldly man . He was so romantic he swept her off her feet . At this time my Aunt was only 17 her self . But she was no wall flower . It was the 20's . She knew how to shake her stuff . Well my Uncle went after her . Back then you had to get married . None of this living together stuff . All went well for the first 10 years . My Aunt never left her husband . But setting home every night . Seeing my Uncle getting older . Not wanting to go have fun . Now she has two kids . Time went on and my Uncle got sick a lot . But recovered . Now things are different . She not only has to take care of two kids but a aging husband . Will one day my Uncle died . So here sits my Aunt in her 50's no husband kids grown up for the most part . Let face it she was a little old to go clubing . To young to just set home and look out the window . She ended up moving in with her daughter . Be sure that this is what you want . In this case he doesn't want to do the move in thing . Run baby run . Not to mention he might be married . Then at age 45 even divorced he might have kids . Baggage you don't need that either . Or he might have someone on the side besides you . Look real close on this one . Think about why he likes to talk and the sex is great . Maybe it isn't great where he is suppose to be taking it . At Home ! Good Luck .
2006-10-14 14:52:52 · answer #2 · answered by Angel 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is probably wise enough to know that in about ten years when he will be 55, you will have hit your midlife crisis. At that point, there is a great fear as to what it will be like to grow old. At 55 he has already finished mid-life and is comfortable with where he is. What usually happens to women is that they fight the idea of growing older and many of them do it by seeking out younger people and ideas to adapt. That is the point at which many May-December marriages break up. That would be a really unsettling upheaval to a person 55 to have to get back out on the dating scene. That is probably the reason for the hesitation. His age has taught him wisdom that you have not as yet learned. I'm experienced in this situation, I don't recommend it but I hope it works for you. Good luck.
2006-10-14 14:12:03 · answer #3 · answered by darkdiva 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Has he ever lived with anyone before? If not, you have to understand how difficult it could be for someone who has lived alone for 25 years to start living with someone. As much I'm sure he loves you and how happy you are together, living with someone changes your lifestyle. He was used to a degree of independence that he has never lived without. I would suggest that you take it slow, first start spending more and more nights at his place, until you're practically there all the time. It would be less of a shock and allow him to adapt to a lifestyle that is foreign to him.
2006-10-14 14:06:52 · answer #4 · answered by lennox525 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats his past? has in been in a "great" relationship before and when he went that extra step ended up loosing everything. I was married before and it took alot for me to buy a house with someone else. Im still scared to marry her. those are big steps in a persons life and if he has bitten before well then hell be "twice shy"
2006-10-14 14:03:56 · answer #5 · answered by notsoperfectgentleman 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are asking why not, you should realize why not!!
The sex and conversation might be great, but do you really want to move in with someone who doesn't want to (isn't ready to) move in with you.
I think the better question for you to ask yourself is...
Is it worth waiting for him to be ready to move in with me, or should I just keep the great memories I have with him and move on?
Good luck with your decision.
2006-10-14 14:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by Mr. G 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not make the ultimate commitment and get married first? You are both mature adults.
2006-10-14 14:03:54 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because he's married. Seriously.
2006-10-14 14:03:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why not get married first?
2006-10-14 14:02:47 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
BECAUSE HE DOESN'T WANT TO. WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO?
KNOCK HIM OUT AND DRAG HIM? LET IT BE.
2006-10-14 14:03:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋