I feel really guilty after, you know, masturbation. and I really want to stop. I know it's okay, and it can be healthy, but I really want to stop. I hardly ever do it, maybe once a month, but still. Any tips on how to stop?
2006-10-14 06:50:35 · 16 answers · asked by dudette25 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Why do you feel so guilty after masturbating, especially if you only do it once a month? Is it the intensity of the feelings that you have that are making you feel bad? Is it a religious thing with you, that you think you'll go to hell for it?
God created sex, and what better person to have sex with, than with yourself? You already know yourself pretty well, you know you haven't been with X-amount of people, and you know you have no diseases to worry about.
If you REALLY want to stop masturbating, whenever you feel the urge to touch yourself, just take your hand(s), and put them to something mundane, like washing the dishes, or doing laundry. Just occupy yourself with something else, and when you've done this for at least three weeks, you should be ok. Good luck.
2006-10-14 07:17:04 · answer #1 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The one thing that I told myself when I discovered masturbation was that nothing would ever come between me and self-gratification. I wouldn't allow anyone (including myself) to make me feel guilty about pleasing myself. Not religious dogma, not peer pressure, not my parent's point of view-nothing. This was mine, it was sacred and it was perfectly fine.
If you are having problems with it, perhaps there are other issues that you might want to take a look at. You might be one of the many people who believe that they don't deserve good things in life. If this is the case, you might find yourself choosing the wrong guys in life, or choosing a career that you hate. Take a good look at yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you like what you see, and that you deserve all that is good that comes your way. Eventually, you will come to accept the pleasure that masturbation brings, and all other things in life that will make you happy.
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2006-10-14 07:43:17 · answer #2 · answered by Black I 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You know, it is NATURAL. Many people do it, there is nothing to be ashamed of. But if you really do feel that bad about it, whenever you get the urge try to set your mind on something else. Avoid sexual thoughts. Everything will be fine.
But really, in my opinion, you shouldn't feel guilty about what you are doing. There are actually "plus" sides to it. I mean, you are getting sexual gratification WITHOUT the risks. Like un wanted/unplanned pregnancy or STD's. Maybe if you thought of it in that manner you wouldn't feel so bad. I don't know if this helps you at all, but I hope so.
2006-10-14 07:16:44 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
What you're doing is alot better than pregnancy and diseases, so get rid of your urges with self gratification. That will help you not want to go out there and sleep around. Keep up the good work! There's nothing to feel guilty about.
2006-10-14 07:20:00 · answer #4 · answered by Caelan's mom 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The guilty feeling is probably normal at a young age, and I'm sure that it will go away.
Some people masturbate, and some people don't. You just have to figure out which category you're in.
2006-10-14 07:00:40 · answer #5 · answered by Clark W Griswold 4 · 5⤊ 0⤋
The guilt goes away after a while. You are just exploring your body and why stop if it feels good. You keep going back for more don't you?
2006-10-14 06:52:43 · answer #6 · answered by LISA F 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
There is no reason to feel guilty, you would be surprised how many people do that. It is very normal and very healthy.
2006-10-14 07:33:14 · answer #7 · answered by emmadropit 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
oka, you know its healthy and it's not a bad thing (smartier than most people).. well I guess you have to fight the urge to want to. Which will be hard but if you really really want to stop, I guess thats what you'll have to do.
2006-10-14 07:04:58 · answer #8 · answered by lucki_charmed 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is ok to masturbate and you should explore and see what satisfies you. Also masturbation is good during your period to relieve cramps hope that helps
2006-10-15 08:19:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You could try putting your sexual energy into some project like cleaning, or maybe painting/drawing, excersizing...etc. Hope this helps!
2006-10-14 07:01:07 · answer #10 · answered by lil_danca06 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋