I am a straight married mormon girl, and I am friends with a gay guy. I have no problems with that, in fact, I have soooooooooo many questions about it, but I don't want him to think that I'm nosey or that I think he's weird. He's really cool and we laugh like banshees when we hang out. My husband gets along with him too and likes the fact that my friend helps me out a lot with the kids (I was recently in a car wreck). Any thoughts?
2006-10-14 06:45:28 · 24 answers · asked by baabaababy77 2 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
It's okay to ask questions. People are curious about this. They ask me questions all the time. I love to talk about it. People often ask me questions that seem rather stupid, like "Why did you choose to become a homosexual" or the like, but that's just because they haven't thought about it much before they met me.
Go ahead and ask him all you want to know. If he doesn't like it, he'll tell you. Either way, you won't be the first person asking him questions.
2006-10-14 07:50:01 · answer #1 · answered by Ti 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Shoot ask the questions. If you two are cool like you say he wont think your being nosey he may want to talk to you about these things but be afraid of what you may say. I have a gay friend and we talk about alot of things Ive asked a lot of questions and sometimes Im not even sure that I should but if it offends him and you are friends he wil tell you and you will apologize and move on from there. I mean thats what I think but my friend and I are really open. I have a gay nephew as well and we talk he doesnt always answer the questions but we always get a good laugh.
2006-10-14 06:50:33 · answer #2 · answered by trauniholmes 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Olli, why ask why? It is the way it is, the way it was. It's a lot better than it was even twenty years ago. I had a lot of gay friends in college, but there's only one 'best' friend. And he was the guy who was my partner when we went backpacking and rock climbing. We just shared so many interests and so much time together. It wasn't a knock on my gay friends. We still did a lot of stuff together, they had a lot of fun at my expense and I always managed to see the humor. I actually was a roommate (4BR house) with a woman who was/is lesbian. We lived together almost two years. 70s version of Will and Grace. She used to tease me unmercifully. Tolerance is slowly seeping into society. Patience, Grasshopper.
2016-05-22 01:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get to know him a little better, and 1) he'll know that you DO like him as a person, and not a token, and that you aren't just some stranger asking rude questions and 2) you'll get to know if he minds.
I'd suggest starting out with "May I ask a rude question?". For a lot of people, they're fine with it, and will be happy to tell you politely when it's too personal. Other people get sick of having to educate people all the time.
2006-10-14 17:41:12 · answer #4 · answered by Atropis 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In my exerience, gay guys are no different from anyone else when it comes to answering questions about their lifestyle, if they feel your curiosity is based on wanting to understand them better as a person/friend. For straight people it's not so much having trouble accepting someone who is attracted to the same sex as being aware that gay men have probably suffered a great deal of societal rejection in their lifetime, and that is definitely a big part of their psyche - so to get to know them really well, you have to let them know you ackowledge that fact. But then move on and ask your questions. You don't need to know details of their sexual doings (would you ask that of anyone else?) but gay men are pretty open about sex, so you have to accept that as part of being gay. I guess having lots of sex available kind of makes up for the social rejection to some extent. The gay guys I know are pretty gifted and easy to talk to and I hope your friend is too.
2006-10-14 06:54:19 · answer #5 · answered by Miz Teri 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are uncomfortable asking then you body language and vibes will also make him uncomfortable in answering. There is the public library where you can learn about the mechanics of sex. If you are wanting to understand why he is gay then you can study the psychological and physical reasons for being gay. After you have some knowledge of this lifestyle than you will be more comfortable asking .
2006-10-14 06:58:33 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
gay guys are still men
i think you might know this guy well enough to ask
but just remember what the stereotype male is like when you ask a personal question so be care full as long as he knows your only wanting to know for your own interest i am sure he will spill hes beans
but of coarse if he doesn't want to talk about some thing don't make him and recommend not doing it near the kids as the will only hear things they really should not
2006-10-14 07:02:43 · answer #7 · answered by Zara3 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you're going to ask him a question, make sure that it comes out like you're actually curious and want to know, and not teasing him. Also, try not to make it too personal. If in doubt, don't ask. By the way, sorry about the car wreck. I hope you feel better soon.
2006-10-14 06:50:56 · answer #8 · answered by gaygoddevil 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I say ask away. Give him an out first like - I'm dying to ask you some questions about being gay, but if I get too personal or offend you please tell me and I won't get offended.
I wouldn't be offended by that and it sounds like you have a good relationship. I doubt he'll be upset by it and may be happy to have the questions out. I always am when my straight friends finally ask.
Good luck!
2006-10-14 06:49:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
IT sounds like y'all have a great relationship, and I'm sure he wouldn't mind answering your questions. He'd probably rather get it out in the open than worry about what you're thinking or wondering about.
2006-10-14 06:47:51 · answer #10 · answered by Lady J 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋