My bf and and i have been together almost 4 years and we like to go out and have a good time going to clubs and partys and sometimes the drinks get the best of us and we forget to use protection i really did not see this as a big deal because nothing has ever happened before but my period is late was supposed to have been last week of september and it is still not here. I feel fine but the test say that i am pregnant?This is my last year of college for me and bf i dont want to be pregnant this really does not fit into our lifestyle right now what should i do talk to him?
2006-10-14 06:37:50 · 24 answers · asked by Emma R 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Both of us come from traditional catholic families mine are Spanish his are Italian/Greek who would not like this at all.
2006-10-14 06:38:25 · update #1
I would be humiliated to graduate college pregnant!and so would my family!
2006-10-14 07:02:16 · update #2
I suggest you get a quiet abortion and quit your drinking and carousing ways.
Also use a condom.
2006-10-14 06:41:21 · answer #1 · answered by nora22000 7 · 0⤊ 3⤋
If you are both mature enough, then no it wont ruin your relationship....
... if neither of you are ready, then it has a possibility of ruining your relationship.
You should really talk to him before you do anything. You never know what he may say. If he agrees that neither of you is ready, have an abortion if that is what you want.... and start using birth control so this wont happen again. If you didnt want a child, you really should have already been on birth control pills.
But in my opinion... a child is much better than "partying".
Ok, your friends are out having fun drinking and dancing. You've been there done that. And by Tuesday morning, last Friday's escapades will be a distant memory w/ nothing to write home about. And the coming up Friday will be same thing different day. Trust me, you're not missing out.
But with a baby, you'll have life changing events that may happen on a Friday and you'll never forget them for the rest of your life. Your baby will smile at you one day or sleep through the night- the little things that are so much more important and fufilling than a couple kamakaze shots on a Friday. Plus, you can still have fun w/ your friends- on occassion, just get a babysitter and have a blast.
Its your life and your choice though...
2006-10-14 06:44:28 · answer #2 · answered by Ashley P 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Seriously, I would not worry about the relationship. I'd be worried about the fact that you're pregnant and don't want to be. He's as responsible as you for this and now you'll have to make some tough decisions, either to do something against your religion (abortion) and I know premarital sex is also not well tolerated by the Catholic Church or have a baby and give it up for adoption or keep it and get married or keep it and stay single. Anyhow, pregnancy tests very, very rarely give false positives so you almost certainly are pregnant. You need to talk to the guy and get a game plan going - ignoring it won't help. If your relationship can't withstand this at least you'll know where you stand. Good luck!
2006-10-14 06:45:33 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
The test only picks up the hormones that your body releases during pregnancy so if it says that you are pregnant, then you are. There are many options for people who get in your situation. I'm sure that being pregnant your senior year of college was not in your plans and it may take your families a while to adjust to but many people have been there and it works out fine. If being unmarried is the problem you could get married. I got married while in college at 21 and things worked out fine. Good Luck with everything.
2006-10-14 07:10:34 · answer #4 · answered by Jenny 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you have to decide what is most important to you right now. This baby you two created , with the help of some alchohol?? Or your lifestyle, your last year of college, and your relationship with this young man??
Think about how you willl feel five years from now about all this, too. Maybe that will help. Having a baby is a huge responsibility, and so is being pregnant, so let that factor into your thinking.
Nearly all colleges have student health services and student counseling/psychologist services. They are confidential, and usually are free or cost next to nothing. It would be good to have someone non-judgemental to talk to about all this. Please make an appointment right away.
There is always adoption, too. D
2006-10-14 06:45:02 · answer #5 · answered by EmLa 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
you guys have been together for four years and you are worried about talking to him about this? sounds to me like you have been having some serious doubts since WAAAAAY before you found out about your baby. but the best thing to do would be to have a doctor comfirm it first and quickly. and it will be difficult, but you can finish college while pregnant. if you two don't want to have the baby there are options, but you both need to discuss them before you go and make any snap decisions. Unwanted pregnancies are always scary, but you can talk with your local health department and social services about what you can do. and believe me, no matter how you look at it or what you do, y'all's family should not be in the equation anywhere. you need to focus on what is the best for you, your bf and your baby. not what anyone else will think. and a little tidbit of info...for future reference..babies never fit into your lifestyle unless you are willing to make them. you can't just expect everything to fall into place.
2006-10-14 06:48:59 · answer #6 · answered by Donna L 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Babies are a gift from GOD. HE wanted you to have it right now, you may not think that it is the right time, but it just might be. Maybe this will stop you from patying so much. I wouldn't give it up. My b/f's family is the same way, but they accepted us and of course the baby. Why would you be embarrased to graduate pregnant? Atleast you finished!!! I think yes talk to him and tell him how you feel, I really hope that you keep the baby cuz it's not it's fault for being here and so so many women try to get pregnant and can't!!!!
2006-10-14 07:36:26 · answer #7 · answered by mamaof2 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I thought Catholisism is against abortion and having sex before marriage!? If you didn't want the risks, and for your family to not find out, you should've used something. Your family will get over the "humiliation" as soon as they see that beautiful baby. Please don't kill a baby just because you're worried about what everyone will think. Plenty of people get pregnant in college. At least you will have an educatiuon when the baby is born. If your boyfriend loves you, he will marry you and take responsibility for his actions. Good luck with it all, but please consider the welfare of the life that is growing inside you.
2006-10-14 07:31:00 · answer #8 · answered by Caelan's mom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well if your boyfriend doesnt want to raise a child then this could ruin your relationship and if you dont want to raise a child then all that willhappen is you will neglect the child and not give it as much attention as it deserves. You need to stop all the reckless living(smoking, drinking, partying, and eevn drugging) its only going to lead to problems.
no one here can help you. you have to look within YOURSELF and see what your HEART feels is right and og with that discision.
I wish you the best of luck
p.s. It doesnt matter what kind of background you come from, how you live your life, what your parents feel, or what religion you were raised to follow at the end of the day its YOUR body and YOUR child so you do whats right for YOU and not ANYONE else not even your boyfriend!!!!
2006-10-14 06:46:29 · answer #9 · answered by Chocolate Model Intellect 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Well you now have someone else to lookout for other than yourself. You are in college so you know very well you have to be responsible for your actions and he needs to know so he can be responsible also. You have to be a responsible adult now and start owning up to some of the things you need to get the ball of maturity rolling. Having an abortion is an ignorant, immature, childish way of handling pregnancy, that will scar you for life. When you have an abortion the doctor goes into your womb, crush the skull and body parts, bones, skin, organs, limbs, of the fetus and suck them up through a tube into a jar and simply discard them. If that don't leave you scared for life I don't know what will. Both of you were acting irresponsibility and you have to grow up sometime.
2006-10-14 07:11:19 · answer #10 · answered by barbie2 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
This is all up to you. If you know you cannot handle a baby at this point in your life, and it seems like it wasn't planned, you'll have to start thinking about abortion or adoption. If neither are good for you, you two will have to step up. A baby isn't something to be forgotten about. It's a real step, and it makes you grow up FAST. I would talk to your boyfriend and find out what's best for you. If your boyfriend doesn't want to support you through this, there isn't any point in being in this relationship. You have a decision to make, and I would make it sooner than later. Good luck!
2006-10-14 06:47:35 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋