When I didn't have a job my boyfriend paid for everything, now he's unexpectedly doesn't have one and I pay for everything, neither of us mind for neither situation. He's a great guy, doesn't cheat, doesn't look at other women, we're really open with one another. But he recently came into some money and the first thing he did was buy the latest videogames. I expected him to get me something since its been a while and he did eventually but not with much enthusiasm and very little thought, and no where near the price amount of the videogames, meanwhile im still paying for things. I'm really mad at him and he knows it. But am I right for wanting to be first and for expecting him to be more grateful?, I was with him.
2006-10-14 06:16:37 · 6 answers · asked by Dood 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
It's weird that he knows that you are not happy about you two's situation, and he still doesn't do anything about it. I would suggest you to talk to him, and really just lay it out. I don't know how long you guys have been together, but maybe he just thinks differently than you. Be completely honest with him, and really express how you feel. I think if he really cares about your feelings, he will do something about it. You might find out that he's just not thinking too much when he bought all the video games, I mean, that's just how guys are. Next time he expects you to pay for things, and you know he has money, confront him.
2006-10-14 06:30:50 · answer #1 · answered by Deesa 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you serious? Whats with the "I expected him to get me something" Thats your downfall right there. You say you are really open with each other but it doesnt sound like it to me. If that were the case you wouldnt have to ask this question here instead you would be talking with him about what you expect from each other.
Boys will be boys sweety & videogames are on his mind more than buying you something nice. Sucks I know but it is true. I dont think you are wrong for expecting him to put you first but part of having an open relationship is knowing that about one another & what the expectations are not only with money but everything. Dont argue over it, it is only money, but do try & tell him how this upset you & made you feel as though you are not his first priority. Good luck hey, as I said, boys will be boys!
2006-10-16 09:19:34 · answer #2 · answered by Mrs D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends how you see it!! Material things faith with time but spending great times with your boyfriend remain in your heart. If it bothers you too much let him know how much it really bothers you.. But you can't always expect for him to give you full attention at all times. As a couple you both need your own space. Also you can't always expect things from him to you. It has to come out of him to do so.. I really wish you the best and remember when you stop expecting things from him. You might just get a surprice from him.
2006-10-14 13:29:33 · answer #3 · answered by hazelshine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You 2 have different expectations. That's what getting to know someone is all about.
2006-10-14 13:22:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just point blank tell him that it's your turn for him to buy you something and tell him what you want. Don't beat around the bush, he already knows this. The direct approach is the best approach, good luck.
2006-10-14 13:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by KonSengWon 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to talk to him and resolve this,don't waste time here.Best wishes!
2006-10-14 13:20:18 · answer #6 · answered by ♥beautyfly♥ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋