I have found lately that when my good friend tells me about her and her husband fighting that I begin to attack my husband and start a fight. Why do I do this and how do I slap myself silly and make it stop?
2006-10-14 06:12:25 · 14 answers · asked by Stacey 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Ok, Now that I can stop my reaction to hearing her complain ALL the time, how do I back away a little from her we have been friends a long time!
2006-10-14 06:22:04 · update #1
First of all... the nature of humans is input/output... if you hang around and are such close friends with a husband hating woman, you'll be more inclined to do so... it's almost as if it's a subconscious form of peer-pressure. Perhaps you're trying to make yourself to be able to relate to your friend... however, you should weigh your priorities between friendship with a troubled woman and your husband to whom you (should be) bound to the rest of your life.
You can keep the friend, but talk to her about how it's unappreciated... talk about something else... who wants to talk about crappy husbands all the time?
2006-10-14 06:17:46 · answer #1 · answered by bigcatbarber 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your friend to solve her oun problems and realize that you and your husband are alright, and apologize to him. And it would be a good idea to stay away from your fighting friend for a while and be with your husband. Sounds like you have some making up to do.
2006-10-14 13:16:51 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do you watch TV? There's far too much family violence on TV. Like, I used to listen to heavy metal at high volume and wonder why I was fighting with everyone...lol. To learn control, take up martial arts or something and stuff like Tai Chi will give you great mind-body control. So when you try to argue and fight your training will shout STOP!
2006-10-14 13:18:58 · answer #3 · answered by Thx 4 All The Fish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She's your friend so you ought to be able to speak with her honestly, so tell her that it bothers you when she complains about her husband and you would rather not get into this kind of discussion. Say "Let's enjoy our time together and not spoil it with negative conversations".
2006-10-14 13:32:04 · answer #4 · answered by Bethany 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is really weird. I don't know what to tell you, but is your husband doing something wrong? If not, then you should try to control yourself, and let him know how you are feeling. Good luck!
2006-10-14 13:14:42 · answer #5 · answered by leazngurl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u should think of your husband and try to avoid this topic with your friend or if thats not as easy to do tell your friend wats happening if shes a realy friend that should be enough
2006-10-14 13:21:23 · answer #6 · answered by allme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think that you need to tell this friend of yours that although you are friends that you don't want to listen to her problems any more. tell her you have enough on you own plate to deal with. that might hurt her feelings but you need to worry about your marriage, not hers. i myself had this happen and this is what i did and things went well after that. and yes she was still my friend. some times friend load there problems on to you in hopes that you can solve them, but no matter what advise you give them they don't take it, so why bother. worry about you and stop listening to her problems.
2006-10-14 13:18:57 · answer #7 · answered by here to help 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your just afraid that if she's having trouble,sooner or later you will have trouble. The best thing you can do is be a friend to her and not bring it home with you.
2006-10-14 13:17:04 · answer #8 · answered by mopjky 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounnds like you need to be bent over my knee and spanked
2006-10-14 13:17:19 · answer #9 · answered by xlhdrider 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take a breath before you speak and grow up.
2006-10-14 13:14:34 · answer #10 · answered by Val 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋