I'm the 14 yr old that think she's pg...the guy says he doesnt wanna help....is that normal??

Answer 1

well what do you excpect when you play around..


"if your willing to play you better be willing to pay"

mabye next time you will think before spreading you legs!!!!!!!!!

Answer 2

No, it's not normal for a 14 year old to be pregnant. If the guy is of a similar age, what kind of help do you expect?

If the guy is over 18, it might be considered "normal" for him to be afraid, especially if he considers the trouble he may face from the law. That, alone, may cause him to either disappear, or face up to his responsibility.

Interestlingly, YOU hold all the cards. If it can be demonstrated that HE, in fact, IS the father, you can force him to help. Or, the authorities can force him to help. HE is the adult, and he should have known better.

In any case, you do need help. You need to start seeing a doctor and make sure you have the financial help you need to raise this baby.

No one should "exactly" blame you for getting pregnant, but I will say that you are old enough that you, too, should have known better.

Meanwhile, get help from your parents. And, if the father of the baby does not want to help, call Child Protective Services, or the equivialant, in your city.

Answer 3

ummm...yea that's normal, being that your both still kids yourself. now would be a good time to see if you really are pregnant by taking an at home pregnancy test. but make sure it's been atleast 10 days since you're missed period or you may get a false answer on the test. as for the guy saying that, well if he's around your age then i could see why he's saying that he doesn't want to help. that doesn't make it right but you can't expect much out of someone that's still child being raised himself. you better hope you're not pregnant because you being so young, is really gonna cut alot of your childhood time off and i don't think you want that. just be more careful with yourself.

Answer 4

First you really should get tested. If you ARE pregnant, then you should tell your parents and let them get you in to see a doctor! If you are NOT pregnant, you should stop having sex and get a good education (including sex ed so you will be aware of the dangers of having unprotected sex!!!) If you insist on having sex, you should go to planned parenting and get educated on the different methods of birth control as well as disease control. If you are pregnant you should also check out the different options of what to do with the child... at your age, putting the child up for adoption would probably be the best option - unless you plan to dump the child on your parents or have an abortion. (I personally do not recommend an abortion. There are too many people out there who WANT children but cannot conceive.) I wish you well!

Answer 5

Listen, everyone makes mistakes, don't let these holier than thou people grind u into the dirt. I'm sure u understand now the severity of the situation. Now make the best of it. Please do not kill your baby. The father will not change his position and even it he did the two of u are not ready for such a commitment. Believe me I'm 23 and I know I can't handle another. Talk to your parents if u can. But either way go talk to an adoption counselor. Trust me, its a choice that u will be able to live with. Good luck babe.

Answer 6

Yes this is normal, even at an older age guys are more likley to run from the situation, its time to drop a lot things you enjoy doing for that baby. Good luck and now that you can be strong and do it on youre own you definetly dont need a guy

Answer 7

Nowhere in your question did you say he was 14. Here's a little lesson. If you decide to have and keep the baby, he is responsible and a part of this from now on, whether he wants to be or not. Half of the creation of this life is his responsibility. That means that half the support for this child is on his shoulders. He doesn't have a choice, legally or morally. You need to contact your state office of child support as soon after the birth as you can so they can work out his part of this. DO NOT LET HIM OFF SCOTT FREE OR YOU WON'T BE THE ONLY ONE WITH ONE OF HIS CHILDREN. You want to be adult enough to involve yourselves sexually, let's be adult enough to manage your co duties as parents.

Answer 8

If he is 14 also it's normal for him to not want to be there. Play and no responsibility. Now don't get me wrong I'm not saying it's right, but that's how it usually goes. Try to get child support, but with you being 14 you may have to turn over custody to your parents until you turn 18. Good Luck.

Answer 9

I'm assuming that the guy is around your age. If he is older, he should be ashamed of himself. Second many men just don't want the responsibility. they'll lay up in bed with you with no problem but once you tell them ur pregnant either they'll say its not their baby or say they don't want anything to do with it. You need to speak with your parent or guardian tough as it may seem. If he is already saying he doesn't want to help he probably never is going to come around. You are a young person yourself and shouldn't be going thru this alone. best of luck.

Answer 10

I'll just assume he's more than likely around your age, so I'm sure he's very scared. Both of you are children yourself, so naturally - he's gonna freak out (and you might too.) Just take everything one step at a time - you're not even sure if you're pregnant, so first find that out for sure and then go from there.

Answer 11

YES. He (and you) are kids still! He just wanted sex, neither of you are mature enough to take care of a baby. Do your child a favor and give it up for adoption to a couple who will love and care for your child as it deserves. Don't be selffish! And for God's sake STOP HAVING SEX or at LEAST use birth control and condoms so you don't get pregnant again or spread diseases!