I mean why be gay if people are going to hate you for it? I just don't want that.
2006-10-14 05:56:48 · 20 answers · asked by born_tooh_bee_wild 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
Because there are people out there that accept gays. It would be like hmmm knowing you have grey hair but because you dye it brown every one thinks you have brown hair. are you going to keep dying you hair for the rest of your life with out anyone ever knowing?
2006-10-14 06:01:47 · answer #1 · answered by angelic_devil30 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Not all people like straight people either but straight people give an I don't care attitude just as I do being gay. You have a great life to live and coming out of the closet is where you will see who your true friends are...better to be happy and out than in and scared....
2006-10-14 20:05:21 · answer #2 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some people do that and are perfectly fine living that way. But if you want what most people have, love, respect, harmony, and peace, you will want to find someone to spend that time with. If you are gay, you don't want to involve yourself with a heterosexual because one day you will wind up hurting that person and why even start.
You can be out as little as you want, just enough to maintain a relationship if you want. No one says you have to be out at work, or with your family (your mother already knows btw), or any place else.
Don't judge the rest of the world by what you read here. The black hearted hate mongers on this site are simply kids with nothing better to do with their time and who have parents who obviously don't care enough about them to pay attention to them. Just pay attention to their language and sentence structure, its obvious.
The world is a big place and I have found that most people are decent, good and kind. Risk love, its well worth it.
2006-10-14 13:07:02 · answer #3 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you are happy to stay in the closet, then that is your decision, there is no rule that you must be out loud and proud. Remember not everyone would hate you, but there are still alot of ignorant people out there, I have some gay friends and they are simply the best, you are what you are so be proud.
2006-10-14 13:01:40 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
You have to come out and live your life for yourself and not worry about what other people think of you. I used to think the same way but now I don't give a damn. I'm out and i'm happier than ever. I said f*ck it. let them talk behind my back and whisper. I was so miserable closeted. You will be really depressed inside of the closet if you stay in there forever. I knew i couldn't, I thought about killing myself but came out instead which i'm glad i did.
2006-10-14 13:07:05 · answer #5 · answered by What'd You Say? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Staying in the closet makes you pale…Hahaha! “A little breaking of the ice with “humor.” Your life will stay as difficult as it is now. What you need to do is just live your life as normal as possible. Accepting your gay is not about how others accept you but how you accept yourself.
What’s most disturbing to you is how your family and friends will accept you being gay. That’s why you wish to stay in the closet as it were.
We are all human, the paths we choose in life makes all of us unique in our own way. Our profession, the type of friends we choose, and the relationship that we choose to have with them and our family.
Its much easer saying your gay then it is to admit to them that you are gay. You no doubt fear the loss of their friendship, and the love and respect of your family.
The problem is, that they do not live your life, you do! They are not the one feeling the loneliness of a companion, you are! They are not the ones hiding who they are, you are!
Your friends like your family chosen their path in life. And you have accepted them that way but you fear how they will not accept the life you have chosen.
If your friends do not accept your sexuality then they have issues not you. Nonetheless, I think the issues are with you not them. Once you openly admit your sexuality life will be a lot less hectic for you. Oh sure, in the beginning it will be a little bumpy with them but once they get use to it they will come around. Especially if they love you. Good luck!
2006-10-14 14:03:05 · answer #6 · answered by poppop 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the ones who are repressed and still in the closet and dont have morals are the dangerous sexual predators, going for the easy prey. Be who you are and dont hide it because there is nothing to hide, ever wonder that everyone else knows you dont have a girlfriend? Come on you are thinking, Jerry Springer Gay, raunchy Faggotty, flambouant. Im gay and I wear my tuckin shirts with levi's. Build yourself up if that worries you, being harrassed, build yourself mentally and Physically. Imagine there is someone for you, your better half out there and you dont make the effort to find and discover who he is. Dont be alone for the rest of your life, now older I realize I dont crave the sex, but the companionship of another.
2006-10-14 13:21:50 · answer #7 · answered by zuegma1977 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Answer me this, do you enjoy lying to others? Do you enjoy not being able to walk down the street side by side with your chosen as heterosexual couples do, unharassed?
They call it a closet. It isn't. It's a cage. If you accept living in a cage, be my guest.
I refuse to tiptoe through life to arrive safely at death. If you can't enjoy life, what's the point of living at all? Everyone won't like you. Some may hate you. If you give in to that, they've won.
It's your choice.
2006-10-14 13:09:59 · answer #8 · answered by IndyT- For Da Ben Dan 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may seem that way. People are sometimes "scared" of things they have little knowledge about. There is not anybody here on earth that should judge anybody else for what they do, say, believe, etc. Only you can make you happy. I truely feel that we need to, as a whole, think about how YOU feel. You, at some point, have had to struggle with your own mind. Why should anyone make it even harder? What right does society have?
2006-10-14 13:04:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
it's entirely up to you whether you want to live out or in the closet. whatever makes you feel better.
same for the question about being gay or not being gay. I believe you have complete control over what you want to live.
So it's all up to you.
2006-10-14 13:44:28 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋