Can I just move out at 16?

Question

I was wondering if I can move out at 16? I'am constantly emotionally abused by my mom... she always finds a new reason to put me down. I have considered suicide many times but I really don't want to end my life like that. I really don't know what to do anymore. I have a good job, I keep good grades and I'm a very independent person. I really can't put up with her putting me through this hell anymore.I have run away once and the police got involevd but they took her side because she is a fake person and told them lies... so if someone can answer this for me please do so as soon as possible...Thankyou

Answer 1

You need to call the child maltreatment hotline and get the Department of Human Services involved. Their job is to protect children. You need to tell them that you have considered suicide due to the emotional abuse by your mother. They will most likely remove you from your home and put you with another family member until they can fully investigate your claim. You can ask for emancipation and that is where you legally become an adult (before 18) and you becoming solely responsible for yourself.

Seek help from a counselor also. It may be that you are just 16. I remember being 16 and thinking that my mom was the worst person in the world. Now that I am 34 with 2 kids and a house full of responsibility, I realize that my mom is the smartest person I know.

Keep your chin up, pray and seek help and you will get the help you need! Good Luck honey!

Answer 2

It's not as simple as just moving out. Where will you live? Places won't rent to 16 year olds. Do you really know how much it costs to buy food, pay utilities and buy clothes, etc? Don't put yourself in a worse situation than you are now.

But that doesn't mean you should stay in an abusive situation. Staying or running away are not your only options. I suggest speaking with your school counselor. Write down examples of what your mom says to you and bring it with you. They can help assess whether your mom's behavior is abusive and help you in the next step, either contacting children services on the extreme or counseling for you and your mom. The counselor can even help you learn how to handle the pressure, if that's all it is. Sometimes it helps just to have someone on your side. =) good luck to you!

Answer 3

Call the Clerk of the Court where you live (the phone number will be in the pink pages of your big county phone book). Ask for information about "emancipation".

Most states have 18 as the age where a minor can "just move out" (no questions asked), but, to be able to do it legally if you are UNDER 18 (where your parent can't have you hauled back home), you have to be declared by the Court to be an "emancipated minor", which mostly means that you have proven (to the Court) that you are able to support yourself 100% (meaning a roof over your head, food, transportation, insurance, etc.).

If you have seriously considered suicide, please call someone. Your life is not over - it is just beginning, I promise you that. Are you still in school? Go and talk to your guidance counselor. Even if you think the person is a jerk, they do have a legal responsibility to report your problem - which might be just what is needed to get an intervention. This might be the best route to go until you can legally move out.

If you are NOT still in school. please do whatever it takes to get back in. Not only do you need your education, but, if you do end up going before a Judge, they will surely count it against you if you are a drop-out.

In the meantime, save every penny you earn, so that when you DO move out, you are able to sustain yourself. There is nothing worse than being young and in debt, believe me.

My mother (R.I.P.) was a neurotic nutcase. I stayed in school, worked, and moved out at 18. I survived, and you can, too. Be smart about it.

Best of luck to you, sweetie. You matter. The world would NOT be a better place if you weren't in it.

Answer 4

Girl ! suicide is not an option.Try with all your might to get your mom and you to counseling.Even if you pay for it yourself.You sound mature ,but are you?Your independence could be a problem.You and your mom need to sit down and be able to bend more than 75% on all issues.You both are in a relationship that depends on each other.As bread winner,mom,and care giver ,your mother has responsibility over you.I hope that she is a parent with discipline.In the long run it will be better than being a spoiled person.She has your future at heart.Best of luck.I've seen two suicides and it changed nothing,except a foolish loss of life.

Answer 5

It isn't uncommon for people your age to feel this way. Legally, you can't move out of your mother's home until you are 18, unless you have another option such as living with relatives or friends. You don't state any reasons why you feel this way, other than she is mean. Many teens feel this way. You are at an age where you are testing the limits and want to break free of what you perceive as oppressions and limitations. But if you look at it from Mom's viewpoint, she is responsible for you until you are of legal age to do it yourself. The situation isn't easy for either of you, but you will have to try and get along with her and follow the rules set down for you until you are of age. Doing it any other way only makes it harder for both of you.

Answer 6

Depends on the state, but I think I have a better idea. Get a tape recorder, and record everything your mom says. Turn this in to the police, or move to another family's house with the tape, and let them hear it

Answer 7

I'm sure your mommy loves you very muchy on the inside, she may have just beem abused as a child and thinks its the right way to treat children, same here, i share your pain, at two times in my life, i was thinking of suicide but those two times two things saved me, the first time it was christianity, i became a christian, and i found out God loved me and sent his one and only son to die for everyone.The second time and up till now was a girl i met, she changed my whole life around, when I look at her beautiful face I see reason to carry on living, I see her as princess among angels but she doesn't like me, but the point is, i think there is another way, don't leave home, your parents will hate themselves for being "bad parents" and they may even think of suiciding, just like what you are thinking of doing right now.

People reading this. Please do not bag out Christianity, it can save lives, imagine someone so depressed, thinking noone loves him/her and then finds Christianity, and finds out that a God out there loves us, in fact so much to send his son to die for the world.

Answer 8

no. I'm sure your mom love you stay at home with her . there to many thing happening out there to kids just like you . we all have went threw this with our parents but they just want the best for us .you have two more years before you can make your own decisions life is hard listen to your parents . so good luck

Answer 9

i agree with scorebore, if you find legit proof of the household's problems, such as a videotape, or a audio recording. you may be put in a better location

best of luck

Answer 10

Just two years until you're 18. Talk to your school Psychologist and stick it out until you graduate. You'll be alright!