my uncle is horribley mean he thinks of children as being VERY inferior i know hes older and supposed to be wiser but being so crude minded i dont think much of him at all. iv come across a few situations in life where i was told in one form or another that because i was a "child" i was less then. i felt like i was an equil an confrentations have caused me much grief. why dose everything allways have to be right or wrong? am i really less because of my age?
2006-10-14 05:01:15 · 25 answers · asked by dizzogurl 4 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
*** due to a series of very unfortunite events i have to live with him, in his house, under his demented rules.
2006-10-14 05:11:09 · update #1
Most certainly not. You may be young, yet those individuals may simply not know how to deal with your outward feelings. They may have been raised like that and only know one way of dealing with it - neglect.
You should not give in... you should continue to share your opinions/feelings! -- of course in a respectful manner though
2006-10-14 05:14:59 · answer #1 · answered by RIG 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Age certainly doesn't determine how much a person is worth. It sounds like your uncle may be a little narrow minded. Also as you get older you do mature and grow as a person (or at least you should). I look back at myself 5 years ago and think wow I had no idea what I was doing and I am almost 30. Just keep in mind that everyone has a lot to learn and even though you feel grown up sometimes you have to understand that adults may not treat you like an equal because they don't yet see you that way. Don't take it personally its just the way of the world. Also don't be in a rush to grow up and be an adult. It sucks having a lot of responsibility.
2006-10-14 05:06:06 · answer #2 · answered by T.i.f.f.a.n.y 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You are definately NOT less of a person because of your age. Your uncle sounds like he has low self-esteem. People with low self-esteem usually try to deal with those feelings by trying to make OTHER people feel inferior. I suspect though, that your UNCLE is the one who feels inferior. You need to understand that older most definately does NOT necessarily mean someone is wiser. We can use your uncle as an excellent example of that.
When I was growing up (in the 50's), children were pretty much treated like possessions - like a piece of furniture, or a car or a house. I remember my mother used to tell me that "children should be SEEN and not heard". I can't even begin to tell you how much I hated that phrase.
Your age most definately doesn't mean you are "less than". Don't fall for anyone who tries to make you think differently.
2006-10-14 05:18:34 · answer #3 · answered by loveblue 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
With brief description you told it sounds like your Uncle is less of a person. He should be teaching you by telling you examples of thing that he experienced in life on big issues. If your bickering about little stuff then you need to ask yourself how much respect do you deserve mutual consideration and respect are earned. The more like an older person you act should get you the respect you desire. Should you be in situation where this is not going to happen, then you need to act more like an adult. There are times when you need to value yourself as a person, but learn how to go with the flow. Keep in mind how it would feel to be much older and have young relative come and live with you. Ask him how he feel about current situation. Try to understand were he is coming from, and very politely ask him to try and understand were you are coming from. Hopefully in time both of you can develop better relationship.
2006-10-14 05:47:12 · answer #4 · answered by Mister2-15-2 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, in a way the child is not on the same level as an elder. In everything in life, we have to earn respect and position in life.
That is why adults are the parents... not the kids.
Because your uncle is the "boss" - no matter if you like it or not... he is the one in charge. You are not. Once you are out of his household, you can do as you please. But until then, you need to learn to shut your mouth and take it... You can't get to the top without starting at the bottom.
No matter, advice and counsel from a respectable adult should be taken to heart.
2006-10-14 05:22:45 · answer #5 · answered by InnerBeauty28 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your age doesn't make you any less of a person, no matter what your age is. You do have to realize though that you do learn things as you go through life, so it is likely that there is a lot you don't know. I'm sure though, there is a lot of things you know that your uncle doesn't, just because he hasn't been exposed to it.
Stop having comfrontations with your uncle. Let him have his ignorance.
If you continue having problems with him, talk to your parents - put them in charge of setting him straight.
2006-10-14 05:04:34 · answer #6 · answered by Don't Know 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No. But this is the time to practice life. Learn to cope with situations, know it is not a reflection on you but on your uncle. It is his insecurities, lack of respect or whatever... Don't let anyone make you feel less, because you are not! You have your whole life to make a difference to the world, to your community, and the people you love... but first , love yourself, you are worth it.
2006-10-14 05:05:35 · answer #7 · answered by dollface 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't know how old you are but trust me on this one. The older you get the wiser you get. However, some older people are very impatient with the attitudes of children, especially since more and more children are growing up more spoiled, brattier, and bossier than ever. Regardless of the econo-socio status(es) they are being brought up in.
2006-10-14 05:18:43 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry you have such a oger for an uncle. My goodness, he really seems to be something to deal with. I would just try to ignore him without being disrespectful, sounds as though he is old and cantankerous. Poor old man. Youth is a wonderful thing, and everyone counts. Good luck and God bless
2006-10-14 05:20:37 · answer #9 · answered by ? 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your uncle must have had a bad childhood. Childhood is one of the best periods of human life. Perfect happiness and imaginations are the virtues of childhood. It is the only period in life when there is no pressure to work and love and affection can be received and shown to all.
2006-10-14 05:12:46 · answer #10 · answered by moghusai 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋