why do mentally ill persons get treated the way they do if they do something wrong they should be punished but not dead where do i go from here
2006-10-14 04:51:24 · 9 answers · asked by angel afraid and sad 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
first of all, I am sorry to hear of your loss...
I was a Detention Officer for 2 years and I have seen some situations that could have and should have been controlled a different way.
Was his death a result of another prisoner or an Officer?
What was his charges? (if you don't mind... it could have been the "trigger" of the abuse).
When I worked in the jail, we had a detainee pass away, but it wasn't from abuse, it was from a heart attack. Either way, losing a prisoner is one of the 3 golden rules that you don't want to happen in a jail...
My advice to you is have his death investigated, see if the situation could have been handled in a different way... then if you see that it was the jail's fault... hire you a lawyer and sue...
I'm not one to sue, but I know of a few Officers that get the "big head" once they put the uniform on...
Best of luck to you... May God Bless
2006-10-14 05:00:28 · answer #1 · answered by yellow_rose_in_arkansas 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You have my deepest sympathy.
As a parent, who has lost a child, I understand your grief. I am not just talking out of my hat.
It takes many years to heal from the shock and sorrow. Even after many years have passed, you will have to cope with the 'grieving process'. (Please look this up on the internet)
There are several stages of grief and you go through them at different times. One of the stages is anger, and that is probably very strong, because of the way your son died. What happened is not fair and dealing with that is so difficult, as his death was senseless.
As for where to go from here. Hold fast to the ones who love you. Cry all you want... You have something to cry about. Don't repress the hurt; let it out. Seek a professional counselor. Mental Health is a good place to start. If not there, your MD can refer you to a good therapist.
To abuse a mentally ill person, is something I can't comprehend. It would be like beating a child, in my opinion.
Since you did not say who exactly killed your son, I will not prejudge, as to what I am thinking here.
You must seek legal help. Don't let the killers go without paying. You owe that to yourself and your child.
Again, deepest sympathy. There are millions of parents trying to cope with the death of a child. Remember you are not alone. There are groups that you can get involved in like, "Partners in Grief". This could be helpful.
May you find peace and justice.
2006-10-14 05:15:38 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Depending on your Spiritual Beliefs (if you have any at all) can REALLY aid you through this tough time. However, think about the relationship the both of you had, and the great times that you shared it can make you feel closer to him. Grieving is fine, it is normal and happens especially in situations like this, just don't let it control your life, you will experience good and bad days but because he was your son, it may take longer and hit harder on certain days/events.
Take Care
2006-10-14 04:59:23 · answer #3 · answered by Breann 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to see a solicitor who can get all the reports that are available to find out exactly how his death occured and if it could have been preventable.You need counseling to get over this tragedy ,it is going to be a long and painful process for you but there is always light at the end of the tunnel,although you may never come to terms with your lose but you may learn to cope better.
2006-10-14 05:23:49 · answer #4 · answered by candyfloss 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
McLennan County, Texas
Mental Health Commitments Courthouse
757-5166
Try contacting some local organziations which work as advocates for people with disabilities and/or mental health issues.
http://www.txadvocates.org/ta/
http://www.mhatexas.org/
I'm very sorry to hear of your loss. My prayers are with you. That is very unfair what happened to your son. Please take care of yourself and be strong for yourself.
If you need someone to just talk to try a search for grief counceling in your area. I typed in Texas because I think that's the state you are in.
http://www.hospiceofeasttexas.org/grief.htm
Take care, I'll be thinking about you and praying for you.
2006-10-14 05:04:03 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am very sorry to hear about your child . I have physiological problems which have mental symptoms. My way of saying mental problems .I don't like the term because it's all chemical. Losing a child is to hard to be fixed ,I've had two friends who have lost children.One of them got involved with MADD which seems to have helped her. Maybe you should try getting involved with groups about the illness and abuse of people with it. You seem to be very understanding of it
2006-10-14 05:02:09 · answer #6 · answered by jinxy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A very touchy subject and definitely a question that requires proffessional guidance from a Clergy or other qualified source...
2006-10-14 04:57:46 · answer #7 · answered by RiverRat 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
To your nearest lawyer. I am sorry for your loss.Mentally Ill people are just that. ILL. Illness. .Attack on mind, body or soul. what happened was wrong.
2006-10-14 04:55:03 · answer #8 · answered by amylr620 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Contact a good lawyer and go from there.
2006-10-14 04:54:22 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋