please advise
2006-10-14 04:26:53 · 38 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First, he shouldn't be your fiance anymore. Find a friend, relative, roommate, whatever to get out of that enviroment. It will only get worse.
2006-10-14 04:28:40 · answer #1 · answered by ? 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Sweetheart if he's only your fiance now and he's being abusive, what do you think he'll be like as your husband. My advice to you is to get out while you can. Theres no need in marrying someone that you know has a problem. If you know this man is not treating you with respect and being abusive theres no need in you furthering your relationship. There are always places you can go. Theres family or get a place of your own. I hope this advice helps.
2006-10-14 19:46:43 · answer #2 · answered by Wendy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to get a way girl and FAST!!
Okay so he's only got little control over you because you're only engaged, wait till you're married, thats when he will get really abusive!! Okay you're trapped, nowhere to go. If that's the case then go to a hotel, somewhere where he won't be able to find which room you're in, you're gunna have to end this relationship before its too late. Call a friend, ask for help, whatever.
If he's already got to the stage where he wont let you out well make up an exscuse, say you're meeting a friend? and just leg it!
2006-10-14 04:39:35 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your fiance is abusive you've got to get out of that relationship. Don't marry the guy. Being abusive is something that won't go away in time. Go to your parents or friends, preferrably both. Don't get mixed up any further with this guy, you'll regret it for the rest of your life. Just remember, there's no changing this guy. If he's abusive to you now, he'll always be abusive to you. You never have to settle for someone who hurts you, trust me. There are good men out there. I know because i'm one of them.
2006-10-14 04:35:10 · answer #4 · answered by brambo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A lot of times the one being abused feels there's no place to go cause they're afraid their abuser will track them down. But being with someone like that will only bring unhappiness as well as harm to you. Make a plan, stick to it and get away from this person. Good luck.
2006-10-14 04:32:52 · answer #5 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no friends or relatives that you can go and live with try going to a shelter. There is no shame in using a shelter - the shame is if you stay with the abusive guy.
Most large cities have shelters for women to go when escaping an abusive relationship. Do a search for "Women's shelter" and add your city's name or the closest big city near you.
Good luck.
2006-10-14 04:31:57 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If you really have absolutely no-one to help, kick him out. It will be really hard but give him a taste of his own medicine.
There are some good support groups for victims of domestic violence, who can advise on hostels etc where you can stay until you get sorted out.
Best wishes and don't let the b*stard grind you down.
2006-10-14 04:31:40 · answer #7 · answered by Kate 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I married someone that became abusive when I was sick mentally and it destroyed my whole life and self-esteem. We have planned to divorce and will be going our separate ways as soon as possible. You should do the same, don't make the same mistake I made..."GET OUT NOW WHY YOU STILL CAN"!
There is a lot of help out there for people like you....
2006-10-14 04:30:41 · answer #8 · answered by billyboysblue 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
There are womens Refuge centres or homeless welfare who can advise you.Contact them through the phonebook. Get advice in advance and have a plan and things ready in a suitcase somewhere incase you need to get out fast.
2006-10-14 04:48:54 · answer #9 · answered by xbkw46 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Leave anyway. If you don't know of a abused women shelter, contact your local church or police department. You should also get a protective order. No man or woman is worth staying with that is abusive.
2006-10-14 04:30:38 · answer #10 · answered by tweetie 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Unanimous here.
No matter how low you are, how little money you have and how few people you can turn to, my bet is he's aware of this and this gives him the control he abuses.
It's all off. Go. Get your life sorted, and soon you'll meet someone decent and will have forgotten all about him.
Good luck, and have a nice life.
2006-10-14 04:40:05 · answer #11 · answered by jinz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋