Some thing totally unwanted happened 2 months ago. She got pregnant, n now she's taking it away from me whenever I ask her cuz she's afraid of being in the bad situaton she had been before after pregnancy. Even condoms don't persuade her. She just says she can't do it any more :( I need it and don't wanna betray her. How can I convince her while she already knows this is a NEED, specially for me? She's got along with the situation but I can't! the bad effect of it on my career is inevitable as well. PLZ let me have ure precious words. By the way, she loves me and says she's gonna make up for it after marriage, which is at least in 2 years!!!
2006-10-14 04:19:13 · 13 answers · asked by Sadi 1 in Arts & Humanities ➔ Philosophy
Well she has valid concerns. Just wait awhile. The more you push her about it the more she will get upset and resist.
Besides if you really love her you will respect her desires to wait for awhile. It is not going to kill you to wait for her to be ready again. It may feel like it is going to kill you but it wont and you know that.
2006-10-14 04:33:32 · answer #1 · answered by pj_gal 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to understand that the problem is not with her, it is with you. Why is sex a NEED for you? She has got pregnant before. She is obviously scared of getting pregnant again and it is very natural. In fact, your beloved is the right one. Why take risks before marriage?
I know you are a man and that monster within you is waiting to explode. But be patient till marriage. Meanwhile, I would advise some other hobby to keep your mind busy and understand your beloved better. Talk to her taking her view point also in mind.
Oh, and marry as soon as possible.
2006-10-14 04:25:50 · answer #2 · answered by Anshu 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Marry her asap, don't wait those two years. I mean what's the use of such torture when you really have better things to do together? So get on your knees, or whatever your custom is and ask the woman to marry you tomorrow or at least as soon as a wedding can be arranged. Those who can't make it in the coming two to three weeks probably miss the wedding party of the year.
Best wishes for the both of you.
2006-10-14 04:24:50 · answer #3 · answered by groovusy 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Romance! I mean smother her in it!! Women are emotional and can be insecure when pregnant and lots of romance and security might warm her up. Talk alot about the baby and do all the 'unmanly' baby things like feel the tummy and all that goo. Then add more romance and rosy talk of the future. And get married now. Whatever you are waiting for can be established in marriage! Good-;uck to you both!
2006-10-14 04:39:26 · answer #4 · answered by Brianne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Some of her reaction doesn't make much sense to me, but there's a simple solution.
Since she's pregnant and you both really love each other, why wait 2 years. Wouldn't it be better to walk down the aisle without a baby in your arms?
Why wait, marry her tomorrow !!
2006-10-14 04:30:48 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hear an awful lot about you in this. I understand it's difficult but if you love her you will be patient . try focusing on her emotions and fear instead of your desire. If you put as much effort into helping her feel more comfortable and secure with you as trying to convince her she should then you probably won't have to wait two years. as for cheating there are ways to relive that urge yourself.
2006-10-14 04:31:19 · answer #6 · answered by joann p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I beg to differ with the others, marriage is a poor justification for having sex. If you do that, you're only marrying her for the sex. I say find a hobby or distraction, talk to her but don't pressure her, and for now, stick with your hand.
2006-10-14 04:29:49 · answer #7 · answered by boo! 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The best way to convince her is to not ask for it anymore. Wait until she is comfortable again. It will not take two years, but as long as you persist she will continue to resist.
2006-10-14 04:23:57 · answer #8 · answered by konala 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As I see it you have three choices: wait, find someone else, or get married NOW. You have to decide, but talk to your 'beloved' not us yahoos out in answerland.
2006-10-14 04:28:11 · answer #9 · answered by megalomaniac 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
find another girl to ... then act like nothing happens
2006-10-14 04:34:45 · answer #10 · answered by rredrumm00 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋