Should I let my Daughter stay at her boyfriends??

Question

My daughter is15 and has recently got a new bofriend, should i let her stay over at his house, they are both 15.

Answer 1

NO!!! Nothing may happen at only fifteen and his parents may be good and all but what are you teaching her? Teach her some standards. She should never stay over night at a guys house. never, never, never Do you want her living with guys when she's out on her own because this is what it would teach her. Definitely not!

Answer 2

I'll tell you now that I'm answering as a child about the same age as your daughter, so you know what point of view I'm coming from.

There's no harm in your daughter and her boyfriend being at each other's houses; they do need time to get to know each other better. As every parent says "this is the beginning of a big part of life." If she is only with her boyfriend while also with other people, she'll not have had any real experience by the time she is old enough to be on her own. If your daughter is responsible and you trust her, no harm can be done by letting her have time alone with her boyfriend. I seriously doubt they would do anything they shouldn't be doing, and if she is the kind of person that would, you would probably know already.

On the other hand, are you talking about letting her stay the night? If that's the case then no, don't let her go. Again, I doubt she would do anything, but the idea of her being alone with her boyfriend at night while everyone else is asleep can make the temptation stronger. That would also take away from the relaxed, casual feeling a relationship should have at that age.

If you trust your daughter to use good judgement with anything else, let her use it in this situation, too. I mean, use common sense, but if she says her boyfriend is responsible as well and you already know she is, don't question her. She wouldn't be with someone stupid and then lie to you about it.

Answer 3

If I ever asked my parents to stay at a boyfriends house when I was in highschool, I would have gotten slapped across the mouth. That is total disrespect to you and your daughter if her boyfriend would even want her to ask you that.
What exactly do you think they will do if she spends the night..?
No good will come of this, besides a new baby on the way...

But not just prenancy, sex and trust are the main issues here, you also have to consider the fact that they are both teens and nothing lasts forever. Most guys that age are into sex and sex alone, and most of the time if they don't get what they want, then the next day at school, the rumors will break loose. especially if they break up and the boyfriend decides to tell everyone what happened and more.

I've watched this happen to so many girls when I was that age. As soon as they break up, the boy spreads rumors and they will have that hanging over their heads till they graduate.
So you dont want your daughter to come to you and say: "mom I wanna change schools because all the boys are calling me a slut"
It happens everyday.

Answer 4

If you have a strong bond with your daughter than yes!. Like u actully trust her and she aint playing you and being nice and sucking up... why not... but if u have no trust in her and she is beggin you no.... its all about the trust u have with her!! this is a tuff situation... im wishing you the best of luck!!

Like already said it is a very tough decision and this is said because you want to be her friend and guardian and if you say no you may loose that friendship. You have to know her and what she is capable of doing. Have you trained her and taught her what is right? This is between you and her. Is her boyfriend a good influence? Is there any supervison. Make sure you get to know the supervisors and hwo respondible they are> Good luck

Answer 5

Depends. I assume you are talking about spending the night.

So, it depends on if your daughter has ever given you reason not to trust her. Also, if you know the boys parents and are confident that they will be supervising and will enforce a separate room at night policy.

Overall, though I think it matters most about the trust level you and your daughter have reached. If they really want to do something. separate rooms won't stop them and at some point they will find a way.

So, bottom line. Talk to her. Make sure she is aware of the consequences of her actions. Not just physically either, emotionally. Going farther then you should at a young age can be emotionally upsetting later on...after a breakup or even after the action and the reality has set it.

Answer 6

As a sister of brothers, I can honestly tell you that even the "perfect" 15 year old guy, is struggling alot with hormones and a confusion of right,wrong, and what's "ok". To me, if he doesn't have enough proprioty to say "no" himself, to a girl spending the night, then I wouldn't say he is responsible enough anyway.

Do you really think that this is something you want to portray as "ok"?

For your daughters sake, and and speaking as a teen myself, please consider you daughter enough to know when it's best to "say no"! She's confused (even though she won't let you know it) and she's wanting to feel mature enough to show you she knows how to handle things (even when she doesn't). Pull back on the reigns mom, she'll thank you a billion times for it later(maybe much later)!

I think back over the past couople year (age 13 - 15 was the toughest concerning my identity as a person), and I think of how tough it must be to be a caring mom. Especially when you love your daughter and want her to confide in you and be her friend. Right now she is still growing. You need to help her grow in responsible understanding first.

Answer 7

Stay over as in spend the night??? No... I remember wanting so badly to spend the night at my then boyfriends house when I was 15. I would get so mad at my parents for not letting me. But, if we did spend the night together... all we would do is have sex. That's the truth. So, if you dont want her to be having sex... I wouldn't suggest it.
If you are asking about staying over during the day, thats fine as long as his parents are home... (even though we would still end up having sex during the day too.... looking back I have to say "what were my parents thinking!?!?!")

Answer 8

No! No! No! Take it from someone who let a friend of my son live with us for a month. At 16, my daughter became a mother. And my son dropped this guy as a friend because this guy took advantage of his friendship and hospitality.

They are going to find enough ways on their own to be alone. Giving your consent says that you don't care what they do and might be taking away that edge your daughter might be counting on to keep saying no - because "my parents would have a cow".

Answer 9

No! NO! NO!!!

This is crazy--what would be the purpose of her STAYING at his house? Why should she even go there AT ALL?

Kids can do their dating at the mall, while volunteering, and in other wholesome, public places where they can interact and be seen at all times by community members. They don't need 'alone time' to 'get to know one another' as that usually results in risks for sexually-transmitted diseases (including AIDS), pregnancy and other unwanted outcomes.

Thanks for asking the question and good luck!

Answer 10

My mom shall we adult men stay all of the time , extraordinarily because of the fact of my brothers having acquaintances over. i don't see a concern with it sice she's on beginning administration and theyre saying in 2 seperate rooms. in simple terms supply them some regulations here and there approximately what can and cant ensue.