I want another baby...but?

Question

my husband doesn't. We have been married for almost 2 years and have an 18 mnth old son, I feel that it time for him to have a brother of sister, he needs someone to play with because he has alot of energy. My husband says its too soon, but i think while my son is still young they will grow up together. Is it wrong to expand my family?

Answer 1

It is perfectly normal to want to expand your family. I agree with your husband though. It's too soon for another baby.
Do you really want two in diapers?
My sister gave birth to her son (second child) when the first child was barely two. It was too soon. She wishes she waited to become pg then the baby was three. You can enjoy your son for a bit longer before the second one comes along. No matter how much you tell yourself I will have time for them both YOU DON'T!

Answer 2

The only time it's wrong to expand your family, in my opinion, is if you cannot care for another child or if you're some sort of child abuser. It's YOUR family, after all! Perhaps you should "set a date" with your husband to have another discussion about it - say, after the New Year, you two will sit down and decide when expanding your family is an option. It's a two way street, but if he doesn't want any more children at ALL... you have bigger problems than family planning.

Answer 3

No not at all. My daughter is 2 and we are wanting another child also. When my step-son was just one we were trying to have him a sibling. So no its not wrong to want to expand your family. Try bringing other children around your son and let him see how much better and happier that your son is with a play mate. If he still dont want another child give it awhile. I did and now we are actively trying for another child.

Answer 4

You'll want to look this up (and get some more involved answers), but I read something interesting recently about subsequent children being healthiest -- and Mom being healthiest -- if one waits at least two years, but not longer than five years, after the last baby.

re. "Is it wrong to expand my family?" -- no. Having siblings has been nothing but positive for me. That said, there're much larger age gaps in my family, and that wasn't a bad thing, either; I was initially less than thrilled to lose only-child status.

Answer 5

There is nothing wrong wanting to expand your family but your husband needs to agree with the idea, since but of you will be responsible for the new baby.

Answer 6

Listen to me I have a 8 year old girl and a 18 month old boy and if I could do it all over again I would have not waited 7 years to have my next child. They get on each others nerves constantly. Trust me it's much easier if they grow up together they can better relate to each other.I am working on my third one as we speak I refuse to end up with a 18 year old and a 10 year old.

Answer 7

I think that you should start trying again. My husband and I were planning on having our kids about 18mths apart. But when we found out that we were expecting twins, well lets just say, that changed. Now we are expecting again(it was planned). Our twin girls are 3yrs old and I am two months pregnant. Only my twins don't know yet!

Answer 8

PLEASE respect your husband's feelings on this one. you know... it's really nice when you don't have two in diapers at once! i have children that are a little over 2 years apart, both boys and they have ALWAYS hated on another BUT, i had my third child when the second child was 4. EVERYONE love the younger one SO, i think it's better to space them a little bit further apart!

Answer 9

I can see your point, but I wouldn't do it against your husbands will. That is sure to cause some strain on the marriage. Did you sit down and tell him your side?

Answer 10

Hmmm. Is there a financial consideration? Your hubby could be feeling the pinch of money issues.