My girlfriend broke up with me about 3 weeks ago. She says that she was so hurt about a time that I broke up with her a couple months before that she was never able to get that loving feeling again and broke up with me. We didnt speak for a week and then a went to her house to get some stuff. We ended up going out to a movie where she hugged my arm all night and told me she was having so much fun. At the end of the night she said she just wanted to be friends, which threw me for a curve ball based on how the night went. Its been two weeks and we havent even spoken. We went out for three years. I am starting to miss her so much but something tells me that I would be making a big mistake if I called her since she is the one who broke up with me. My best friend said that I shouldnt call her and that he thinks shell be calling me within a month and to resist the urge. He even took not of the date (sept 30) to check back in a month and see if I called her. I want to talk to her so much
2006-10-14 03:48:45 · 5 answers · asked by Daniel C 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I dont want to look desperate by calling her first. I have ok days and bad days when I think about the whole situation, but think I am handling fairly well. How do I keep in caontact with her? Is it wrong to call her first? I have been thinking about writing her parents a letter telling them how much I loved them because I never got a chance to say bye to them and we had a great relationship. Is that a good idea? Thanks
2006-10-14 03:58:09 · update #1
And yes I do think she has trust issues
2006-10-14 03:59:05 · update #2
Right now where not even talking so its kinda hard to say if where even gonna be friends. My real delema is tha I really miss her and want to talk to her but since she broke up wiht me I dont want to sabotage any future relationship we might have be cracking, calling her first, and looking desperate.
2006-10-14 04:53:25 · update #3
dont call her find someone else who enjoys being more than friends
2006-10-14 04:17:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend probably knows how much this is driving you crazy so he's trying to protect you but at the same time it doesn't always mean what they tell you to do is the best solution to the problem. I'd just call her and tell her you would like to speak with her and discuss the reasons you both had broke up with each other. Then tell her how you actually feel about her and see if there's a way you can work thru this problem so you can be together once again. Either way if you get back together or not you will at least know you did all you could to make it work out and it may help you to deal with whatever way it goes.
2006-10-14 11:19:00 · answer #2 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just be a friend for now. If you push her for more you might lose her completely. Friendship can be a basis for a later romance, or can be a great thing in itself. If you like her, accept her in your life on whatever terms life gives her to you.
And don't hurt her again. Just being friends for a while will give you both time to think. You should think about why you broke up with her before and whether you really want to be with her of you just like the idea of it. She'll be thinking about the same thing. If you untimately decide you really want to be with her, but she decides otherwise, accept it and tell her so, give her a hug, and go back to being friends.
2006-10-14 11:47:38 · answer #3 · answered by John's Secret Identity™ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Supposedly, the reason she broke up with you is because you broke up with her first so now she has trust issues. Her faith in you had diminished. So if you want to try to get her back, then call her. Maybe shes just scared. You cant really blame her.
2006-10-14 10:55:28 · answer #4 · answered by JC 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dont
2006-10-14 10:50:57 · answer #5 · answered by sleepwalker69 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋