okay i have this best friend (girl) and about a month ago she told me thinks she might be bi, but shes not sure. she said that she can see herself kissing a girl but not a guy. but she cna see her self doing it with a guy but not a girl.
she is always joking around that she likes girls and stuff, and she does stuff like touch me just to freak me out, i mean i dont have problems if she is bi, but i still feel uncomfrotable when does that.
how should i act when i she does that?
how sould i react when she says things about being bi or somethign like that??
what should i do to help her 'discover' if she is bi, or whatever?
she is always saying i act weird when she says stuff like that
what should i do .
2006-10-14 03:32:53 · 6 answers · asked by sarah m 3 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
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2006-10-14 03:33:16 · update #1
i think i worded this wrong. she knows it makes me uncomfortable and i tell her to stop and she does. she just sometimes does it to make me mad. but thats not what i really want answered. i want to know like what i should say when she says something like oo i like her , or i want to go out with her, or something like that. she says i freak out . i dont think i do, but all i ever say is something like thats nice. im not sure what to say. and i DONT have a problem with her being bi, if she is .
2006-10-14 06:25:01 · update #2
What's important in the situation is not that she might be bi, but that she's your friend. Whatever her sexuality, she's still the same person, so why should your attitude change? If you don't want her to touch you, tell her that it bothers you; imagine if she were a male friend of yours hitting on you, wouldn't you tell him off for it? The discovery is one that she has to make on her own, nobody can tell her if she is or isn't. When she says stuff, just react how you feel. If it's so big of an issue that yo ucan't feel comfortable around her, I feel bad for you two, because it means that you've decided that her sexality is more important than your friendship.
2006-10-14 04:03:43 · answer #1 · answered by techwiz2000_2000 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should be clear that you are not bisexual. Just because she's your friend does not give her permission to make you feel uncomfortable. You can help her by finding out places she can go, or events she can get involved in. Most area's have PRIDE celebrations and even have special informational tents for GLBT youth.
Since it doesn't sound like she has any experience with either gender, its possible that she's bisexual but will eventually lean one way or the other. She won't know that until she's old enough to start having relationships with other people.
That person does not have to be you and don't let her use you in a way that you do not want.
2006-10-14 11:24:45 · answer #2 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She may be teasing you to get some emotional response from you. If you are best friends she may have formed a crush on you. It is best to tell her you want to remain friends but you are not curious at all about women. You want to be her friend and know she is in a confused situation. She has formed attractions on both genders but you have not. That you will someday have a boyfriend and want the two of you to remain friends and you wonder if that will be possible. Tell her you are making yourself fear the friendship because you are afraid she may think there could be some kind of romantic friendship between the both of you, and you have know plans or desire for this, but love her as a friend and want to remain friends as well.
2006-10-14 20:45:13 · answer #3 · answered by ishelp4 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Darling! Just tell her that touching me like that really bothers me,but don't over react to anything she does cause more then anything she is just playing a roll. Pre-tending to be bi. there is nothing wrong with standing your ground .
2006-10-14 12:51:00 · answer #4 · answered by ♦GAY INDIAN♦ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you just let her be like she is and deal with it how you think is right for you. you can't help her "discover " if she's bi, you said u don't like when she touches you....
see it all depends how you stand to homo- or bisexuality.
If you have no problem with it, talk about cute gals n guys with her...??!!
2006-10-14 15:30:13 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't ask people how you should 'act'. Just be yourself. Do what comes natural.
2006-10-14 10:39:52 · answer #6 · answered by fluffyorangekat 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋