First time pregnancy and know nothing about it?

Question

My friend is pregnant and does not know anything about being pregnant, except That your period stops coming. she is maybe 5 months pregnant & is hiding it from everyone so she doesnt go to the doctor or to classes for pregnant women and does not have that motherly help. Can you please write back the most important things she needs to know, like how to lay the baby down when she/he is first born etc.... you know the really important things

Answer 1

Well the first really important thing she needs to know is that she seriously needs to go to the doctor. So many complications can arise, especially during her first pregnancy, that can be easily fixed when caught early. On the other hand they can be easily fatal to her or her baby if left untreated. Secondly I would recommend getting a step by step pregnancy and infant care book. You can get them at any local library or book store. They will tell her what to expect during each month of pregnancy and each month of her baby's newborn life. They were really helpful to me. I used them with all five of my kids. But the one piece of advice that I give all new mothers is to stay relaxed, because the baby will sense your tension, and to keep them swaddled when they are first born. (That means to keep them wrapped up tight in their blankets like they do in the hospital) This will keep the baby feeling safer in its new found world. But please urge your friend to see a doctor. She can even go to her local health department and they will help her get the medical attention she needs without contacting her parents. Her life and her baby's life could be at risk!!!!

Answer 2

Your friend needs to think about the baby and not about herself.

You cannot learn from forums like this, or from books alone, how to care for a newborn. You have to be taught by other people. You can snap a newborns neck on accident, or drop it because theyre so small and wiggly and damage it completely, you can feed it wrong and it wont develop right.... so many things can go wrong for that baby just because your friend is too afraid to let people know she's pregnant.

Everyone is going to know she's pregnant when she has a baby. So why not get the information and care she needs now.

You can best help your friend by encouraging her to grow the hell up and go see a doctor. There are free doctors for poor or underaged people.

Answer 3

she really needs to go to the dr for her monthly check ups. while every thing may seem fine she needs alot of blood tests done and check ups for the baby. that is not safe at all. what is she gonna do have the baby at home all alone. but all she needs to know is lay the baby on it's back to sleep always. be very careful with the baby's head and read books to the baby make sure the bath water isn't too hot and that they need to drink baby formula about every 3 hours or when they cry for it. don't give the baby baby fod or any thing besides formula until the baby can hold up its head good and sit up a little bit on its on. she should be able to do it and if she can't just read a book or search the web and print some papers for her. good luck

Answer 4

The most important thing is that she goes to the doctor for prenatal care. She needs to know the things to stay away from while she is pregnant, and she needs lab work done. I know it is scary to tell someone you are pregnant, but you have to. Everyone's going to find out soon, anyway. Prenatal care is VERY important. For the baby's sake, she needs to go to the doctor.

Answer 5

She really needs to go to the doctors or to the health department,
infants that dont reacieve prenatal care are more likely to die in
their first year of life if not given the proper prenatal care.

She needs to get more calcium and she needs to be taking prenatal pills (go to walmart and buy some for her)

she also needs to stop drinking and smoking if she does.

and considering that she isnt seeking any help... my suggestion is that she should take the baby to the emergency room or a police station or a firestation and drop that baby off, so that someone can take care of it.

Being a first time mother is frustratiing and if she isnt smart enough to get the prenatal care for her and that baby, she doesnt need to be taking care of it.

Answer 6

what she really needs to know is that it is irresponsible to not let people close to her know and that is irresponsible to not be seeing a doctor she could be risking her and her unborn childs life this is not a game and if she is grown up enough to be pregnant then she should be grown up enough to deal with the pregnancy responsibly. And something tells me people will find out she will go into labour and have a baby eventually and that would be a very hard thing to keep a secret

Answer 7

well i can tell you one thing if she dont take her butt to the doctor she aint gonna have a baby to bring home cause the state will jump in and try to take it cause prenatal visits are very important and the state takes it very seriously when a mother does not get prenatal care. as far as all the other stuff goes being a mom is half learning and half nature . what doesnt come to you , you will learn along the way .

Answer 8

She needs to go to the doctor ASAP, she is being irresponsible. If she already doesn't care about the well being of her baby now, who's to say what she'll be like once he/she is born. That baby should be taken from her the day she delivers.

Answer 9

There is clinics that will help they will keep her visits private, she can get medical help and they will help teach her what she needs to know. Look in the phone book for Social Services they should be able to help. If she is very young or not married she needs to consider abortion very strongly. And think about involving a trusted family member they can give advice.

Answer 10

Tell her to try going to pregnancy weekly. com and to try pregancy a to z website. To late to not tell anyone. She really should go to the Dr. Face the music. Get it over with so she can be sure of the well being of her baby and herself. I would be upset that my daughter didn't tell me when she found out, but I would angry if she waited 5 months! You can also buy a book called What to expect when you're expecting. by Eisenberg, Murkoff and Hathaway. One of the best books you can buy. Goodluck and best wishes.