I get along much better with men than I do with other women. Why is this? I try really hard to be a good friend and these women or "friends" of mine always seem to screw me over. I treat my friends like gold and every female friend I've had has taken advantage of me and showed that they are not trustworthy. What's up with that? With guys, they are easy to talk to, they are up front and honest. They don't try to sleep with your boyfriends!!! Also, why is it that guys make really great friends but can really suck in a relationship?
They call me monkey cuz I'm curious like George and was just wondering if anyone had some insight.
2006-10-14 02:17:03 · 13 answers · asked by Steph 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
Friends are like relationships, you have to shop around before you find some good ones and you might get burned in the process. Start a friendship out casually. You can tell a lot about a person by just spending time with them. Eventually you will learn to read them better. For example I recently met a girl through some other friends. To make a long story short. The first time just her and I hung out I noticed she had to have the attention of every guy on her. If someone would try to talk to me she'd get his attention. I know from that experience that though she is a nice girl, she's definately someone I'd hang out with only with the gals, and would never introduce her to my bf or guys I have interest in.
I have different levels of friends. Some who are casual that I will go out dancing with and have drinks maybe hit a movie, but I would never ask for advice or count on them for anything. Then I have my few friends that I do trust and count on, but it took me a while to find them.
2006-10-14 02:39:03 · answer #1 · answered by Ericka 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, it's almost like we are just alike. I totally understand where you are coming from. Just about every female friend I have had has screwed me over. It's really hard to find somone that you can really talk to especially these days.The truth of the matter is I have learned you can't really have a true girl pal, because there is always that competition there. I almost always get taken advantage of then I wake up one day and say wow how did I get this way, letting all my friends walk all over me. As far as guys go, they aren't competition, unless they are gay of course, that's why they are better to talk to. Most guys are straight up and honest not all the b/s us girls put out there. Also when guys are in a relationship there is more pressure, when you guys are just friends it's more fun, they won't get jealous when you check out another guy, and so on. Just enjoy your life rather or not you have female friends or not.
2006-10-14 02:31:25 · answer #2 · answered by alleybug_2003 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I've got da same problem too. Actually it isn't a problem. Many of my close friends are guys and I enjoy their presence. I do have girlfriends too, but they aren't as good as how the guys are. U know, like when it comes to trustworthiness. Girls can be big blabmouths, they gossip a lot, and they can become very jealous of one another unlike guys. I can freely tell my troubles to my guyfriends than to my girlfriends because they take da time to listen. You also hav to make it a point not hav a lot of friends coz in a world like today's, all are not trustworthy. I've just got 3 very nice guyfriends and one girl for a wonderful best friend. I feel this much is enough for me. Coz a lot of friends can mean trouble. So, u're lucky that u've gotta lot of guy friends than girlfriends. Enjoy their companion. They are much better, I'll tell u : )
2006-10-14 03:02:05 · answer #3 · answered by Sk8erGurl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's really funny because I have felt the same way. Men are just so much easier to get along with, but then you have a relationship with them and everything goes wrong. Women just have a tendency to be so jealous of each other and compete like crazy. It's so annoying!
2006-10-14 02:20:57 · answer #4 · answered by toobusy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
maybe your trying to hard. relax and be yourself around the women. treating them like gold.......sounds like a bit over board there. its both give and take. cant' give to much and cant' take to much. give it another chance. i would guess you give to much and get nothing in return. cause your always giving. unbalanced. i can't say for sure whats going on with these women....cause i haven't heard there side of the story. like bread........theirs always 2 sides. you sound bitter about it. maybe let go of that and try to approach it in a different respect. this could go way back to your child hood on why you get along with men then women. don't' comparison shop one for the other. your categorizing every single women in one category and all the men in another. treat everyone as individuals and get to know them on a more personal note and don't' put to much out there right from the get go.
2006-10-14 02:26:42 · answer #5 · answered by Jody SweetG 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
sometimes, its better to have guy friends than girlfriends, mostly women get so competitive and jealous, and high maintenance. Some of us we originally have 3 best friends, but mostly only have one really bestfriend, coz its hard to have a lot of gf because some of them just use you or screw you up. Me i have alot of guy friends coz they are easy get along, like whe you want to meet them or ask what do you want to eat and where, they will say i don't care. so on so forth. so don't worry, you are still normal. be happy and have fun! goodluck!
2006-10-14 02:25:38 · answer #6 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I got the same issue 2... My best and close friends are all guys.
I manage to have 1 woman friend. My mum simply could not understand 2. I also can't understand why i just can't click with girls.
2006-10-14 02:30:26 · answer #7 · answered by Sob Sob 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I found that men are alot more straight forward, easier to get alog with and trust. they also treat there friends better especially female ones. i totally understand.
2006-10-14 02:21:31 · answer #8 · answered by barbie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I bet that you get along better with guys because they like you and you are really pretty! This is really normal because my brother only has girls who are friends and they like him!
2006-10-14 04:12:59 · answer #9 · answered by Alyssa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I get the same sometimes! its sort of like invasion of space and they might threaten you or judge you and your walls go up just like cats do!
2006-10-14 02:21:07 · answer #10 · answered by Cokie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋