how do you deal with the lack of "miracles" in your life: no one to fall in love with, not getting the job you want but you're trying as much as you can, your "friend" is only with her boyfriend, your family life's not nice, etc...
2006-10-14 02:03:05 · 5 answers · asked by Fuzzy_lop 1 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
the only miracle you need is the courage to take control of your life and change it. Surround yourself with new people, new experiences, new interests,.... and once you do that, new opportunities for dating, jobs, friendships will follow....
2006-10-14 02:26:46 · answer #1 · answered by just_me3575 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most aspects of reality go through phases. It takes an expansion of the self to ride out the phases. To breathe in the miracles of life one must first exhale. The better the exhalation the better the fresh inhalation that brings with it new miracles that one truly had believed would never return.
One thing I have learned during these dry, dull, tedious phases is to let go most of my own desires at that time and just look at things around me exactly as they are. I am always amazed that it is precisely during these dull phases that I can most clearly see the lives, the souls, the yearnings, the feelings, the 'miracles' of others. This helps with the challenge of discernment. Not everything you see is pleasant. It takes a strong gut to see things for what they are rather than what we wish they would be.
Gradually, by adding more and more of what actually is to the scales, eventually things right themselves and the 'miracle' again increases.
During the exhalation there can be pain. One author once said there is no great birth without a great pain.
There are no real remedies for this miserable phase when reality seems to really "s...". But that is the secret. It teaches you to stop and catch a glimpse of things exactly as they are. You see people and critters and institutions and religions, and jobs for what they really are. Often this yields enormous emotional pathos and empathy. You can feel yourself reflected in all creatures everywhere. This can be the start of a new spontaneity. At that instant it is possible to encounter new relationships, new situations. But even then, nothing can be forced. All you can do is stay alert and marvel at the miracle of the cycle, the alternation between dark and light, love and despair, having and not having, going and not going. Then you find that caught in the alternation itself is everything that exists, everything that you ever really wanted or really yearned for.
One important thing to remember, however. At exactly the point when the despair or despondency reaches a peak of intensity, do not add insult to injury. Try not to injure yourself or another through any sort of self-destructive outburst. So, obviously, somewhere inside you have to have faith in faith. You have to be able to go down to nothing and not break. You have to believe that you are going to re-expand like the light that bursts out from behind black clouds after a storm passes. In the end you can believe it because it's real: receiving and giving; giving and receiving. And on it goes.
B. Lyons
2006-10-14 09:49:02 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
When reality bites, follow your dreams. If you want something badly enough, you must first conceive it and believe it, before you can achieve it. It's really simple. First, you dream about the life that you want. The world is perfect in our dreams. Next, you must live your life as you picture it in your mind's eye. To do this, you must believe it yourself. The mind is a powerful thing. Use it.
This must be done before you can achieve anything that you really want. Stop worrying about other people and their issues, keep trying to get your dream job, prepare yourself for it. Hone your skills now. If you want friends, get on myspace and have celebrities as your friends in cyberville. We can create our own reality. The power is in each of us. Use it!
2006-10-14 09:33:51 · answer #3 · answered by classyjazzcreations 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
believe in yourself first b4 other people believe in you! don't try too much have fun once in awhile and keeping beliving taht God has a plan for you, or better God is just too busy writing the best love story - your love story
2006-10-14 10:09:03 · answer #4 · answered by beng_ganda25 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't give up and start praying more for an miracle
2006-10-14 09:11:07 · answer #5 · answered by barbara b 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋