My ex-boyfriend always does what his mother says!
If she wants us to break up, he thinks he has no choice but to do it; screams that I was going to be there for his family birthday party for him-so he sent me home (saying he didn't want me to get 'hurt'!) and when his mother doesn't want him to be there when she takes me to court over stuff she's made up-and he can say they are not true-he doesn't because he is 'scared'!
I have also heard he has always had the hots for his older and only sister of the 4, and one day he didn't stick up for me when she was being a b.itch to me and couldn't stop staring at her and also took his arms off me to be closer to her-plus the new baby she had he acts like it's his, and he was also very upset when he was first told he couldn't see it (his mum tells everyone I beat her up, when really it is the other way around! Obviously she is mentally sick and her age doesn't help!)
He is turning 20 and he said he was serious about his engagement!
2006-10-14 01:35:35 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
And HE is the one that has been to court and been in trouble with the police before over false accusations from demented people-NOT me!
He is more experienced-so why was he more afraid? (He got nothing in the past for the things, btw!)
And why can't he be supportive?!
2006-10-14 01:39:21 · update #1
He says he wants to get a job (and hopefully not get fired for once! Btw, he doesn't care about that happening because he knows in the end his mum will look after him!) and save up (which he CAN'T do! He spends each $700 paycheck STRAIGHT AWAY!-ALL on take-away/junk food and heaps of expensive video-gamers. It's like he wants to stay at his not-so-great home for life! He has NEVER saved ANY from ANY of his quick jobs! He doesn't care about having or even starting a life savings!) to get his own place (yet he always makes excuses why he can't even stay at his dad's, brother's, sister's, cousins' or friends' for even one night! He NEEDS HIS MUMMY!)
He expects evevrything to be handed to him on a silver platter!-and he knows it and has admitted to it himself!
He can't get over being the fat baby of the family!
He never wants to do anything important for himself let alone for me!
He makes promises he can't keep and he is scared of EVERYTHING!! Why??!
2006-10-14 20:04:05 · update #2
Should I ever forgive him??! Can I ever trust him??! (He is a compulsive liar that has no respect for me because he keeps bullshitting to my face ever after he promised to try and stop it!)
And if so, When?
What do YOU think I should do about him?!
What do you think I should DO to him?!!
2006-10-14 20:06:14 · update #3
PLEASE ANSWER EVEVRYTHING!
2006-10-14 20:06:40 · update #4
Is it just me, or did he really not know the definiton of marriage?!
Did he think it meant committing to his mum at rough times?!
He always thinks it's okay to run away when things get bad...
2006-10-14 20:35:46 · update #5
Why are you wasting time wondering about all this when he is an ex?
You don't want a mamma's boy so just forget him!
2006-10-14 01:38:25 · answer #1 · answered by Angela 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Somebody is very IMMATURE, I'm not sure who it is here but, it's time for you to move on!!! It's turned into a big D R A M A , who needs that? Step back, maybe he can see your not playing or maybe you will get a clear view and decide to let it go. I think it's become a contest between you & her and he must be the prise. You will never have a good normal relationship if you can't get along it really deoesn't matter if you are right or not. sometimes you just keep your mouth shut to avoid conflict, that makes you the better person. It is self-discipline. If you were going with someone else and stayed into it with his mother too, it would be the smae thing all over. Find you inner calmness before it's to late!!!!!!!! You are not helping the situation, that is his mother know matter what, & he loves both of you. Give him a break, some other nice calm young lady might snatch him up and then you will loose! LIFE & FAMILY SHOULD BE HARMONIOUS.....
If he is in trouble with the law then his MOMMY is the one who will help him get out of it like always, he is going to stick by her till he gets out of this mess. STEP BACK AND LET IT HAPPEN, maybe she can help. then he will be right back by your side.
2006-10-14 08:39:14 · answer #2 · answered by char__c is a good cooker 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you know what? This is a simple & easy way to deal with your situation: cut your losses & move on with your life. There are so many other things out there in life to think about & I have read your previous questions, sounds like you should really just move on with your life & put your energy into something/someone else. Sometimes, no matter how much we dont want to have to turn around & walk the other wway, we have to , it is always for the best. Just forget about him hey you can find someone better with a much more normal family life than your (key word here) EX!!!!
2006-10-15 01:23:04 · answer #3 · answered by Mrs D 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
not a good idea, try to give him a pep talk, that his mom will be asking you permission if its ok to help in certain situation. Don't let her ruin your relationship, you can talk to her too about your feelings for her. If she doesn't listen to you, screw her. Move to another place. much better. if he truly loves you, he will do he can to compromise. And also, don't let any man touch you in violent way, NEVER! you deserve better. goodluck!
2006-10-14 08:44:14 · answer #4 · answered by sure_whatever_29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Find someone else without any problems. He has too many issues to deal with and looks like you're just another issue he'd rather not deal with too. Find someone else who's family will like you.
2006-10-14 08:41:03 · answer #5 · answered by babbles 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Count your lucky stars he is your Ex. As for the court case,, subpoena him! that's a court order that makes him appear in court!
2006-10-14 08:52:49 · answer #6 · answered by kitkatish1962 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you want to be apart of this madness...Get out of there...Ex-boyfriend or friend I don't know but I just don't understand why anyone would subject themselves to this kind of situation....
2006-10-14 08:43:44 · answer #7 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you mentioned that he was your x, and it sounds like you need to keep him your x as well as his family. Good luck with the mental relationship.
2006-10-14 08:39:48 · answer #8 · answered by Special K 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
my friend it is time you moved on otherwise you will be consumed and I think that you can do better get out while you can
2006-10-14 08:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by trvrrhds 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋