problem with trusting people, help?

Question

see, I have trouble trusting anyone. If im talking to someone on the internet and they say "Oh you look pretty in that picture" or somthing along those lines, I always assume its someone I know trying to trick me and I block them immeaditly .Or if im talking to just a best internet friend I always assume that im going to run into them despite the fact they dont even live in the same state and so I always have my hood on and different makeup that any of my pictures... Other times when im at parties or just at school, people ask me out and ask me to dance but im just so paranoid that theyre going to try and play a joke on me so I always say no and totally ignore them until I leave or school year is over. I suffer from a mild case of Social Anxiety Disorder and its forced me to go into homeschooling and I have absolutely no friends at all. Im also an insomniac.Totally isolated. Can someone help me, please?? Thanks so much it means alot to me :]
<3 amy

Nothing "happened" to me when I was little either. I think that all this developed overtime with teasing and tormenting.
and some of you suggesting counsler-- im too shy to talk to anyone. I have had counselers,hypnotist,doctors and everything else try and help me but I will just sit there and stare and the floor. not move not talk just sit there and wish i was somewhere else. thanks :]

family details:
my mom accuses me of things I dont do and will often chase me into a room until i fall unto the bed and she will throw things at me until she decides ive had enough. She also suspects my dad of cheating so if I ever give her my opinion after she asked me for it, she always gets mad at me and will go physco..
my brother calls me *****,whore,slut,and everything else you can imagine, he is only a year younger than me (im 14).
and my dad occasionally gives me bruises and always blames whatever my brother does on me when my mom isnt home.
** I feel most upset by my dad and to get back at him i.. get piercings( I currently have 7.. 3 in my lip, 4 in my ears) and i cut up my skin wich i know i shouldnt do but its a stupid habit and it pisses him off and my mom doesnt simply care.....
btw, thanks so much for all the great answers. I would definatly go to a counsler but my mom would refuse to take me... thanks thanks thanks soo much you all rock<3 amy

Answer 1

the world doesn't want to hurt u or laugh at u..and even if it happens sometimes,this is something normal.people are different and have diff.opinions about things.
U are not perfect.Nobody is.u must calm down.the world is not conspiring against u.everyone has his/her life and his/her own worries.
did u ever think why are u lonely?i bet u did..
i think it's time u give your pc a little breake;have some quality time with your family,go out in a park,go fishing with your daddy,help mom bake a special cake,make them a surprise.your family loves u and they are the first u should trust in.consider them your best friends..and then..start talking to your collegues,see who has the same interests as u-maybe u like history,music,animals...etc.Other girls in your school may have the same tastes as u.Don't trust them totally from the begining,u can't go tell a stranger all about your life immediatly u met him/her.go shopping with your new friends-see what they like,know them better.Tell your opinions about anything-let them know you..they will start opening they're souls in front of u..then u can do the same.about the internet...what can i say?It's not real life!so go out and be real,girl!and remember that what does not kill u,it makes u stronger.many will like u,many will not.u will be hated but u will be loved.while there is a balance between these,it's going to be fine.
life is beautiful,go live it!

Answer 2

You are already on road to realise your soul. You are in touch with your feelings. You know what you are feeling. You are not making any excuse for it. That is the first step that you have taken. Recogonising that you have an emotional issue to address. There is no need to go to a therapist. Just be in touch with yourself. Go back to your childhood days. Try to recollect when did you have similar feelings. What was the scene like. Then in your imagination try to change the feelings. Feel more comfortable. Do it till the time you stop having those feelings while going back to your childhood. Soon you will start having those soothing feelings in your real world also.

No body but you know your childhood better. Only you are in position to help yourself. If possible, try "Pranayaam", an indian form of meditation. You can search for same over net.

Answer 3

Generally in public, people don't want to show or advertise their imperfections so that they CAN make a new friend. The fact is people lie about themselves to create better images of themselves. It's a fairly common occurence. What you need to do is, if you make a new friend and you generally like the way they are but you are worried about of they are lying you just have to accept the way they're acting so that they can open up to you and reveal their true selves. Because the fact is they only act that way because they don't trust you to be an accepting friend yet and to share in the secrets that they aren't proud of. So you just have to accept the way they are and trust they will be honest with you as you get closer to them.

Answer 4

go to some counselling. go see a mental health counselling centre. no advise really over the internet is going to do anything for you. you need to sit down with someone where you can create some sort of dialogue with that person and they can get to know you and be able to help you pin point were you need to work on with your issues that brought you to this place. maybe you need some medication as well. who knows. i'm not a doctor. but i do work with people who have mental health issues. and i also get social phobia. its alot better then it was. so i know what you mean by social anxiety. look up were in your community you can go to. call them and ask them question you may have.
ie: confidentiality....wait list. things like that. most people will tell you maybe to cheer up or build yourself esteem. but its more then that. you need to be able to talk to a peron about it. rather then a blank screen with faceless people.

Answer 5

I think a professional guidance counselor would be able to help you trust people again and get you out of isolation. Wish you the best. Sorry, I'm not a professional and haven't heard anything about how to deal with your problem, therefore, I suggest counseling.

Answer 6

well this may or may not help u but i think you should prob try to find someone to talk to either someone u know or maybe try talking to someone on te internet at least u dont have to worrie about trust while u talking on the net as long as u can find someone freindly to talk to it may feel better than going to councilers all the time there are some people out ther that like talking and making new freinds but dont feel bad try to be happy and find some freinds to talk to hope this helps

Answer 7

Pls talk to a professional. U need to gain the courage to take a step. U have any problems with the same gender?

Answer 8

i think guidence would help you a lot .. there job is to talk to you.. they like doing it and once u got to know him/her it will become easier to talk to them. for that interenet thing... just if anyone like comes up to you and is like hey we were talkig online just deniy it and be like what are you talking about that.. make it seem like someone got a hold of your pictures on the internet and be like haha you were prolly talking to some 40 year old that wants to rape you lol... make them embaressed... and like i think there might be pills that u can take to make u more outgoing... take baby steps to get out there.. when ur in a store ake a step to say hi to someone or make eye contact with someone or help someone out.. try getting a job working around oters might make u more socialable... good luck!

Answer 9

hi, i have a friend like that, it will ruin your life seriously, ask a friend to go with you, you don't have to trust them. You don't have to do something that will give you panic attack, just take it slowly. Give yourself an agenda, like what you want to do today, you want to go to the grocery store, but you are scared. Try just go with your friend and just look around when you get panicky just get out. take yoga it will help you, try little by little. trust me

Answer 10

you cant fix this yourself, you have deep seated emotional issues. Seek therapy from a professional.