2006-10-14 01:06:23 · 49 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
tell your mom and dad you are pregnant is the first step. their is adoption out their if you arent ready for a baby yet. we adopted our little boy when he was only 6 wks. between your mom and dad and your boyfriends mom and dad you both will have alot of help raising the baby you are pregnant with.
2006-10-14 01:18:00 · answer #1 · answered by mama 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You should think long and hard before you get yourself pregnant. Babies are expensive. They need a lot of attention and tending to. It's a lifelong commitment. Once you have a baby, you're a mom for the rest of your life.
I felt like you when I was your age. But I'm glad I didn't have a baby then because I wouldn't have done as much as I have. I graduated high school. Went to Europe. I'm in college and I work full time. And yes, now I'm pregnant, but I'm at the point in my life that I can take care of my child.
Ask yourself, if you got pregnant, where would you live? How would you support yourself and your child? Most jobs won't hire a 15 or 16 year old. How will you finish high school (if you do at all)? And if you don't, what kind of job will you get without a diploma? Will you go to college? Can you handle all of your money going to your baby, rent, and food, and none to you? That's just a few things to consider. Teenage pregnancies are harder on the girl's body. Sometimes things get torn and it takes longer to get your pre-baby body back. Just, please really think about this. No 15 year old is ever ready for becoming a parent. Those that end up parents have to grow up very very fast.
Try to wait until you're at least out of high school. 2 or 3 more years and you may be able to take care of a baby. Right now you should worry about taking care of yourself and finishing school.
2006-10-15 06:30:21 · answer #2 · answered by Shelly 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The female body is capable of having a baby at an even earlier age than yours. Being physically ready just means that your body could 'cope'. This is not the same as saying it would be a sensible, easy or correct decision for you to have a baby. I remember getting a bit maternal when I was 15 or so. I wanted to find a baby in a bush or some other such ridiculous scene, but I'm afraid at that age it's similar to wanting a cute kitten or a pet hamster! What you think makes you emotionally ready is the desire to have something small, controllable and fun to show off. Babies are not really any of these three for long.
I'm not going to patronise you but it would be really silly to have a baby at your age. You have plenty time and lots to learn to make you a better mum, also think about your own parents and family. How would they cope? where would you live etc?
Take care
2006-10-15 07:17:13 · answer #3 · answered by crabbit 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It must be difficult to deal with your emotions right now. If you are longing for a baby your feelings should be taken seriously. But, the adult solution to this problem is to realise that you're no where near ready to have a baby to look after. They take over your life and even though you love them they can seriously make your life quite miserable too from a practical point of view because they demand all of your time and are very selfish and relentless little human beings. At your age you should be getting to know who you are as a young adult and not sacrificing all your time to put a baby first. Go out and enjoy life and, when the time is really right, you will look back on this time and realise you were right and made a very sensible and mature decision as an intelligent 15 year old to wait for a few years.
2006-10-14 01:23:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
cannot understand the question either but why in the world would a doctor tell you @ 15 your body is ready to have a child thats just wrong and believe me from someone who knows you dont want a child that young you will lose out on your friends your social life and any number of other things you can think of that you might enjoy those will all be gone you need to be a kid first before you decide to have a child thats the best thing a mother can give a child is to wait till she's old to have a child so she can live her life first.....just wanted to add that if you want to be around babies or children so much babysit after school and that will also show you how difficult it is to take care of them
2006-10-14 01:17:57 · answer #5 · answered by *CiTsJuStMe* 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Honey, your body may be ready to have a baby, but at the age of 15, you are not mentally or emotionally prepared to do so yet. There is still so much of life you have yet to explore and learn about. Please take the time to do this first so that when you do have a baby, you won't look back later and say "Gee, I wish I had done...gone...seen...". Live your life first while you can because having a baby changes it for ever.
If you are looking to have a baby as a way of getting someone/thing to love you unconditionally, you really need to re-examine your reasons. This is not a healthy one.
Can you support a baby on your own? Where will you live? Will the baby's father be there for you and the baby for the rest of your lives? How will you handle the medical costs of having a baby? How will you handle the rest of the financial aspects of it: diapers, formula, clothes, crib, toys,etc.? What will you do when you want to go out with your friends or go see a movie? Who will babysit? Family and friends will only do so much for you.
This is not a good idea, please talk to a counselor about your "need" to have a baby. They should be able to talk things over with you, and hopefully you will rethink this.
2006-10-14 01:24:39 · answer #6 · answered by Laurie K 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Continue to mature into an adult by getting out with your friends and doing teenage stuff.
If you have a child now, in five years time you will look back and resent having missed all the great things others of your age have done while you were having to stay home and look after another child.
My sister had her first chlid when she was 17, convinced she was ready, and it was a disaster she is still struggling with now, 30 years later.
Your doctor was being very factual as a physician, but not very responsible as a grown up, when he told you this.
2006-10-14 01:19:34 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
For yours and the babys sake, DO NOT HAVE A BABY!!! yes, it is hard when you have a miscarriage, but the worst thing you can do is to get pregnant again. 1, your only 15. your not even legally old enough to be having sex, so no doctor should be teeling you your 'ready to have a baby' because, to be honest, you really am not, phisically, emotionally or finacially. 2, How are you going to support it? 1 or 2 weeks attention isn't enough for a baby. They need constant love and attention and support, and they need this from their mother. Your mom won't appreciate you dumping a baby on her because, if she really wanted that, shes hav a new baby of her own. 3, Are you really sure your boyfriend will stand by you. You mentioned you haven't planned for a baby, so that tells me your b/f is happy enough without a ship load of responsibility on his back, and even if he says and promises he'll stand by you, trust me, not many teenage boys will stick to that, and not long before, or just after the babys born, they realise they can't cope and arnt ready for it, and tend to do a runner.
So think to yourself before you get pregnant. You and your boyfriend can't even get your own place to live before your 18, and as your having problems with your own family, you can't raise your child in that enviroment, and I doubt his parents want to be woke up every 20mins throughout the night, and I doubt you will either. You cannot possibly support a little baby, and give it the life it deserves, so, even though you feel you really need one, put the thought to the very very very back of your mind, and sort your own life out before you ruin a tiny innocent life. If you have any other feelings apart from the selfish ones you have for yourself, you won't have a child for a good 10 years.
If you can't see things for yourself, think about the effect it'd have on your boyfriend (I assume you DO love him), your family and friends, and eveyone else.
Don't do it. You'll regret it for a long time (but not as much as everyone else involved will) Sort your life out and start having some fun.
2006-10-15 14:31:28 · answer #8 · answered by Amy D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dont have a baby a 15, the doc you that your body is ready but he/she never meant for you to go out and get pregnant. You will ruin your life, i know a few people who have babies and they are 16, and they can just about manage, they need a lot of love and attention, and they are definatly not a toy, cos believe me you will get bored after a few weeks and want your parents to take over cos you want to do your own things. They need a lot of commitment. So dont get pregnant now wait a few years because you might change your mind and decide that you dont want children. Just think about all of those people in the world who can't have children, and there is you at 15 pregnant it is selfish. Plus look at all the children in the 2 world countires who are dying and crying out for a mother and father and just a bit of loving each day. you will seriously get bored so my advice is no babies until you can afford them and a re really really sure. Just wait a few years there is no rush.
2006-10-14 01:39:48 · answer #9 · answered by Lauren 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
what kind of doctor did you see? for a start you are too young to be having sex, let alone wanting a baby, you need to do some growing up first you are still a kid yourself, go out and have fun for a few years with your friends you are not mature enough to be tied down with a baby, they are a lot of hard work, do your parents know you are feeling this way, if you want something to love, GET A PUPPY leave having a child for about another 7 years enjoy being a teenager first, then you will make a better mother a baby is not something you can put away when you get fed up
2006-10-16 04:07:08 · answer #10 · answered by bluebell 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
We are talking about a child's life here, not about having a doll. Grow up.Are you ready for the responsibility of a baby? I am 26 and have 2 children ( I was 19 when I had my first) and although I love my children more than anything in the universe,I sometimes wish I had waited until I was a bit older. Live life a bit first.
2006-10-15 09:55:00 · answer #11 · answered by emma c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋