My wife is too involved with her family and not enough with me, what should I do?

Answer 1

I know exactly how you feel. My husband is very involved with his kids and I take a back seat. His kids hate me out of jealousy. We have custody. So the night that his wife has the kids I asked him to make a "date night". It has helped me, because I look forward to date night. I think his kids are brats and so does he, but I can't say that. I told him that it is time that in 5th grade they cut the cord and stop being so clinging to him. They even want him to brush their teeth. I think some times they want us to get divorced so they have it back to the way it was. I think most women are mothers first and wives second. They never think how much they are hurting their spouse. Hang in there. I'm the only one that disciplines these brats and they have more respect for me than they do their real parents. May God be with you.

Answer 2

I would try and arrange it so that you have at least one or two nights/days a week together for some quality time, just say to her that you miss her company and arrange a romantic evening, seduce her all over again, flowers, little love notes, breakfast in bed.
You dont say why she is spending more time with her family, have you thought about going with her??

Answer 3

for what this is worth, coming from a single woman.....
Don't attack this problem in generalizations, or try to limit her time with her family -- instead, try in increase her time with you. don't allow her to view this as a competition, or you will lose, because you are the one forcing her hand, making her choose. Decide what you WANT from her -- not what you DON'T want her to do. For instance, if she always dines with her family, instead of saying "you always dine with them. i need you to stop doing that all the time".....say this "i would love to have a special dinner, just the two of us, on Mondays, Wednesdays and Fridays. Can we have "us" time then?" or "Let's make Saturday 'our day'! Plan that day each week -- giving you both something to look forward to....etc. quietly replacing what is bad for you with what is good for you both...that's the secret, i think.

Answer 4

The key to a good marriage is communication. Try talking to her. Explain how you feel. I'm sure that she don't realize what is going on. Don't let this get out of control, resolve the problem as soon as possible. Good luck!

Answer 5

make her understand that u are also family and the most important thing for u 2 should be YOUR family,the one u have built together,based on love,trust and respect.Tell her u need her,that YOUR family needs more care and attention..because in time,without all this,it will just fade out..and this would be sad..do something nice to remember her that u love her and NEED her CLOSE to u..because u are HER FAMILY now..

Answer 6

it is you r life and you need to start being honest with her about how you feel. You need to talk to her and ask her what is important to her and go from there. I know easier said then done.... but look at it this way.. would you rather know now where you stand then after 20 yrs of marriage and heartache.. find out and get your life in order..

Answer 7

Talk to her. Ask her if she is still single or married? A married woman clings to her husband and forsake all others........remember the wedding vows? Tell her you feel neglected and if she doesn't change for the better you might have to think about divorce.

Answer 8

Get involved with your own family,and let her see how it feels!

Answer 9

Leave for a few days,see if she notices you've gone. Maybe then she'll be ready to talk,but you have to remember that her family are important to her and were there before you came along.

Answer 10

Try getting involved with them too, to be included. If that doesn't work, talk to her, she may not realize how you feel.