Ok so I get this phone call from my sister, and she proceeds to tell me that My BIOLOGICAL father (whom has never been a part of my life) had told her in a conversation that he didnt think any of his children EXCEPT HER were his.... He told her that he wanted me to take a bloodtest to see... Now my problem is I am 35 and he NEVER paid my mom a penny of child support. He was never a HUGE factor in my life. I have my stepfather and he has been my dad for as long as I can rememeber. My dad dropped a few names and one was his brother. I called my uncle with my moms permission and he denied it... In fact he said he knows i am his brothers. But theres this other name my dad put out there. My issue is Should i do the blood test, He dont deserve to know was never a father anyway. Or would I be stabbing my mom in the back if I contact this other person? I dont know what to do. But No MATTER what my mom is my mom.. This i do know for sure. HELP PLEASE!!!
2006-10-14 00:35:48 · 14 answers · asked by Stacey The Birthday Girl! 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Being a Father is more than just having a penis and being able to get someone pregnant. It is being there for you when you are going through difficult times as well as the good ones. helping you to deal with the world around you and guiding you to be able to live a happy and productive life of your own. It makes no difference who donated the sperm. Your Father is the one that was there for you. All you have to do is look back on your life and you will know who that is. If someone can't offer anything more than sperm to a relationship he has no claim on any other part of it.
2006-10-14 00:47:22 · answer #1 · answered by Theodor 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Blood tests, in most states, won't stand up in court. He and three billion other people have the same blood type. It can't 'prove' he's you father, but it can rule him out in some cases.
Dear, you're 35 years old. He's not been in your life not even so much as to help support you while you were growing up, but your step-father has been you dad for ever, why would you want to rock a stable boat or let him upset your world?
Let the fart-head think what he will and keep him out of your life. He's probably lying to your sister as a means to justify his action of not paying support. Don't you think that if he thinks that now, that he'd have thought it then? Why didn't he want the test done then rather than wait 35 years? I really think he's just blowing smoke out his azz and is trying to cause an upset in the family.
Don't let him! You know who your dad is, he's been there all of your life and hasn't let you down.
If you want to 'prove' one way or the other, his paternity, then go for a DNA test. It's expensive, but it's also 99% accurate. But do it because YOU want to, not because HE wants you to.
As I said, you know who your dad is already.
2006-10-14 07:55:00 · answer #2 · answered by Lucianna 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First of all ask your mom to tell you what is true. Your father has not been a dad to you so I wouldn't bother to much with how he feels about anything. If you would like to know if he is your biological father then let him pay for the blood test and then take the test but if you could careless about the situation then tell that man that you have a father and to go suck on an egg.
2006-10-14 09:43:14 · answer #3 · answered by arieal g 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your biological father may be throwing out another name/names because at the time of your conception, he may have been suspecious of your mother sleeping with others (a jealous person). This may be the reason he never supported you through life. If your mother had done this years ago, he may have had more interest in you. (Just logical thinking from an outside source)
At your age, my opinion, it really doesn't matter. (unless it is bothering you.) If you should have it done and it should prove that he is not your father?????? would it change anything and what would it change. Maybe you don't want to know.
Just trying to think logically and no insult intended Good luck
2006-10-14 08:07:11 · answer #4 · answered by old_woman_84 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do the blood test. He was never a father to you before and from the way he's acting, he's not going to be one now. Your stepfather picked up what he threw on the floor just like a real man would.
2006-10-14 07:45:59 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
From what it sounds like, your biological father doesnt seem to be a very considerate person. If i wanted to mention it... I would mention to my mom what he is saying about her, in an outraged manner. And judge her reaction. If there is something she would want you to know, then she would tell you. Otherwise, you guys can laugh it off. This man already hurt your mother, if she thinks you believe him, wouldnt that hurt her again?
2006-10-14 07:40:58 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have no special feelings for this man, don't let it get to you. Have a blood test only if YOU need to know. Don't be a player in his silly game. He sounds as if he is just stirring up trouble. Ask your Mum about it ,you are a big girl now ,she may tell you.
2006-10-14 07:47:02 · answer #7 · answered by Cheryl K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could get a blood test but i wouldn't trust your biological father.. he's most likely trying to blame your mom though it wasn't her fault at all.. people like that piss me off.. just reading this makes me hate that man.. if it were me.. i wouldn't trust him.. see people like him think so much of themselves that they try to pin every problem on someone else.. one day he'll get a reality check and realize that he's to blame.. i'm sorry that you're in this situation.. i'll be praying for you
2006-10-14 07:41:54 · answer #8 · answered by comemychildren 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is really bugging you to know, I'd go ahead and take the blood test. BUT keep in mind that anyone can be a father, but it takes someone special to be a DADDY!!!!
2006-10-14 07:43:23 · answer #9 · answered by Tazmanian Debi 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask your Mom how likely his story sounds. He may be playing mind games and suggesting your Mom slept around. If you do the test it should be for YOU not him.
2006-10-14 07:39:08 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋