hi, i am a 27 yr old married man from past few months.My wife is 24 yrs old.I am very lucky to get her as my wife.She is a nice girl and we respect eachother a lot.i love her a lot and i know that she too loves me.But my problem is she is too shy in bed and does not co-operate me to fulfill my sexual desires.She feels very uncomfortable when i kiss her and i find her shivering when i hug her and try to make love to her . She does not complain or tells anything about her problem but somehow i want her to make her feel happy and comfortable with me in bed.I am really worried about how can i make her ready so that i can enter her.pls help me
2006-10-14 00:19:56 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Do you come from a conservative culture? I know in some cultures, girls are taught that sex is painful and it sounds like your wife may have been taught that. It might help if you can have her talk to someone you both trust like a married sister or cousin. It might also help if you go very slow. If you go very slow, however, she won't bleed. If you are expecting her to bleed that can also be scary for her. Use your finger initially till she is stretched, over the course of a few days or weeks, and trusts you. It won't be painful then. You also must wait till she's ready for it not to be painful.
2006-10-14 00:29:23 · answer #1 · answered by tyreanpurple 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I suggest you just cuddle her sometimes in bed and not have to have sex. As it is now she thinks you just want sex everytime you cuddle her, this can make a woman feel like there is no mutual respect. Teach her that you love her first, it's important that there's love first, just love her the sex will eventually happen.
A little secret here, I am 56 years old an love lovemaking,but for the first five years of my marriage I hated it, it was an invasion of my body, my whole being. Go slowly and Good Luck
2006-10-14 01:26:12 · answer #2 · answered by Cheryl K 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'l tell you a secret my friend-sex is betwween the ears for both sexes. You have to make love all day. Start in the morning with a suggestion."Honey I sure am looking forward to this evening so we can be together because I enjoy being with you." Buy her sexy lingerie and try to get her drunk a little,put on some mood music and make sure the tv is off. Don't rush your love making,slow,gentle,softly. Always stop if that is what she wants. You have to have self control and tease her to make her want it. When momma is happy you will be too.
2006-10-14 00:31:18 · answer #3 · answered by super stud 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wonder if she was a virgin when you got married.....or maybe she just doesn't have the experience enough to let go and that its alright to enjoy it...also there may be an underlying problem there emotionally.....a bad experience that has affected her... She may not be comfortable with her body...sit down and have a conversation with her not in the bedroom though...and if things doesn't get any better you may want to suggest that she seeks some counseling....Good Luck
2006-10-14 00:26:39 · answer #4 · answered by Mechelle 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your wife must of had a bad experience with sex at one time in her life. Maybe even when she was young and doesn't remember it. She really needs to talk to someone about her problem .You sound like you are very gentle with her and have tried to help and she must love you -she married you. Try to get her to talk to a professional. Good luck to you and your wife.
2006-10-14 00:28:59 · answer #5 · answered by snowflake 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would she be receptive to counceling? Has she been abused sometiime in her life? Maybe you can just start out with the small stuff and get her comfortable with that. Even if it's just snuggling. Lead up to what you want. You can't make her if she doesn't want to. Marriages have been annulled because of this.
2006-10-14 00:33:50 · answer #6 · answered by lazycat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O gentle man, shyness is the symbol of great love. She loves u but u dont understand. She wishes that u may get her felt about sex a lot. After feeling her alot about it ,u and she will enjoy a lot but after a foreplay may get at least a half of hour. Love her she likes and do that,but dont get shyness.
2006-10-14 00:29:58 · answer #7 · answered by ali a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you ever think about sitting down and talking to her about it? Maybe she's inexperienced and scared. I'm sure if you both Love each other as much as you say, you can work this out. Ask her what she wants from you and take it slow...it will eventually work out for the best.
2006-10-14 00:25:46 · answer #8 · answered by Doug 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-19 09:17:45 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-10-14 00:25:34 · answer #10 · answered by sm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋