he went home after a couple of weeks, worried about friend, says he is trying to get her and her five kids into his country, the guy only has casual work, the country he comes from gives no welfare help for 2 years, my friend cant work kids to small. is she in for a hellish ride
2006-10-14 00:11:22 · 10 answers · asked by angleface 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
ya know there is every chance she will never see him again...
good chance he thought marrying her would get him residency in her country..... and he has discovered it wont... so has done a runner
if she does go to his country with her five children there is a good chance he will expect her kids to look after one another while she works to provide for them.... I'd be surprised if it was any other way.
2006-10-14 18:41:23 · answer #1 · answered by wollemi_pine_writer 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wish you'd said more, like where's he from, where's she from, how long did they know each other before marriage, are any of the kids his kids? I can only make a few guesses. She's definitely not from China. Nor from the Orient, except possibly India. She's definitely not Muslim, nor he. If his country offers welfare, but only after two years, that could mean he's from Europe, or a country in Latin America...With five kids and unmarried, she's either African or from Latin America. Am I getting warm? So, I guess he's either from Canada, Europe, or ? And she's from Latin America or possibly the Philippines?
Anyway, a guy gets married to a woman with five kids and then leaves after two weeks. He says he's worried about a friend. I'd say he got cold feet. He goes home because he's worried about a friend? I'd say that the friend was himself. That he could just hop on a plane and return home, just like that, means a Western country.
Let's just take the case of someone in this situation from the US. To get the wife and kids into the US, he's have to have more than just casual work. He'd need to prove he could support a a family of 7 people and not let them become a ward of the state. If he was from Canada and was trying to get her in there, he'd have to make a deposit of big dollars showing he could support his family for a year (a whole year) while they got skills and could find work. Canada wouldn't let them in just so they could go on welfare.
How did your friend support herself and her five children before she got married? She's better not give up that way.
I don't know the facts and can't judge people on incomplete information, but I'd say she's in for a hell of a ride. So is he. No country is going to let them in just so she can go on welfare. No one is going to let them into a country if the man is only a casual laborer without assets and a steady job. I'd say he skipped out--but I can't understand why he ever got married in the first place--and he has no intention of coming back. Sorry, but that's the best I can say given the facts that you stated.
2006-10-14 07:33:48 · answer #2 · answered by Pandak 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Gullible....I won't use the put down of calling this person stupid. Actually the intelligent one was the foreigner that went back overseas after the honeymoon was over. He sold your friend a bill of goods....and she took the bait HOOK LINE AND SINKER!
The friend he's probably worried about is his other wife and his other kids!!
Your friend needs to seek legal counsel and have this SHill SHAM marriage annulled!
2006-10-14 07:17:11 · answer #3 · answered by aunt_beeaa 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say she is in for a 'hellish' ride...
The best thing you can do (without your mate getting mad at you- it's actually none of your buisness) is just to be there, help your friend with her kids.
Put yourself in her position. Then explain to her what you would do.
2006-10-14 07:14:02 · answer #4 · answered by x_Super_Social_Superstar_x 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What was she thinking? This guy used her to get whatever it was he needed to be her country. Tell her to start filing for abandonment. He never should have gone back to his country without her and her children. He probably has another family there and told them he was on business. That was a bad choice.
2006-10-14 07:28:52 · answer #5 · answered by GrnApl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your friend has been "screwed" big time. He is on his way to getting a green card at her expense. So sad, but it happens. He has no intention on coming back until he has to or to bringing her to his country. She needs to get a job, take care of her kids and get this marriage annulled ASAP.
2006-10-14 14:37:35 · answer #6 · answered by older&wiserforit 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell her next time to introduce her kids first then get married
2006-10-14 07:38:05 · answer #7 · answered by canuticklemepink 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think the "friend" is his ex and the kids are his.
2006-10-14 12:10:24 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEAH BUT IT DEPENDS IF THEY LOVE AND HELP EACH OTHER OUT HONESTLY AND TRUTHFULLY STRUGGLE WILL MAKE THEIR RELATIONSHIP STRONGER AND WHO KNOWS THEY GOT LUCKY SOMEDAY AND BE RICH IN EVERYTHING..
2006-10-14 07:16:12 · answer #9 · answered by livinhapi 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Please present your case better.
2006-10-14 07:15:38 · answer #10 · answered by x_squared 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋